Age difference in the bi/gay world and unwanted attention

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Hey guys,

There is a 18 year old uni student at my gym who wont leave me alone...he has been hitting me up on my socials too and keeps approaching me in the gym. Im 32 and weirded out by it. I feel uncomfortable and really bad even talking to him now. He just wont accept no for an answer. His is just too young for me age wise. If I didn't know his age I would go for him as he looks much older and muscular but his told me his age and im grossed out now.

I could never look at an 18 year old girl let alone contemplate sleeping with her so finding out his age is also making me feel weird.

What is the go with age difference in the bi/gay world? He keeps telling me his an adult and its normal and he always hooks up with older guys. So I just wanted to know is this like a thing?
 

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I'm the same as you I don't like big age gaps, I get hit on by younger girls (I'm 32) and it's a hard pass and same with guys over 50, the guys at least were mature enough to accept the no, can't say the same about the girls.
 

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For me, it depends on what he wants. Like, romance? I wouldn't be in to that with an 18 year old (I'm 38). But if he just wants to hook up, then that's different. Hot twink dick is harder and harder to get the older you get, so when it presents itself on a silver platter, that's a hell yes. But I hear you, if its romantic I would not be into that either, way too much of an age difference.
 

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I don't see age as a big issue per se, if you are otherwise attracted to him, spend some time together and see where it goes. Lots of curious guys have interests in older men and I suggest this is normal- older guys are usually more confident in what they do and who they are, and subconsiously or otherwise, younger guys see and align themselves with things and people they are interested in- sexual stuff included, so don't feel like a grub if you are both interested in guys.
 
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The thing to keep in mind is that you are not interested. The why is unimportant no means no. Hopefully he will learn that, however it is not your job to teach him. While everyone else response here is also valid they appear to want that attention for someone like that you do not. Your valid for not wanting it even tho others do.
 
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What is the go with age difference in the bi/gay world? He keeps telling me his an adult and its normal and he always hooks up with older guys. So I just wanted to know is this like a thing?
As a bi male, I've found age difference is definitely less of an obstacle and does not have, IMO, the same stigma attached to it. At 63, I find it quite a thrill when a younger guy contacts me on a hook up site, and the sex is usually amazing too.

As for your particular situation, like others have said, you need to have a clear cut conversation with him and hopefully he will get the message.
 

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As a bi male, I've found age difference is definitely less of an obstacle and does not have, IMO, the same stigma attached to it. At 63, I find it quite a thrill when a younger guy contacts me on a hook up site, and the sex is usually amazing too.

As for your particular situation, like others have said, you need to have a clear cut conversation with him and hopefully he will get the message.
I agree 100%
 

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Send him my way (65 here)!
Seriously... Just tell him (face to face) to stop if you're not into him. Tell him you prefer older guys. Simple.

Yes it's a thing.
Im in my 20s, my fuckbuddy is in his 60s, it definitely is a thing. I have never had an issue and never considered not once the age difference between us. Its a purely physical relationship we have, I enjoy being the bottom, he enjoys being the top and giving it to me. If both are consenting, then thats all that matters.

Truth be told, the age difference is a massive turn on. He loves it and so do I.

We knew the age difference before we first hooked up, it wasnt an issue before, during or now.
 

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As a bi male, I've found age difference is definitely less of an obstacle and does not have, IMO, the same stigma attached to it. At 63, I find it quite a thrill when a younger guy contacts me on a hook up site, and the sex is usually amazing too.

As for your particular situation, like others have said, you need to have a clear cut conversation with him and hopefully he will get the message.
Agree with this, definitely no obstacle, especially considering we met on silverdaddies. So we knew from the get go, what was going on.

As you mentioned, he loves the fact that I think he is hot and a great fuck and if the sex is good and consenting, thats all that matters.
 

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For me, it depends on what he wants. Like, romance? I wouldn't be in to that with an 18 year old (I'm 38). But if he just wants to hook up, then that's different. Hot twink dick is harder and harder to get the older you get, so when it presents itself on a silver platter, that's a hell yes. But I hear you, if its romantic I would not be into that either, way too much of an age difference.
Thats a good point, myself and my fuckbuddy are not personal or romantic, we hookup and then hang out afterwards. Its very casual and relaxing and importantly no pressure.
 

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Another interesting point I thought I would note on here about the age difference not being an issue, is also because whenever we "hang out", we do our own thing. So if I am at his place, Im more than happy to just watch netflix, play video games or surf online. He is very happy to work. Neither of us are needy, feel neglected or need or want attention. If I stay overnight or for a few days, we will have sex usually during the day and at night before sleeping. There are no games, hidden agenda's or need to feel indebted to the other. We both want sex and we both enjoy it. If we are actually just hanging out watching TV or having dinner, we will talk and engage in good conversation, its never deep and emotional so our communication between one another is never pressured or a need to have to break the silence. Sure the physical chemistry is what binds us, pardon the pun, but its comfortable nature of each of us on a personal level, thats makes things easy.

I would say thats the primary reason why I have stayed with him and never felt a need to explore. Its easy, relaxed and convenient. I have had girlfriends and while its a totally different level of engagement and pleasure, Im always making sure her needs are met physically, mentally and emotionally and to be honest its an expectation they have and thats fine and I respect that. I guess in many ways having had girlfriends, I know what I like and dont like and make sure to make my fuckbuddy's life easy and comfortable.

We have a few times gone away when he has had a work trip interstate. We are both private and discrete so if anyone who did see us, would think its just a couple of guys hanging out. So in many ways that takes away any pressure or stress of being judged, which we are both comfortable with as it makes our relationship so much easier and uncomplicated. We have occasionally bumped into people we know and simply just introduced each other as former work colleagues. If we are ever out at dinner together, its really just like two friends meeting up. His only request is towards the end of the meal, if I get a bit flirty with him and or under the table to discretely fondle him or "accidentally" make physical contact. He is told me its just so that the moment we get back to the hotel, he is ready to go the moment the door closes behind us.
 

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I have no doubt whatsoever that age difference is definitely a varialble if your seeking a romantic/personal relationship. Of course there are always exceptions but overall there is going to be generational differences.

If its just a physical relationshop one seeks, ie to just enjoy MM sex be it oral, anal, I dont believe age difference is an issue for the majority.
 
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