Am I a kept man or her bitch?

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  1. coolhungluke

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    She makes more money, decides on the trips and restaurants and her preference in bed is always on top. She continues to tell me that she is into me for my cock and the fact that I am a good cook is a bonus (this I find sexy) but she also tells this to her friends. She has groped in front of her friends making me obviously hard through my pants as a “show in tell” (again sexy). I am aware that there is a power trip dynamic here --- but does it mean that I am her bitch?
     
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    and a tool
     
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    Yeah, kinda.

    But does that actually bothers you? You keep telling that you think it's sexy, if both of you like that situation that shouldn't be such a problem, should it?
     
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    Sounds like you are getting off on it. So if that's what you want, what do you care what we think?
     
  7. Pitbull

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    Yes.

    And your complaint is....?

    You like it
    Find the situation sexy
    She loves your cock

    What am I missing?

    Do you want to get on top?
    Get on your knees and beg and it might happen.
    Just kidding. Assert yourself a little.
    When she is lying down, touch her ears with her ankles so she knows how deep it can go. :eek:
    CAUTION! She may love it and might not get back on top.
    The top thing may just be that on some women there is this spot deep in there that they can rub just the right way when they are on top.

    Male ego a little bruised?
    Being someone's bitch is better than being nobody's anything. :wink:
     
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    It's difficult for me to comment on this frankly because I'm sure you would dislike my honest opinion. However if the situation were reversed would you get a thrill out of objectifying her? Would she find it sexy and thrilling if the roles were reversed?
    Something to think about and perhaps discuss with her; but meanwhile it's your life and if you are happy the dynamics of your personal life are no ones business except the two of you.
     
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    Pittbull, you are right on the hitting a spot when she is on top. She likes taking it deep and rubbing her clit on my pelvic bone while she can feel the ridge of my cockhead push beyond her g-spot -- this magic combo makes her super wet really fast. She can cum hard on just clit stimulation alone too but needs a cock inside her for it to feel satisfying.

    It is not a bad situation. It is a big turn on being a tool or a piece of meat. I guess it is the public display of the situation that has caused friends to give me words of caution.
     
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    Yes you are her bitch....

    Asking the question, is practically answering it...think about it..

    But do you mind it?

    My feelings say you don't..
     
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    Do you pay your own way, rent-wise? Or does she cover all of your expenses? If she's paying for everything, then I might suggest you re-examine your position. I've been in a vaguely similar place before, and it just didn't feel right.

    Although her showing you off at parties sounds like a lot of fun. I've had girls brag about me when I walked out of the room, but I've never been shown off.

    Best of luck!
     
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    Yep, you're her bitch.
     
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    If you don't like being shown off then you need to tell her that.
    People like to show off.
    Why do people spend a small fortune on a car?
    Or buy a house bigger than they need?

    I bet if you got her some jewelry with a big shiny diamond she would have to show everyone - look at the big thing she has that they don't.
    Same thing with your penis - look at the big thing she has that they don't!
    She knows they are all jealous and that makes her feel good.

    Maybe she is an exhibitionist by proxy. :confused:
    (Does that condition even exist? If not can I get credit for describing a new condition?)

    In a similar situation.
    No bulge viewings.
    But a little odd when going into an office building with 150-200 women and probably everyone of them knows you have a big dick.
    Wonder what they are thinking when they are looking at you.
     
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    i'm in a similar situation, but i still pay for most of her stuff, and i don't get to meet her friends.
     
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    Exactly the same.............
     
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    "I guess it is the public display of the situation that has caused friends to give me words of caution."

    That line is what bothers me the most not the fact that you are her "bitch" and just a piece of meat. When friends that know you and the situation; is causing them alarm it is time for you to put an end to the public displays.
     
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    yes, to the OP

    and yes, you're her bitch as well
     
  19. coolhungluke

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    And I have friends trying to set me up on dates because of this concern.
     
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    But is it just your friends who are concerned, or are you concerned too? If you are happy and comfortable with the situation, tell your friends so and ask them to back off. Your relationship may be unconventional, but that doesn't mean it is negative.

    If you aren't comfortable with the situation however, you need to have a talk with your partner or end the relationship.
     
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