Am I bi?

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hey guys,

my life in short:
* I'm almost 23 yo, really shy guy.
* I look good - thin body type, practice 3 times a week and 7" cock.
* Spend most of my teen years watching porn mostly gay one (always been curious to know how it would feel like being a bottom)
* 2 months ago I met my 1st gf, which was a friend of mine for 2 years and we decided to take it to the next level.
* I didn't really fall in love with her (she's over weight, and not exactly my type) but it just happened and we started dating.
* When it got to sex, well, let's say, that it wasn't stand in any of my and her expectations.
* I thought it was because of me doing it for the 1st time, but the story keep repeating itself almost any time since.

and now I started to question my sexual identity...

what I feel about guys:
Sexually:
* I feel that I attract only to twink or smooth-muscles guys, and a big cock ones.
* I find all the other types as unattractive at all.
* It's accord to me more than once that I've fantasized being a bottom to a guy with a big cock
* But I also know, from my experience of jerk off to porn, that after I cum I lose all interest in the video.

romantically:
* I have absolutely no ramantic desire in any type of a guy.
* I don't feel the need to spend time together (as a couple), I don't like the idea of kissing, hugging, or just sitting/lying next to eachother cuddling.
* I'm 100% sure that my feelings aren't related to what the majority of society think about gay relationships. (I am very liberal and have nothing against it)


what I feel about girls:
Sexually:
* I adore the woman body.
* I find that I attract mostly to girls who aren't too fat nor too thin.
* In porn I find to love more an emotional sex rather than the regular porm videos.
(like this one: Veronica Radke sexy teen brunette fucked and creampie - Pornhub.com)

romantically:
* I have a really huge romantic desire in some girls.
* I can't see myself growing old without a girl that would be my wife by my side.
* When I try to hit on with a girl I like, I sometimes have those "butterflies". :redface:
* I know that if I had a girl that I truly love I would like to kiss her and cuddle with her in any moment possible, and taking her to a romantic places.


Really like to hear what do you think - am I straight, bi or gay?
 
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I would say your horny. I like big cocked twinks too, but i also like pussy. I like the term bisexual, so I use it, but Im probably just a slut. Lol
 

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I like girls and guys, but rather than say I'm bisexual I prefer the term omnisexual or pansexual to describe my wide range of attraction. Sexuality can't always be put into categories. To me its a grey and fluctuating area. I've been attracted to a wide variety of types in both genders: butch, fem, androgynous. I didn't become sexually active until in my 20s, and the way I am (especially being comfortable with my sexuality) in my 30s compared to then is very different.
 

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As you get older those preferences will expand. I was picky at first also, but some experiences outside my preferences really showed me that sex was just as great with them as it was with the preferred. It all comes with experience my friend. But yes I think you are bi.
 

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My suggestion is to not allow a label dictate who you are. It simply doesn't matter what label you are. You will still have the same feelings, regardless of the label.

Secondly, we can't label you, only you can since you know and understand your own feelings much better than we do.

But if absolutely must have a label, bi sounds reasonable enough based on the information you gave. Just don't let the label (whatever one you decide on) dictate your actions. You are who you are, not the label. The label is there for easier classification purposes.
 

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Your definitely bisexual, Im exactly like you. I have a wife and kids and I love WOMEN AND MY WIFE, but i also love to suck cock and get fucked by a nice huge cock.

But the fact that you dont have any romantic feelings towards men or wanna cuddle or any of that stuff, Im positive your just like me. I only like cocks for sexual fun, if my wife had a cock and a pussy, then I wouldnt ever need a man.

As for you not wanting your girlfriend, its simple dude, you just not attracted to her and thats all. Nothing wrong with that, we all have our own types. Once you find a chick that you dig, you will be all over her and happy as hell. But im sure you will always crave a cock for side fun. Thats how I am and I love it!!
 

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I had a hard time getting used to the fact that I liked to suck cock, and get fucked by a nice big wide thick cock for most of my life, and then I just accepted it, and went on. Like you I have no emotional attatchment to these guys, just my girlfriend, and wife after we are married.
 

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I had these same worries once too, and same feelings. Exact same. Trying to justify and analyze everything you feel, but this is, in fact, holding you back. A lot of times you don't feel the romantic need for guys, etc, because you've been socially conditioned not to. You don't give yourself the chance. Once I let go, just opened up, tried it out, I realized I didn't have to hide. I can feel everything I feel for a woman with a man, and I'm proud. I'd definitely say your bi, follow it!
 

