Am i an a""hole for not wanting a relationship with a single mother??

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  1. B_theaussieone

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    I dont want to be raising another man's child, spending money on another man's child. But a female friend who's a single mother thinks im an asshole because of it.
     
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    hey its your life, your money, your choice. not an asshole, a little narrow minded maybe. you could miss out on a great gal, and a great kid(s).
     
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    no you are not an a$$hole but you should free your mind some
     
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    The older you get, the harder it will get to find a woman that don't have kids. I have one friend and one nephew that are both 31, they are both being picky.
     
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    im hoping to have a woman younger then i am who doesnt have kids, or i'll settle for nothing.

    better alone, then paying some woman's child's tuition,schooling, food, board etc.
     
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    some friend she is ... thinking you're an asshole.
     
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    Not an asshole. Maybe have an agreement that the money is kept seperate if that is the main issue. And yes if you are with her you will get involved in raising the child, to some extent.
     
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    She sounds angry. You are not an A-hole for not wanting to be involved in any situation, be it already with child, already divorced, etc. Although you may be missing out on an/some awesome realtionships.
     
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    not wanting to date a woman with kids doesn't make you an asshole.
    is harsh, but you're being honest about what you're willing to give to another person.
    you're not wasting her time, or yours.. or making an emotional connection with a child that the lil tyke will ultimately lose.

    like Mr. Countryguy added.. you might be missing out on something good.

    now. some of your follow up comments... well.. there is a strong possiblity that you might be an asshole. or, have asshole like tendencies.
     
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    I have to agree with this opinion.
     
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    now you're an asshole:biggrin1:
     
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    but i dont get why i should pay for her childs education, living expenses etc. it's not my child.
     
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    Because its part of the package.
     
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    Of course you don't have to have a relationship with a single mother if you don't want one.

    Conversely, I don't know any single mothers who would want a relationship with someone who resented their child.
     
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    I understand that the male head of many animals groups (baboons and lions come to mind) kill the offspring of any female in the group that it did not impregnate. So, from a biological viewpoint, your feelings are understandable.

    Of course, if you want to think of yourself as something other than an ape or a big cat...
     
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    I know a guy that took on two small children when he married and subequently had two more with the mother. He calls himself a father of four. At the moment he's thrilled to have become a grandfather for the first time, even though there's no direct blood connection, because that's his role in their lives.
     
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    **hittin the "LIKE" button** :biggrin1:
     
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    i don't think you should have a relationship with a single mother. that you would always see the kids as ''some other man's child'' instead of as your new family, that you would resent every penny of yours that was spent on them, should be a deal breaker to any decent mother anyway.

    you'd be more of an arsehole if, knowing these things about yourself, you did have a relationship with one. imagine how much that would fuck the kids up.
     
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