Ah, awkward...

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  1. KillerCookie

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    So, I'm new here, but I come with an honest question... that you guys seem like the people to help me.

    I started dating someone new, well, the other day, things got a little hot and heavy, one thing led to another, and he took it out his pants. Oh my God, it's huge... :( In most cases, I'm sure rejoicing should ensue... but we tried, and it hurt so bad, we had to stop like five minutes into it because I was practically crying; I made up an excuse as to why we had to stop, and gave him a hand job instead.

    So, uh... obviously, sex is very important to a relationship, and I'm not breaking up with someone just because 'it's too big', 'cause he's a really nice guy, and I'm not just in this for a quick fuck.

    So, you people with a big penis, have you ever been with a girl that's 'too small' or something? How exactly I can explain to him without hurting his self-esteem? Second, you guys got any tips on making sex less painful?
     
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    been there, it happens. sure, there are sometimes where it just isnt gonna work regardless of what you try, but most of the time there is at least something that can be done to help. hopefully you fall into the later group. for a start, try some good long foreplay, really get worked up. then, lube is a major help too. also, different positions work better for fitting with different people. i had one girl who couldnt fit any if she was on top (her preferred possition with past guys) but when we tried doggy, she fit about half. take your time, experiment, and dont make excuses to him. tell him that is he very large and that it hurts, but that you want to work at it. if he is worth his salt, he will understand and be patient while you two find what works best for you. also, this was your first time with it. girls i have been with tend to be able to handle it better as they try it more. HTH
     
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    I agree with everything he said :) Try having sex, but just using the first 1-2 inches. That will get you used to girth, with out having to attempt length too :)
    Be honest with him though, I really dont think he would take it as an insult :)
     
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    Well, I think my reaction was enough to let him know size *might* be an issue, which amounted to, 'Holy shit, it's bigger then me.' @.@

    As you can see from my pics, I'm kind of a small girl. :/

    Thanks, both of you. :) I'll see, uh, what we can do. >.>
     
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    Hey Killer Cookie,
    It sounds like the most important part is there, and that is ATTRACTION! So don't worry about it!
    Just take it slow... A nice evening out, some drinks, LOTS of foreplay, perhaps some lubrication and before you know it you'll be doing what comes naturally. Whatever you do, don't worry about it as in time you will wonder what the hang-up was in the first place.
    Enjoy the relationship.
    X
     
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    killercookie,

    In addition to whats been contributed already you may want to consider using a good old fashioned dildo, or several of them of varying size. This was helpful for my wife and we incorporated them into foreplay.
     
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    Thanks all for the info., I talked to him about it, and since it's obvious that we're in this relationship for the long term, we're just going to take our time at getting me adjusted to his... size. @.@ Might take awhile, but we're going to try that. :)
     
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    lots of great advice above cookie...

    and just be honest and attentive; take your time, stay interested, lots of play until the day comes that you can handle him (and it will)

    I can guarantee you one thing's certain... not a man alive who wouldn't prefer to hear:

    "It's too big"

    instead of:

    "Is it in yet?"

    :biglaugh:
     
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    In my experience men love to hear "it's too big, let's take it slow/gently" coming from the right person.
    In any case, if he's so big he's gotta at least try it at a slower pace :)
    Definitely don't make yourself take more of him than comfortable, there is a lot to be said for letting it happen over time, I think that you learn more about your own body that way.
    And I thinking being able to say 'it took me X days/weeks/etc. to hold all of him' is impressive :)
    But yes I too must repeat, there's no way your guy will be insulted if you tell him he's too big and you need to try it a different way, I guarantee he'll follow your every word!
     
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    It should be possible to take it eventually. Remember, I woman is capable of having a baby!
     
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    Most of hung guys and their partners faced similar issues.

    Like in any other couple problem, frank communication is irrenonunciable. You should tell him that he is big and that you need to work together on it. I don't think you'll hurt is ego, and however you girls usually know how to put down words.

