Age disparity and relationships.

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I was 21 when I met my first bf and he was 40. We lasted until he died from cancer at the age of 48. Still miss him. Like "ActionBuddy" says, I too still have a large portion of my heart reserved for him who first said those 3 words "I Love YOU".
 
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I don't think the difference between 20 and 26 is such a big deal, especially since at 20 a guy is quite capable of acting mature and living up to the responsabilities of having a relationship. Be careful though, because it can go wrong as well.
From my own experience: my first relationship was with a guy 6 years older than me, I was 17 at the time and still in high school, he was 23 and just graduated. Everything was wonderful as we were madly in love, but the age difference, and above all the fact that we were both in complete different stages of our life, finally got the upper hand and he broke up.
I was torn at the time, but in retrospect I understand why he just couldn't commit to someone who still had to discovere everything in life, while he was already more or less willing to settle down.
 

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My wife and I are 7 1/2 years apart. She is 32 and I am 24. From the very beginning it never bothered us. We never saw the age difference. Originally I thought she was younger and she thought I was older. It works for us, hope it works for you.
 

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My wife and I are 7 1/2 years apart. She is 32 and I am 24. From the very beginning it never bothered us. We never saw the age difference. Originally I thought she was younger and she thought I was older. It works for us, hope it works for you.

This happened with me and my guy. He thought I was younger than him! :biggrin1:
 

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My wife and I are 7 1/2 years apart. She is 32 and I am 24................. It works for us, hope it works for you.


Love the confidence etc chip
no frills no hassles, just getting on and enjoying life
the best, long may it all continue ..
 

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I am 31 dating a guy who is 21 and the age differences hasnt hurt us in anyway. I tease him about how i remember stuff from before he was born and all but that's it. Age only comes up in joking, he's very mature and we are very happy together. Don't let the age scare you, I almost let it with me and I would have thrown all the happiness ive had with away if I let the fear control me.
 

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I'm 42, my partner is 51. I had never considered dating someone that much older than me, but it works. We have similar life experiences and are a good match in many ways. Recently I've had a lot of early 20's and such trying to chat with me online and I find that I'm just not interested. We have nothing in common except for plumbing and that's not even enough to interest me.

I say if you're interested give it a chance. You won't know until you try. You might find something great, you might not, but either way, you will learn something about yourself in the process and that is never a bad thing.
 

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The problem with age disparity is that often times, both partners could be at different stages in their lives, which may render them incompatible. Although it may work out for some, I think it's better for most people to choose partners who are close to their own ages.
 
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If it were me I would be ecstatic only because I love older men. I'm 27 and my boyfriend is 39. I love that he's older. This guy you're dating more or less will love the fact you are older.