After We Got Married My Sub Husband Decided To Turn Dom, Without Ever Discussing It

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KentMaggotuk

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Hi guys, would really appreciate some advice please

Like I said above he changed over night after we got married and didn’t even tell me the truth of why he refused to let me top for over two years, so I bottomed in that time thinking any sex is better then no sex.

But his penis where it was 2inches hard but with a huge helmet always just either hurt or felt uncomfortable....I only thought it was okayish it if I was on top. He was a big guy like 24stone so even being small he had quite a fuck on him and where his helmet was so big it really wrecked my hole and most of the time where he was so small he couldn’t stay in so it was just constant in and out till he come!

Anyway fast forward four years and I haven’t topped properly yet as when ever I have tried he always said it was too big, which is ridiculous as the boy took it every day for five years before some times a few times a day.

But anyway his turned to ball torture and putting me in a cage to Shrink me down his size when we first started dating 2inches

I have shrunk down to three inches but he still won’t let me fuck him, there’s always an excuse. But he will fuck me every night like a Dom and where his last a lot of weight his like 5inches really thick with a massive helmet!!!!

It’s the best sex I have ever had and his so good at it, all be it he fucks as deep as he can and he does as much damage as he can, whist abusing my size and making me call him daddy His really rough and is a hardcore Dom.

Where as when we got together that was me, anyway we have kids together and I love him and don’t want to split up our family (it’s been shakey since he turned top! Four years guys I mean come on

My question is as gay guys knowing how hard it can be to find your person out there and then be blessed enough to have kids, should I leave and finally get laid or commit to being a sub?


I know this is a blood essay and VERY specific but I dunno what to do any more lads I’m desperate and it’s that kinda gay situation that straight people wouldn’t get the whole top/bottom sub/Dom thing. But sex is sex and we are all human we all need to get laid.....righhhhhht???
 

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Oh lord! What have I just read?

I don’t know where to even begin. First your husband’s cock was 2 inches when he was heavier. Now his cock is 5 inches after losing the weight? And your penis shrunk down to 3 inches after marriage? I don’t think that’s how penis works!

Then you said your husband would fuck you every night but you want to leave him to finally get laid?

I need therapy!
 

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I know it’s literally airing it out....

He lost a lot of weight and his cocks got a lot longer.

I guess with four years of not getting laid (me topping) and being fucked nearly every night with the only cock attention I’m getting from him his violent on my nuts and my dick happens to be there too. It’s shrunk down three inches
 

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Honestly, no one knows the answer but you... but it sounds like he was grooming you from the beginning.

Do you want the overall situation to change and are you comfortable with confronting him at the risk of upsetting him? If the answer is yes to both then talk to him. If no to either then it's totally up to you as to what to do next.

Just my opinion .
 

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Being in a monogamous relationship is basically agreeing to meet each other's sexual needs.

To me, it sounds like his needs have changed (there is nothing wrong with that) and you have accommodated that change but he isn't reciprocating by meeting your needs.

So if he is too stupid to not compromise, then your next choice is to suggest an open relationship to save the relationship and keep stability for the kids. If he doesn't want to compromise and doesn't want open then ask him what you are supposed to do if you aren't having your needs met.

If it was me, I'd have a die on the bedside table. Odd numbers you dom, even numbers you sub.
 
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Being in a monogamous relationship is basically agreeing to meet each other's sexual needs.

To me, it sounds like his needs have changed (there is nothing wrong with that) and you have accommodated that change but he isn't reciprocating by meeting your needs.

So if he is too stupid to not compromise, then your next choice is to suggest an open relationship to save the relationship and keep stability for the kids. If he doesn't want to compromise and doesn't want open then ask him what you are supposed to do if you aren't having your needs met.

If it was me, I'd have a die on the bedside table. Odd numbers you dom, even numbers you sub.
Thank you fella, really appreciate the advice, I will put it to him like that....I suggested the other day that it’s been four years and it might not be tomorrow or next month or next year but if I’m still not having top sex then I might start looking else where...not that I want that....I just need to get laid
 

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Thank you fella, really appreciate the advice, I will put it to him like that....I suggested the other day that it’s been four years and it might not be tomorrow or next month or next year but if I’m still not having top sex then I might start looking else where...not that I want that....I just need to get laid

Don't present it as an ultimatum as such. Just express how you feel and that you have needs too. Get him to come up with a solution and see if you can agree.

If he just shrugs his shoulders and is selfish then that's when you need to evaluate the longevity of your relationship.
 

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Don't present it as an ultimatum as such. Just express how you feel and that you have needs too. Get him to come up with a solution and see if you can agree.

If he just shrugs his shoulders and is selfish then that's when you need to evaluate the longevity of your relationship.
Thank you Brodie I will try again fingers crossed, I don’t think I’m being unreasonable