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I agree with everyone here. I think you are bi, but you won't know for sure until you've actually tried it, and decided for yourself.

I also considered myself straight until I had a MMF threesome, and it made me realize that I'm just horny. I like and can appreciate a man and a woman, and that isn't a bad thing at all. Don't worry about any labels, it's something I hate myself...but I do consider myself bi now. It's really no one's business who/what you like to do.

Just do what your gut tells you, and do what makes you happy, as long as you're safe about it. Good luck!
 

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I'm going to have to disagree with everyone on here just for the sake of being able to.

1) You've watched mostly gay porn all of your life. It's a pretty good indication what your sexuality is.

2) You're an attractive guy dating an overweight girl. 99% of the time you see this pairing it's safe to assume the guy isn't being honest with himself.

3) You've had sex with a girl and there weren't any fireworks at all.

4) You have NOT had sex with a guy yet from what I gather. Let's just put it this way, gay sex is way more intense. Doubtful you'll ever find a woman who's made a man's knees wobble after she's gone down on him or one who's been able to make her man cum without ever touching his dick.

5) You fantasize about bottoming. IF you haven't bottomed yet, once you do you're going to turn into one huge bottom.

6) Honestly, yes, it is social conditioning. No man wants to be a fag. If being straight caused a man to be labeled a fag then only 5% of them would admit to it.


--- Most likely though you're bisexual, just like most (as in 80%) of the population is. It's a shame not all of us can be true bisexuals though, finding both equally attractive.
 
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It's difficult to respond in terms of this. Be who you are and like what you like; worry about the labels later. Before I came to accept bisexuality as the word I identify with, I had plenty of people telling me to "wake up," "grow up," etc. and admit I was the label they felt was fitting. Whatever you are, we're here to support.
 

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Labels are for confused individuals who think inside the box. I love pussy and I love Dick. But if I had to say when I accepted the label. I was in my twenties and was in the military. I was in Georgetown with my oldest brother who is gay. Then it occurred t me that I loved sucking and fucking guys as much as women. I'm not ate up with the label. It just helps me deal with in the box types. Some women will fuck the shit out of you, willingly. If they think your straight. Same guy same cock same pussy ripping. Until they know your bi. Then it's all icicles and brick walls. I'm ok with that! Because there are. Women who will really throw there freak on even more if they know your bi (guess its a turn on for them).
 
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Why Some Straight Men Are Romantically or Sexually Attracted to Other Men

During the last three decades, in reaction to prejudiced and destructive anti-gay attitudes, we've seen the pendulum swing so far in the other direction that it's now become almost a therapeutic credo, not to mention a requirement of political correctness, to assume that men who have sex with men are "in denial" and need help to recognize and accept their "true" homosexual orientation. In fact, neither extreme represents the experience of many men. The truth is that many men who have sex with men aren't gay or even bisexual. Although their mental and emotional state resembles that of the initial stages of coming out, gay and bisexual men go on to develop a gay or a bisexual identity, whereas these men don't.

Not saying this is you 22guy, but its something to consider if you really need to label yourself (which I encourage you not to do).
 

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No man wants to be a fag. If being straight caused a man to be labeled a fag then only 5% of them would admit to it.
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I agree with nycmcmike...i myself used to believe that i was bisexual and just liked looking at guys but I didn't feel like I had any emotional connection with a guy. I always told myself that I couldn't ever imagine dating a man or having a long term relationship with a man. The reason I felt that way is because I'd never had a relationship with a guy before. It wasn't until I met my boyfriend that I realized who I truly was and what it was that I wanted exactly. It takes some experience to figure out what it is that you want from life. Like nyc said, no man wants to be a fag (I wouldn't necessarily use that particular word, but it is what it is). I hid from myself for a long time, denying that I was gay, and planning on never telling anyone about it and just living a "normal" life and get married and just have a bf on the side. But none of that is fair, for any party involved. Most of all, it isn't fair to you. You have to be true to who you are, because if not, it will eat you alive. Be true to yourself. Dig deep and maybe even explore a little bit. Find out who you really are and I promise you'll be better for it.