There's a history of alcohol abuse in my family. Specifically, my mom gets drunk all too frequently. (of course, how often should a woman in her late 70s be getting drunk? ). She's been doing it all my life, and probably since her late teens. She's always very secretive about it. She'll never, ever get drunk at a party, for example. But she'll stash a glass of vermouth in a desk drawer. Several years ago we finally convinced her to see a counselor, who proclaimed her NOT to be an alcoholic. My own diagnosis is that she medicates her anxiety/depression with alcohol. My father-in-law has a tendency to drink too much, too frequently, but again, he's not an alcoholic. I'm not sure how to approach alcohol with my kids. At their age, they're not exposed to it, other than when I have a beer once in a while. I can see some characteristics in them that might lead them down the path my mom took. I'm not sure how to handle the situation. At some point, they'll have to make their own decisions. I don't want them to go into it blind. On the other hand, I don't want them to get the idea that a drink once in a while is o.k., because given the family history, that's an iffy proposition. I'm especially concerned about my Jr. High daughter, whose personality is very similar to my mom's.