Am i bi?

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  1. kelvinc

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    Hi,

    I love women and have a very high sex drive, in fact i think im a sex addict! Trouble is, although i appear confident and am good looking i struggle to meet and pick up women in bars/clubs etc. 'cos of this i use a lot of escorts, which i cant really afford.
    Recently its been really turning me on the thought of oral sex with a bloke?
    Any advice??....
     
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    That doesn't necessarily mean your bisexual you are just contemplating experimentation. Doing something once doesn't mean your bi or gay.
     
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    it makes you open minded. i have met straight men who have had a m/m fling , enjoyed it, had a good laugh together, and gone back to their hetero life.
     
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    It would make you one of the majority. Most people are not gay or straight, but somewhere on the bi spectrum. I've done erotic sex work with bi guys for 2 decades and many may end up having either an isolated or one of just a few isolated incidents of male/male sex experiences. Others end up loving sport sex with guys for the ease of it and relationship sex with women. Oral sex with a sex worker could be a good way to go about doing this without the stress of being with and unknown person.
     
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    You guys worded it much beter than I did haha.
     
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    Let it happen matey
    Your on your way to new experiences .. i reckon
    If and when you do, try not to let any nasty thoughts creep in.
    Just enjoy it all .. before & well after.
    Personally i have never considered myself Bi - and i have had both relationships
    Can be a convenient cover sometimes.
    I think its the Negatives that we allow in our heads, that foul any sex act
    Its all Good stuff
    GOOD Luck
    enz
     
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    sure, why not.
     
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    I think this is very honest of you. You are not in denial as many, many other males.

    It appears to me, unless you haven't told us everything (now here I come again... lol), that you are in search of a very punctual experience: oral sex. You don't want to kiss, to hug, to cuddle with, to fuck or be fucked by, to fall in love with, etc another man. Right?

    My hunch is that you should go for it, unless you are able somehow to hold these thoughts in check, which may not be a healthy thing to do.

    Don't worry about labels. In any case, you could be redefining yourself, or may be not. You don't have to share this with anyone else. It is your secret.

    Enjoy and keep your head cool at the same time, if this is possible.

    "The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it." - Oscar Wilde
     
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