agree or disagree with theory on small penis humiliation (sph)

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Its a fetish like any other. However as with any other fetish we must be considerate and understand others may not be into it, and act accordingly.
 

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I am disgusted by this cuckholding and small penis humiliation. Human being should treat each other with dignity and respect regardless of his dick size. And I don't understand why people are so crazy about this dick sizes: if you feel inadequate, you could always use dildo, strap-on or whatever. I come to this website because I love big dick guys for the aesthetic reason only.
^^the thought police.
you're all thinking about it the wrong way. you're thinking you wouldn't want it to happen to you. Its like if someones been raped. well there's a portion of rape victims who actually want to play out a rape scenario with their significant other. Defense mechanism, perhaps. Or you can believe what I am telling you which is that their brains have removed all the negativity of the experience and only come away with something positive out of it. For me it was the rush and excitement. Its hard to filter out something positive out of something horrendously bad but that's what a very normal human being does. If a guy is asking to be laughed at, he certainly isn't going to cry about it afterwords.
^^the idiot.
 

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you are fucking retarded
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look... it's not that we don't understand. we don't fucking care.
we get it.
you like SPH.
fine.
find someone into verbal-hurtin your mini-gherkin and leave the rest of us alone.
and this is pretty much the issue women on this site have with sph. we get idiots who are utterly incapable of accepting that, even if we know why a guy is into sph, WE DON'T FRICKIN' CARE! we don't want to play. it's boring. it's irrelevant.

aside from anything else, i quite like small dicks.
 
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Think of when you ever were embarrassed and blushing. There's a wave of emotion that washes over your entire body. Well that feeling by itself is very orgasmic and gratifying.

That feeling is usually when you're complimented or someone did something nice to you, not when you were forcefully made to feel inferior to someone.
 

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take out anger, shame, and anything bad you feel when your embarrassed and what your left with is excitement, and thrill. It is a mind orgasm.

No. that's what you are left with when it happens to you - I don't feel that way at all. I understand that you like it, that it gives you a thrill - but you can't transpose your feelings on to another human being.

A lot of you women keep saying its a coping mechanism. Like a fat comedian with a fat joke.

A man made that comment - not a woman - I haven't seen anyone passing judgement on you for your SPH fetish, everyone is saying it is your kink go with it, just don't expect us to go there with you because it isn't a kink we share.

It's also a way to get attention just like a the hung guys do on here when they whip their cocks out on cam.

Ah - now we are getting somewhere, it gets you attention. Good attention or bad attention doesn't matter as long as people are focusing on you. Well, that may work for you short term but in the long run it'll get you ignored.

you're all thinking about it the wrong way. you're thinking you wouldn't want it to happen to you.

No, we're not 'thinking about it the wrong way - our minds just don't work the same as yours. How would you feel if we told you you were thinking about it the wrong way? Apart from avg no one has done that, pretty much everyone accepts SPH is a kink that some, even many, people get off on. We're just asking you to respect the fact the many people don't get off on it and don't want to be tricked into saying nasty things about your cock cos it gives you a stiffy.

Its like if someones been raped. well there's a portion of rape victims who actually want to play out a rape scenario with their significant other. Defense mechanism, perhaps. Or you can believe what I am telling you which is that their brains have removed all the negativity of the experience and only come away with something positive out of it.

Where are you reading that we don't believe you? We believe you just fine - we just don't have the same feelings about it and we don't want to be a part of your kink.

For me it was the rush and excitement. Its hard to filter out something positive out of something horrendously bad but that's what a very normal human being does. If a guy is asking to be laughed at, he certainly isn't going to cry about it afterwords.

No one says he is - but if he did that might be part of his process and there is nothing wrong with that if it is. Now you are judging the guy that cries after enjoying SPH as having something wrong with him. You're a right hypocrite!

To sum up: We get it - you like SPH, for you it is a positive. What you don't seem to get is that we are capable of being absolutely fine with that and of respecting kink and your feelings without wanting to join in.
 

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Okay, this seems to have got very heated: I initially read the thread because I enjoy giving sph, and I would like to say that no-one needs to read this thread that isn't interested in theories about why sph can be hot, or isn't into it: there are all sorts of threads on lpsg that I don't bother reading because I'm not interested in them.

