hello, new 'member' here. not a 'large' guy, but i've searched the web and this seems like one of the better resources for discussing this type of stuff... hope you don't mind me asking away here. i'm 21 and still a virgin. a few days ago i had my first attempt at a sexual encounter, which did not go well. i'm sure most people's best time isn't their first, but the problem i had isn't the one i normally hear of first timers encountering, so i'd like to share my experience and hear what some of you more experienced guys have to say about it. i was unable to get a decent erection the whole time. the girl (not a virgin) was understanding and tried to help, but to no avail. we succeeded once or twice, but it didn't last long enough to be of any 'use'. i think the main cause was that i was very drunk. i've been drunk before, and found that though i enjoy the 'silliness' of being drunk, my entire body, penis included, loses virtually all sensitivity. i've managed to masturbate to ejaculation while drunk in the past, but it took a lot of effort and 'force' both to get hard and then to finish the job... and it wasn't too pleasurable. i thought maybe it would be different with a partner, but if anything, it was worse... probably due to embarrassment and imaginary 'pressure' to perform. the fact that i'd only met her that night probably didn't help, since i'm pretty shy and have never been confident enough to hook up with someone i don't really know... and being drunk, i was probably trying to move too fast, not allowing myself to relax, etc. is it common for alcohol to have this effect? we played with each other's bodies a fair bit, but i wasn't really 'feeling' her body, or her hands over mine... if that makes sense? it just seems wierd, since lots of people seem to have sex while drunk... and i've never had the confidence to get intimate with a girl while sober. i also get the impression that 'getting it up' is not usually a problem for a young guy, especially in his first encounter. or were other factors more likely to blame? sorry for the lengthy post... i just needed to get it off my chest, and hear if this is a common scenario or not, and maybe get some ideas as to how to do better next time. thankyou!