Stephenmass
Legendary Member
It's not about you, or about free drinks. It's about having a daring experience with her friends, and stepping outside her comfort zone. You are both young, and she is exploring herself. Now, you can respond to that in whatever way feels best to you. Perhaps this is something you can tolerate, perhaps it is not. There's no right or wrong. Wherever your boundaries lie, their defense is entirely up to you.
I would comment on one other thing. You refer to her as "mine". She isn't. She's hers. She shares parts of herself with you, but neither of you can control the other. You can each only make plain your boundaries, and insist that they be respected. If either one of you cannot stay on the correct side of the other's boundaries, there may be bad news for the relationship unless those boundaries are moved.
I cut and pasted a shorter version of what you said here in a longer version; I wanted to read the replies first to see if anybody already covered it.
about someone i love so much showing her stuff off like that even if i know shes mine
For quite awhile I thought I was the only one that picked up on that. She is not "HIS" and vice versa. You (the OP) talk about her as a possession instead of a serious g/f. This can be seen as smothering and controlling. With you, she didn't want to show herself until maybe she felt comfortable enough to at least feel she wouldn't be hurt (or self conscious). With you, showing her breasts to you is different than a quick flash while she is out with the girls. Is it a bachelorette party? They may have a few to loosen the inhibitions, and if all it takes is a quick flash of "tit" to get a free drink, nothing more, nothing less, what's the big deal?
Be careful what you wish for. Sometimes controlling someone that way, however subconsciously you may be doing it, will drive them away.
Been there, done that and I was the one that left!