You can add me onto the list of people who found what he said offensive, you know.
Do you stick by the fact that you feel he should split from his wife so that she doesn't have to waste her life with such a horrid man? With the implication perhaps that she shoudl know better, or that she's a bad judge of character? Because he was worried that a noticable change in the feel of her sexual organs might suggest an affair? Is that truly your idea of a measured response?
I'm not getting involved in the bigger argument and I'm not trying to speak for anyone apart from myself here... I
do see what you are saying, really, and I also found one or two responses quite aggressive.
However, the only way I can honestly respond to this is to not give advice (I suck at it) but put myself in the shoes of the OPs wife. If I walked up behind him and read that over his shoulder I would be incredibly hurt, both in the manner that he has shared extremely intimate information (she is his
wife ffs!) and the possible explanation he came up with. I really just did not feel the love or respect in that post
at all. If I was his wife...ugh, put it this way, I am just thankful that I am not.