And for what it's worth, I think the reason sph works for the guys it does work for, is possibly simpler than suggested. Most guys like to show their cocks off, most boys have to be dissuaded from doing so! Smaller guys learn that showing off, like some well hung guys like to do at parties, and everyone likes to do at least a bit during sex, runs the risk of humiliation (and most smaller guys have had at least one experience like that) so they stop doing it, often to the point of being very shy about their bodies.

But sph is all about the smaller guy and his dick: his dick gets loads of attention, gets to be shown off, in a way that it never usually would be. Oddly enough it gets admired for being small, though admittedly that admiration takes the form of teasing and humiliation. But if you didn't have a small one, I couldn't have fun teasing it, so your little cock is vital to the experience.

Of course there are feelings of embarassment too, but as several people have pointed out, these by themselves are not necessarily horny feelings. Putting your dick on display is a horny feeling for most men however (you only need to look at all the proud displays in lspg galleries to see that!), and if the most reliable way of getting that is thru sph, then embarassment comes with the deal.

Of course, come the revolution we will all love all bodies equally, fat, thin, small dicked and large dicks in some heaven of acceptance where body shape won't matter at all. But until then sph is a fun and healthy outlet for consenting adults.
 
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a lot of people don't get my kinks either.
as long as you only trouble ladies who are into this too, i see no issue. it's the sly angling that pisses people off. trying to get one's jollies surreptitiously off the unwilling in not ok and seems to happen a lot with sph on this site.

I've noticed this too and I have a problem in general with people trying to trick others in sexual roleplay with them. Personally my main issue with so many on this site is their need to present their fantasy as reality. You get these weird intersections between storytelling and outright ignorance of basic physiology.. so many people posting 'true' stories along the lines of "I could never satisfy my wife with my tiny 6" dick. She cheated on me with two 13" guys who gave her multiple orgasms and a huge creampie. Should I let her keep cheating because I'm worthless and only real men deserve her??" It's not odd that you see the occasional bullshit story like this, but here we see them posted all the time.

I have huge respect for guys who are upfront and just post things like 'smaller guy looking for SPH' and such. I absolutely don't judge people by what turns them on; many of the things I'm in to would get me arrested if I tried them on people who weren't involved, so ninja SPHing is at best extremely impolite.
 

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*barf*

yes, the weird and creepy angles that some of them go for just make my skin crawl. they're no better than flashers in the park.
 

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I don't get this either, it's like a black kid choosing to hang around racists and call them his best friends. To me, at the end of the day, humiliation should never be a goal for
The soul.....but I haven't had the psychological trauma that would make this seem appealing in anyway... But to each his own....

I do agree that it shouldn't be shoved down anyone's throat ... It's for those people that like it and like any fetish you should seek out a humiliation site instead of explaining it away... I can see the need to, it's a hard sell "hey treat me like a piece of shit so I can get off please"....it's kind of like s&m I guess but with mental instead of physical pain.

I like confident people so this doesn't entice me one bit.
 
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I do agree that it shouldn't be shoved down anyone's throat ... It's for those people that like it and like any fetish you should seek out a humiliation site instead of explaining it away... I can see the need to, it's a hard sell "hey treat me like a piece of shit so I can get off please"....it's kind of like s&m I guess but with mental instead of physical pain.

I like confident people so this doesn't entice me one bit.

I just want to say that BDSM != being treated like shit necessarily. Also, BDSM doesn't restrict itself to just physical pain always either. I know a fair few kinky people who totally get off on mind-fuckery My personal BDSM interactions are based off of a lot of respect, no humiliation on my part (though I will do humiliating things to a partner if they like it), though some mind fucking/psychological stuff is fine, mixed in with the beating and bondage :tongue:

Lastly, just because I will submit to the right people has absolutely no bearing on my confidence levels. I'm pretty fucking self-assured, but I still let my Sir/Daddy/play partner flog me, tie me up, pull my hair, and make me bleed. :biggrin1:
 

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thanks for comments on my previous post, and I'd like to second other posters: because someone takes a 'submissive' role in sex doesn't mean they're lacking in confidence - quite the opposite, I would say. I take a 'top' role because I feel really uncomfortable with the vulnerability of the submissive role, so I make sure I'm never in it. You could say that, as a 'top', I'm the one with the hang-up! In our society it takes a lot of courage for a man to say he prefers a submissive role, or for a small-penised guy to consent to teasing.

