I've started dating someone I met online. He's very polite, nice, sweet, funny and things have been going pretty well. He's not at all the type of guy that I'm used to, but I'm trying to be very open-minded about it, after all the type of guy that I'm used to doesn't seem to be working and I'm trying to recognize this and change it up. We have been on 2 dates and have been talking for about 2 weeks (he's anxious to see me more, but I'm so busy that I just don't have much free time). Right from date one he has made sexual references and his sense of humor is a bit raunchy. But I have shrugged it off that he's a guy and I guess I prefer confidence to shyness as I can be pretty shy myself about sexual stuff until I get really comfortable with someone. He has been pushing to get me out of the public for date #3, and I just wasn't sure I was ready for that but had kind of decided I might go along with it - especially after I posted another thread about how long people wait for sex and realized it might be pretty standard timing. I guess I haven't done alot of formal dating, usually picking up relationships with men I have known as friends first. So after date #2, I had really nice time and it had ended with kissing, touching, etc. I thought that maybe I would go for it if thats what he wanted on date #3. Then the next morning he was texting me how he had a great time and how he couldn't wait to see me again, how he went to be revved up... and had dreamed about me and it was really hot. So I asked him what happened in his dream. Well, the response I got was pretty shocking. As it turns out he likes male domination kinky stuff. That is REALLY not my bag. He was talking about tying me up, on and on. I told him that was never going to be anything more than a dream. I was kind of surprised, he seems so gentleman-like - hand kissing, etc.
So, loads of concerns here. Please tell me what you think - am I over-reacting? First, I don't know him that well and he's a very large, very strong man. For some reason all this gives me mental images of being forcibly tied and overpowered. I know I watch too many movies... I don't want to seem closed minded here, but I really wouldn't enjoy this kind of sex, it's just not for me. He continues to pursue me even though I've told him it's not my thing - is he thinking he can convert me? Or is he thinking he can live without fulfilling these types of desires? Or is he a predator? Maybe I should just be walking away at this point? Anybody have some insight about this?
So, loads of concerns here. Please tell me what you think - am I over-reacting? First, I don't know him that well and he's a very large, very strong man. For some reason all this gives me mental images of being forcibly tied and overpowered. I know I watch too many movies... I don't want to seem closed minded here, but I really wouldn't enjoy this kind of sex, it's just not for me. He continues to pursue me even though I've told him it's not my thing - is he thinking he can convert me? Or is he thinking he can live without fulfilling these types of desires? Or is he a predator? Maybe I should just be walking away at this point? Anybody have some insight about this?