All of these "circumcision" threads.

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  1. slate_australis

    slate_australis New Member

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    You'll have to forgive my getting a little too serious, and self absorbed here.

    In the 'pro's' thread I made reference to a period when I was 15/16 and I was considering getting circumcised. Earlier that year I had some retraction problems, which is common for guys with longer foreskins, since the skin isn't trained to retract fully it doesn't. That was fixed with ointment. At the time, I had never seen another uncut cock, every bit of porn I came across seemed to have cut guys... the only other uncut person I knew of was either an infant cousin (ew) or my dead father.

    So I felt abnormal, with that weird feeling that there was something wrong with me... but what teenager doesn't feel that when they're that age? That feeling escalated to the point that I started investigating the operation, researching it. Then, I sat down one night... and said "What good reason do I have for doing this... apart from insecurity?" I went through all of them... and I realised I couldn't justify it.

    Then about 3 months later a close friend of mine called me, and told me he was going into hospital for a small operation. Naturally concerned I asked why. He told me he needed a circumcision, he asked me not to tell anyone. He told everyone else it was a back operation. Anyway - he had the op, but it was badly done, his recovery was a bugger and, due to the friction afterwards says it was the worst thing he ever did.

    Anyway, time wears on. I get older become sexually active - all my concerns about sexual partners disappear, never hear anything besides nice things.

    But for some reason, of late - reading all of these "great thing" "new level" a certain degree of my insecurities are coming back, every now and then thinking to myself... did I do the right thing. Even though it works fine, and nobody else has ever had a problem with it.

    I'm not for a second asking anyone to temper their comments. If you're cut and happy, that's great, other ways around good or bad depending. But just to point out that things aren't as clear... cut (ugh) for everyone else. There are quite significant emotional issues involved. I don't have any intention of doing anything - I'm not whining, but I'm writing to express something that others may be feeling now, or may have in the past.

    BTW - I'm not just talking about uncut guys, I also include the cut guys. I don't think one person should make dispariging comments.

    I need to sleep.

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  2. B_dxjnorto

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    Slate there are those who would have you believe that a scar can be an erogenous zone, that chafing is pleasurable. I guess everyone heals up differently so I can't rule out the possibility, but it would be the exception rather than the rule.

    Others are talking about - you haven't experienced everything until you've tried the cut. Have you ever heard any talk that way about any other body part?

    Here's a few links of interest:

    Acrotomophilia & Apotemnophilia

    Circlist-Scar Style

    Also much in the news in your neck of the woods of late:

    Doctors back call for circumcision ban

    As an adult I'm sure you can still find a private practitioner for the right amount of money. Your choice.
     
  3. simcha

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    Slate,

    Yeah, I've never claimed a preference for one or the other. I think all cocks are beautiful. You should embrace yours as it is, or change it as you wish based on your own preference.

    The anti-circ brigade would counsel you that once you are circumcised you will be a mutilated freak. However, the rest of us who are sane will tell you that you're still just as beautiful, just different.
     
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    The O/P stated a wish ...
    Then a predictable reply ...
    Reminds me of Pavlov's dog.
     
  5. slate_australis

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    Like I said, I cannot imagine any situation when I would put myself through the OP, only if the doctor said "do it it'll fall off if you don't".

    My point was that nobody else should be making comments that make people feel uncomfortable about their penis. I don't believe that if you're cut, you're deficient, there are some people who have a very strong emotional connection to this issue and believe that an injustice has been done to them. I am very sorry that they feel this way, equally I don't believe that referring to a cut penis is mutilated is not helpful to the issue. Equally, people also need to realise that the many urban legends (especially in America) about the uncut penis are not true. Yeah, we have to maintain cleanliness, but what's 5/10 seconds every now and again?

    In the end, if you have a well-functioning penis that you're happy with, that's all that matters. Cut or uncut. If you're unhappy, do something about it (whatever the situation calls for).
     
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    Amen, you've got it. :biggrin1:
     
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    I somewhat agree but those who are cut have to deal with reality: a sensual piece of their penis was excised and they have less than they were born with. They have to deal with that. Since I'm an Intactivist, I won't gloss over that. As for "strong emotional connection," I'd say most guys have a strong emotional connection to their penis.:smile:
    In general, Jerry and I avoid using "mutilate" and it's variants. I agree that's is too extreme for a general context. However, I'll use it to refer to my own penis and will continue to do so. I have the right to say my penis was mutilated if I feel that it was.

    To all: I'll, again, ask both sides avoid that word and variants unless referring to their own penis.

    There's more to it than "urban legend" ... the cut crusaders purposely spread the "dirty" myths to further their cause. They had been largely successful but the internet is now undermining them.
    If a guy is cut and unhappy, what can he do about it? Foreskin restoration? I'm sure you're aware that I'm doing foreskin restoration and, although it's working for me, I can't honestly recommend it for general use. It requires a lot of time, motivation, and patience. Most guys simply can't do it. Thus, those who are cut and unhappy really have no options: they're shit out of luck.
     
  8. slate_australis

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    I agree Steve, those who are cut and unhappy definitely have the ...raw end of the deal.

    I did see the Penn & Teller BS on circumcision, it was very interesting. If I wasn't already opposed to RIC, I certainly am now.
     
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