    I'll tell you how my wife and I solved the problem. Our first times were difficult, I coul barely fit the head in, my thickness hurted her very much.

    Long foreplay as the frst step, in order to have her muscles relaxed. You shold put aside your worries while making love.

    Still now cunninlingus is important, it turns her n, eases her natural lubrification and makes her more receptive.

    At the beginning I had to withhold very much, penetrating her wit just a bit more than the head. It was frustrating, but we both needed to go on step by step. Slowly she got ready to take more and more of me. When the woman is n top she can better control the depth of penetraton, try.

    It took several months so start having enjoyable intercourse, in the mean time oral sex and mutual masturbation got us some pleasure.

    Now we have an almost full depth penetration, and sex is just hot!!!
     
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    agree with proudly Italian about lots of foreplay to really get your going and wet, as well as taking it slowly to begin with.

    pretty much take the time to explore each other's bodies and find what other pleasures you have besides penetration, make an entire night of it and don't feel as though you both have to rush into anything and every act that you can.

    really teach him how to play with you and what pleases you the most, physically and mentally.
    depending on your preference to either be the more dominate or the more submissive partner, play with that fact too.
    enjoy yourself and each other.

    it may take time but it will be worth it in the end -especially if you can train him to act and treat you exactly how you want.

    all the best in this endeavour. :)
     
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    If length rather than girth is the issue, you may be able to convince your lover to wear an artfully colored donut-shaped object around his penis. :)
     
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    Wouldn't it be simpler just not to shove it in all the way?
     
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    A guy HAD to write this...

    Different...'cause a woman is not having sex with a bowling ball...frequently
     
  16. KillerCookie

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    Ha, and not every women's capable of having a baby, all the women in my family require c-sections. @.@

    That aside, he meant well. XD I dunno about the sex-with-a-bowling-bar, there's some crazy porn out there. ;P

    Yeah, I'm just going to have to tell him to take it slow, it's both length and girth, though, I could put up with the length a lot easier then I could the girth. :/ I just got to convince him there needs to be foreplay! (He's the type that's not much into doing foreplay, or very long foreplay.)
     
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    Usually she is. But I have never heard of a woman who had an orgasm while she gives birth to a baby.
     
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    tell him that he's missing out on the best part if he doesn't like foreplay and convince him how pleasurable it can be for him -especially in terms of tongue and mouth work on him.

    not sure how it is with your bloke, but some men do need sex to be more about them.
    but they can be trained into better habits. :)

    it's all about making them understand the pleasure factor and how much a "sensitive man" turns you on -even if you have to lie about to last part to get him to play better and fairer. :)
     
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    Foreplay is so key for a girthy cock. My g/f is a small woman as well, and I take foreplay to the point of her having an orgasm before we even proceed with intercourse (fortunately, I can make her come in under five minutes easily--she's sensitive, and I know how to touch her :smile:). It gets her loose and wet enough for me to enter her. Honestly, without that level of foreplay, my dick is not getting inside of her. Also, she reciprocates and absolutely loves to suck my cock for a little while before we get to fucking. Maybe make it clear to him that the foreplay goes both ways and it will give him some impetus.

    The other key thing if you naturally don't get that wet is to use lube. I recommend something water-based (we use KY Liquid, but there are many). And also make sure he understands that he doesn't need to shove it all the way in right away. I usually fuck my g/f with the first 3 or 4 inches of my cock for a couple of minutes before going all the way. She even seems to like that better, so during intercourse, a lot of times I'll be fucking her with only half of my dick, and then I'll change it up by going for a deep plunge randomly. It's very hot.

    And if he's so big that no amount of lube or foreplay will do it, some other people mentioned trying different sized dildos, building up to the right size. Seems like a reasonable idea to me--just make sure you're using them enough to make the change happen!

    Good luck and congrats on your new giant penis. :biggrin1:
     
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