Why not think of it as a gift? I enjoy guys with small dicks, but if they're into sph, I think, 'Oh, you can do that as well? Well, that can be fun!'. We don't have to do it, but having the talent for it extends the range, variety and horniness of what we can get into. And I have a talent for 'top' sph: I really get off on it and am very imaginative about it - I can give a small guy a really good time!

Some people have the gift of enjoying feet (foot fetishists). They don't do it for me, but it would be great to have that in my list of talents! Some have the gift of really enjoying vanilla sex which always seems a little dull to me, so it would be great to have the gift of not enjoying it as the 'next best thing'. Groups of perverts are actually groups of talents, I would say, who share a common gift or ability. Sph is one of those: if you haven't the gift, fair enough, I don't enjoy playing the violin or doing math either, because I haven't the gift. But if you do, then I admire your courage in going for it!
 
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Well, not always TOTALLY different: a BDSM submissive usually comes in for some humiliation! I won't bore you by rewriting the above replacing 'humiliatee' for 'submissive', but I'd make the same argument, that it's a talent to enjoy it and it takes courage and a fairly good self-image to be able to ask for it.
 
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I wasn't talking submissive. I was talking humiliation...... 2 TOTALLY different things

Gee, as someone who has been doing kinky things for nearly a decade, I never would've guessed. :rolleyes: Your post was ambiguous, so I was merely stating my personal opinion, based off of my own personal experiences.
 

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guys who try to be sly about bringing up sph requests are a lot like homeless people who engage in very polite and casual conversation for a few minutes to make you feel like you are not strangers anymore before they whip out whatever smile-led line they give you to ask for money. you sort of start to think you know what's going on after the first couple seconds, but it could still be a totally normal, nice conversation with a stranger who has no motives, so you let it slide for a while. then after about the third or fourth big red flag, you are totally angry with the person for wasting your time and want nothing more than to rid yourself of them and their sneaky bitch ass.

also, the sph fetish isn't from small men getting rid of all the bad parts of the embarassment. ask any guy who says that if he would trade his dick for an 8 incher if he could. he'd say hell yes. being small sucks and the shame and humiliation isn't a "good" thing just because you jack off to it. it is still very bad. unfortunately, small dick men get to a point where they have no other option. they give up on ever being with women normally, but their damn horniness still needs to be shown attention at times just like everybody else in the world's horniness does. since they have totally given up on being with a woman in a normal sexual manner, they look for any other way to sexually interact with women. sph becomes attractive because it still allows them to talk dirty and be naughty and sexual with a woman. the honesty and "dirtiness" of a woman who is openly talking about loving big dicks (or, for that matter, shaming small ones) is a very deeply honest thing to witness. a woman who is talking about dick size is in a very honest sexual mood which she probably has to hold back from on some level during 99.9% of her minutes in a day. THAT much honesty and the "i don't care, i'm horny and this is what is on my horny mind" attitude is what i think is actually turning the men on during sph, not being emotionally tortured.

everybody asks over and over why sph seeking men come to THIS website, and i really think the answer is that they know they will find women in a very sexually honest frame of mind here, and that is what turns them on.
 

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I don't understand why some of the people who aren't into sph have such a strong reaction against those who do. Kinda reminds me of straight fundamentalists who freak out about gay people... how do the goings on in someone else's bedroom have any impact on you? Why you should you get to have say in it, one way or the other?

My dick is a perfectly average, middle-of-the-road, 6 incher. I sometimes get off on sph. Giving it when I'm the big guy, and taking it when I'm the little guy. I also sometimes have sex that doesn't involve sph. In general, I'm confident, more or less happy, successful at work, school and in my relationships. But a little light goes off somewhere in my lizard brain when my dick looks small next to someone else's, or when it looks big by comparison. If someone calls me small, I get turned on and I couldn't really explain to you why. So I go with it--it's just a part of the makeup of my sexuality and I don't think there's a whole lot more to say about it than that.

If you don't like sph, that's totally fine! Don't participate in it. And if you do like it... awesome, send me a message ;)

End of story.