My sentiments, exactly. Sorry for digging this out, I just browsed through some threads started in the time of my absence, and I feel like adding my two cents here.
On the original question, I would refer to myself as "Alpha Female". I like to take the lead, to be in charge, professionally, in private, and in bed. And if other women try to take that position from me, they better be really better than me, because my "snarling mare" side isn't for the indecisive