Age disparity and relationships.

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I can understand where barsonlyone is coming from. I was 20 interested in this guy that was in his 30s. I really liked him a lot but the age difference bothered him a lot. Mostly because he was wondering why I was interested in someone with that much of an age difference and while he may be looking for something a bit more serious, he feared I was just there to be young and mess around and then leave. None of that ever crossed my mind, I just wanted to be with him in some form, whatever happened happened. So nothing ever came out of it even though we're still friends now. We've talked and hinted of a possible thing, but still nada.

Since we were talking though, I have had a lot more experience when it comes to people, hooking up, and relationships, so I do think it was for the best we didn't get together. But at the same time I think I would have been content. But who knows.
 

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sad, the often inexperienced, and perhaps younger as well, do seem to be at a disadvantage.
Still,its the way things are or can be huh?
So many missed opportunities for what could be really decent relationships, i geuss
 

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My X and I were together on and off for 10 years, finally separated on bad terms 7 years ago and remain on poor terms to date and live in same small town. There were 2 years between us but the differences of age had no bearing. He finally admitted he was missing out on things - he actually left me for a younger man. A therapist advised me early on about my X being a sexual addict, I disagreed until recently upon hearing small town rumors. My quality of life has improved slowly after what I admit - much hurt. In last 7 years I have connected on short term basis with several men, most were significantly younger than I. The energy level seemed well matched but their life goals including ambitions certainly did not prove to be good matchs.
 

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I think I'm honestly just scared. The way he talks about us being in a relationship and doing this and doing that and how I turn him on is unusual to hear. I have dated people older than me and that sort of conversation never comes up and so it freaks me out. He's a very attractive young guy and I wonder what he's really after. But then again I could just overthinking this whole thing.

In how I envision the perfect world, I would be in a relationship with him in a heartbeat. But it's not that simple sometimes. I should also add that he is leaving the country and will not be able to see each other due to personal circumstances until he returns.
 
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I think I'm honestly just scared. The way he talks about us being in a relationship and doing this and doing that and how I turn him on is unusual to hear. I have dated people older than me and that sort of conversation never comes up and so it freaks me out. He's a very attractive young guy and I wonder what he's really after. But then again I could just overthinking this whole thing.

In how I envision the perfect world, I would be in a relationship with him in a heartbeat. But it's not that simple sometimes. I should also add that he is leaving the country and will not be able to see each other due to personal circumstances until he returns.

You are over thinking the situation. None of us knows if any of the relationships in which we get involved will work out. When we start them we often hope they will but most don't. That's the process. Eventually we find tbe person who, together, just makes everything work. Maybe that's this guy, maybe it's not. But if you both enjoy each oher now, in the moment, then jump in and see where it leads. Enjoy it. And if it doesn't work out, "c'est la vie".
 

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I used to believe that age is just a number too when someone replied to me "then a cell is just a room" after I tell him that... 8/
 

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Age disparity is such an issue in the United States. As long as the person isn't a minor; enjoy life: age is just a number. Just because a person is your same age, for example, 40; doesn't mean the person is mature.

I enjoy the company of younger men....always have....made no bones about it. I don't give a rat's ass who likes it.

Finally, enjoy each day as if it were your last!

Oy, every post I've read of yours you come across as a MAN.

The hokey avatar is a dead give away. Trying a little bit too hard eh?
 

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As long as both people in a relationship are of legal age I don't think it matters how many years there are between them. I'm 17 years older than my boyfriend, we've been together for 8 years. He's 30, I'm 47... who am I to argue with the fact a 22 year old fell in love with and chose to spend his life with a then 39 year old
 

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As long as both people in a relationship are of legal age I don't think it matters how many years there are between them. I'm 17 years older than my boyfriend, we've been together for 8 years. He's 30, I'm 47... who am I to argue with the fact a 22 year old fell in love with and chose to spend his life with a then 39 year old


Aww thats nice to hear. Can you tell us more about how you guys began? I would love to hear your story.
 

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you don't have much to worry about man. 6 years isn't all that far apart for a relationship. me and my current boyfriend are 13 years apart and have been going out for almost a year. I'm 19 almost 20 and he is 33. In the beginning it was rocky with the age difference and me coming to terms with it, but it has been the best almost year of my life and wouldn't change one thing about it. i know almost a year isn't all that long or anything but given what we have gone through with just me coming to terms and not worrying about the difference seems like it has been much longer. A guy my age would have gone for the next young cute thing to come along, I almost did that twice and every time it was a day after that I would go back to him, cause I knew he was the only one that I knew really cared for me and didn't just care about sex
 

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Digging up memories now, from when I was 19 and my first love was 26. It seemed like a light-years difference at the time... cultural conflicts, daily... It was an off and on 3 years, but looking back, an amazing 3 years! Even though we both had to move on, through thick and thin, we have still maintained an appreciative friendship.

Regardless of age difference, a chunk of my heart is permanently reserved for that first experience of hearing those magic three words, sincerely spoken:

"I love you."
 
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