Am I a different gay?

[prabusemesta]

Hello to all of you guys. I am a 20 yo gay male from Indonesia.

Uh, I am kinda confused about my sexual orientation. I am 99% gay, but I don't like having sex through anus. I mean, yes, I like guys. I love cocks. But I don't like anus! To me, it's gross [no offense].

What I want to do with a guy is flirting, making out, and sucking. That's all. And I will jerk off afterward to cum.

Am I different from all of you guys? What do you think?

 

[josh20hung]

I feel the exact same way you do. I like making out and sucking ... but when it comes to anal sex I couldn't be more turned off.

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

Gay men don't need to have anal sex. Many gay men rarely or even never have anal sex!

 

[prabusemesta]

I feel the exact same way you do. I like making out and sucking ... but when it comes to anal sex I couldn't be more turned off.

Yea. You know, it just pisses me off when someone asks me, 'What are you, a T or B?' Hell, I'm not into that thing, dude! But this kinda makes me think that I'm even more 'minority'. I'm just exaggerating, tho.

 

[prabusemesta]

Gay men don't need to have anal sex. Many gay men rarely or even never have anal sex!

Are you sure? Gay ppl out there seem to always [yes, always!] ask me, 'are you a top or bottom?' What about you? Are you into that thing?

 

[Guardian100]

There's this myth amongst the straight population that if you're gay then you must be into anal sex, OP you can blame the media and gay porn for that one.

 

[toreadore]

nope youre not different just 20. I was the same way at 20 then eventually got into it. some do some dont. no matter what it is you like doesnt make you different it makes you you. dont worry about what other people think or say.

 

[prabusemesta]

There's this myth amongst the straight population that if you're gay then you must be into anal sex, OP you can blame the media and gay porn for that one.

Ok, now I see. It's the media and gay porn to blame!

nope youre not different just 20. I was the same way at 20 then eventually got into it. some do some dont. no matter what it is you like doesnt make you different it makes you you. dont worry about what other people think or say.

Alright

 

[FuzzyKen]

The Gay Union Rules:

I must be an excellent dancer and take training.
I must go and learn to do interior design and be an expert at color coordination.
I am really great at flower arranging.
I need to know how to do clothing design.

Well there are the rules. . . . . oh wait, nope there is nothing there about a requirement for anal intercourse.

All jokes aside, you are very young, you need to explore sexuality at your own pace and there is no requirement anywhere that you like or dislike any one particular act and no rule that makes that like or dislike in any way abnormal.

I am a top and I personally very much enjoy anal sex from the position of a top, I do not enjoy anal sex from the position of a bottom. I found and for well over a decade now have been in a monogamous relationship with a fellow who is my polar opposite.

Though I suggest you try everything at one time or another, even I don't demand anal sex from my other half on a regular basis. It is something we do, but we do not do it all that regularly and it is not a requirement. Remember that the key here is exploration. You may find that there are many activities you do like. In all reality I can have fun doing many things. Remember that any preoccupation with one thing makes a boring sex life anyway. Variety is the spice of life and eliminating one thing from a menu does not make you bad or different in any way.

 

[houtx48]

some do some don't .............

 

[Pierced1953]

I find out more and more on how people are so informed on sexualities. Maybe it's the media, the bigots and of course people don't understand how far out the porn industries are.

I've known str's that thought pussy was gross. Be yourself and don't be influenced by others and what you read or see.

Fuzzyken; great post...I have gay friends that worked construction with me and always just shook their heads when people made remarks about gays being florists,designers,etc...His part time hobby was cutting trees and laying stone with me.

 

[crescendo69]

I prefer oral and manual sex as well, though I have occassionally dallied in anal. That T/B question does get a little annoying. I just answer, "No".

 

[AZZAWA]

Same way here. I do like playing with a nice ass but don't need to fuck it. When asked if I am a top or bottom, I always say I am a dick licker.

 

[oregongtaper]

I'm straight but I love anal sex, giving and receiving.

 

[erratic]

I think that, in the real world, there's way less anal going on between gay men than people think. These sorts of threads (you're not the first person to pose this question, OP) just help confirm my suspicion.

 

[affarsbitrade]

I was always super jealous of my confident friends who could go out and hook up with a guy and go home with him. I imagined they were all having super hot anal sex and I was in some way missing out (didn't have anal until after college). Turns out they were having just as much (by which I mean just as little!) anal sex as I was. The stuff you are into is fine, and as I've matured and got more experienced I've found out that that's all a lot of guys want to do, esp to begin with.

Also, just regarding your comment about finding it gross, well hey I do at times as well. When you think about it, what the anus is used for primarily... And I actually like to put my mouth to that?! But then think of a pussy, and all the blood and discharge that comes out of those things! As long as you have emptied out and cleaned thoroughly there is nothing gross about anal and you can actually have a lot of fun with it. So look forward to discovering it at your own pace!

 

[deleted3782]

nope youre not different just 20. I was the same way at 20 then eventually got into it. some do some dont. no matter what it is you like doesnt make you different it makes you you. dont worry about what other people think or say.

I'm into that "eventually" time frame...and I still have no interest in the butt sex. Maybe some time after retirement I will get into it...

I think that, in the real world, there's way less anal going on between gay men than people think. These sorts of threads (you're not the first person to pose this question, OP) just help confirm my suspicion.

We ought to start a poll "Hey gays! When was the last time you had the butt sex? a) More than a week b) More than a month c) More than six months ago d) More than a year ago e) More than 10 years ago..." etc.


Just be yourself...and be a role model for the next generation so they don't have to ask these questions.

 

[Charles Finn]

do what feels good to you
yes I am a very well hung guy that is more into oral and j/o than anal but i do enjoy topping the right guy
I love being a top but it took years for me to like my ass getting played with
but my dick you can play with all day and i usually do
but I do tend to prefer oral and j/o

 

[dylz]

There's this myth amongst the straight population that if you're gay then you must be into anal sex, OP you can blame the media and gay porn for that one.

yeah, because so many people "amongst the straight population" are familiar with whats in gay porn and the media so frequently discusses anal sex

honestly i think that "myth" if it can be called that simply arises from the fact that MOST people, no matter the sexuality, DO have penetrative non-oral sex, and so they tend to assume that everyone else does as well

 

[Guardian100]

yeah, because so many people "amongst the straight population" are familiar with whats in gay porn and the media so frequently discusses anal sex

honestly i think that "myth" if it can be called that simply arises from the fact that MOST people, no matter the sexuality, DO have penetrative non-oral sex and so they tend to assume that everyone else does as well

What a load of rubbish, when I first came out and full of questions there were half a dozen couples in my uni LGB that had 0 penetrative sex, ALOT of guys just don't like it, it's that simple. In fact that LGB dispelled so many myths that I was carrying around in my head.

I enjoy anal because of the connection you feel with your partner, a vagina does feel better but when I'm in love with someone I need to have that connection, but srlsy Dylz stop spreading misinformation