Alcohol + No erection

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  1. blemming

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    Okay, so the past few nights I've been having sex with a new girl, but things have been kind of rough. The first night I was drunk, not too drunk, but drunk enough to the point where I was unable to cum. My stamina is usually pretty long to begin with, so when I'm intoxicated it's even worse.

    The second night, I found myself losing an erection during sex. She had to give me head in between sex twice and finally I was able to cum.

    Tonight, the third night, I didn't plan on drinking. I wanted to stay sober for several reasons. First and foremost I wanted to be able to have good sex. I'm legitimately interested in this girl, and drunk sex isn't the best way to express it. However, tonight I had around 12-15 shots of tequila and multiple beers. Even after a blowjob I wasn't able to get fully aroused and, in turn, I wasn't able to get fully erect to be able to penetrate her.

    I feel terrible. I know it's my own fault for drinking too much, but have any of you experienced this? I feel incredible self-conscious at the moment. She was also dead sober, I promise to make it up to her tomorrow yet I'm worried I'll have the same problem.

    Thanks,

    Blemming
     
  2. Ed69

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    "have any of you experienced this?" Yes I have.So stop drinking,alcohol is an erection killer!There is your cure!
     
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    I usually have trouble keeping hard after 3 pints of beer (which has the plant equivalent of female hormone - phytoestrogen in it)

    However if you can stop after 1 glass of wine etc, it will actually help give you a harder erection due to the vasodilation caused by alcohol.

    I was drunk when I lost my virginity and also lasted a long time, which impressed my lover, luckily. (She still doesn't know that I was a virgin!)
     
  4. Principessa

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    I'm amazed you were able to walk, let alone fuck after 12 shots of anything, let alone tequila! :eek:


     
  5. 7x6

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    The relationship i've been in for the last 8 months started with many evenings where we'd drunk a bottle of vodka between us. I'm 43 and hadn't had reason to find out if I could still get it up after that much drink for 10+ years. I amazed myself but then she is a wondrefully sexy woman.... That said, I did at times lose my erection and usually had problems cumming. All much better now sex is rarely mixed with much alcohol and nice to be told "if anything you are even more rampant now than you were when we met" :)
     
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    As the old phrase goes, "There's a fine line between 'beer goggles' and 'whiskey dick'." :wink:
     
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    too much alcohol kills my libido. when i'm really drunk (not like after a few beers, but after a lot of vodka), it would be impossible for me to have sex of any kind. i couldn't get it up, i couldn't function enough to take an active role in things, and i most certainly could not cum. give me too much liquor, it'd be best to just let me sleep.
     
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    Most of the boys I'm with are just fine.. we do weed and booze though... so I don't know if there is a difference.
     
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    This was a problem I had with a girl in college. She liked to go out on Friday nights get drunk, get extra horny and have great sex.

    I on the other hand can't feel my penis when I'm drunk. So I'd either stay sober or feel like a battering ram.
     
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    When I was a younger man and I would drink before or during a date, the alcohol seemed to dull my senses enough that I could last a long time. It did not affect the firmness of my erection. But you will find as you get older alcohol can affect the libido and the erections will not be as firm and can sometimes kill the erection. This is from a couple of beers and not a bottle of anything alcoholic. So I don't drink at all when it is time for a date. Not being able to get a erection can be a relationship killer. Believe me she will take it personally.
     
  11. zaza

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    I think she has been very patient with you!!!!
    You are lucky she is prepared to give it a third time, and if you do it again there probably won`t be a fourth.
     
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    Personally I prefer to be sober during sex. I've noticed at the ripe old age of 47 that any booze at all lessens sensation and deflates the erection.

    There's also judgment impairment associated with fucking while intoxicated. There are some things that you can't just undo in the morning.
     
  13. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    Maybe your problem is more about the amount and frequency you are drinking rather then not getting fully erect or bad sex?
     
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    I would say score a viagra/cialis/levitra from someplace. Works through alcohol. But u r gonna have a mental hurdle with this girl. It's in your head now.
     
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