Am I Bi?

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Great comment ! I'd also like to point out the fact the secrecy around the topic. A lot of us keep this as a deep secret because of the fear of society or simply because we don't want that side of us to define who we are and how we are perceived. So it becomes nearly impossible to find someone in your circle (or anyone that exactly fits with your age group, background, interest), someone that will understand and relate with you and fulfill that need without the headaches, fear, guilt and anxiety, a real buddy. The urges might drive you to experiment through NSA hookup, which mostly will leave you unsatisfied or even more ashamed (not to mention the risks). Why can't I find that person in real life
Thankfully I was able to find a wank buddy. He’s bi but realized a long time ago that he’d probably not go back to women as the sex is more consistently better with men. He’s very understanding of my situation and is good at being patient in what I want to do. He’s opened my mind to more things with trust. But most of all we do actually see the world similarly. Humor etc. but it was just lucky. Made contact through Tumblr coz his comments impressed me.
 

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Thankfully I was able to find a wank buddy. He’s bi but realized a long time ago that he’d probably not go back to women as the sex is more consistently better with men. He’s very understanding of my situation and is good at being patient in what I want to do. He’s opened my mind to more things with trust. But most of all we do actually see the world similarly. Humor etc. but it was just lucky. Made contact through Tumblr coz his comments impressed me.
That is an awesome situation and I would love to be so lucky. It is great to see it is possible to work out that agreement
 

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You’re more curious than bi. I have wouldn’t say you were bi until you’ve experienced another man and liked it.
Agree. There are many areas that just don’t really turn me on about sec with men. More of a fetish with penis. I’m very cock and balls focused.
 

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Agree. There are many areas that just don’t really turn me on about sec with men. More of a fetish with penis. I’m very cock and balls focused.
But either way, I enjoy both and find I can’t live without either. Is that just curiosity?
 
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I could understand that but that depends on access to right?
Somewhat. I would you suck a dick if you could? Like suck the cum right out of it? Does it make you hard thinking About it. Those are questions that help
 
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Easy enough, yes it does. Not anything further (sex, rimming, etc) but that’s more of a preference right?
I’ve been rimmed and enjoyed that and had a bud use a prostate massager in me while he jerked me off. That was the first time I felt my arse could be a pleasure zone. Usually it’s just smelly or itchy or I have hemaroids - so the thought of friction from a big dick doesn’t appeal to me
 
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39 and married. I have never been with a guy but jerkoff to straight, bi, and gay porn. So what’s my deal? I don’t know. I consider myself bi because I enjoy sex with my wife but have a desire to jerkoff with another guy and maybe give head but I think that is as far as I would go. I have always kept this to myself. What are your thoughts?
Exactly same situation. Same age, everything lol
 

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39 and married. I have never been with a guy but jerkoff to straight, bi, and gay porn. So what’s my deal? I don’t know. I consider myself bi because I enjoy sex with my wife but have a desire to jerkoff with another guy and maybe give head but I think that is as far as I would go. I have always kept this to myself. What are your thoughts?
I have considered this question too. You are definitely NOT alone or unique.

I enjoy all kinds of erotica; somtimes this, sometimes that. Among my preferences is “Big Cock” porn; solo scenes, frot, gloryhole porn, etc. I like the hypno, “you wish you were that girl sucking that dick” porn (mostly cuz they usually feature nice dicks, ..... I have come to really appreciate and be fascinated by good looking, big dicks.

But, I have thought about the “bi” thing and I think there is a spectrum within that ..... label? .... too. For example, when I am out and about, in a crowd, going about my life, I never look at men and regard them as “attractive” or not. I don’t think of them as potential sexual partners. I don’t even crotch-watch, DESPITE my appreciation of a naked (and I DO mean shaved!) dick.

The kicker for me is, as has been said, I’ve never had a male sexual experience so, for these reasons, I do not consider myself “bi”. But I envy those who have embraced it and make it work. I do believe if I had the opportunity and access to men who appealed to me sexually, I would definitely be “bi“ ....... often! But even then I’d undoubtedly remain closeted.
 

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I have considered this question too. You are definitely NOT alone or unique.

I enjoy all kinds of erotica; somtimes this, sometimes that. Among my preferences is “Big Cock” porn; solo scenes, frot, gloryhole porn, etc. I like the hypno, “you wish you were that girl sucking that dick” porn (mostly cuz they usually feature nice dicks, ..... I have come to really appreciate and be fascinated by good looking, big dicks.

But, I have thought about the “bi” thing and I think there is a spectrum within that ..... label? .... too. For example, when I am out and about, in a crowd, going about my life, I never look at men and regard them as “attractive” or not. I don’t think of them as potential sexual partners. I don’t even crotch-watch, DESPITE my appreciation of a naked (and I DO mean shaved!) dick.

The kicker for me is, as has been said, I’ve never had a male sexual experience so, for these reasons, I do not consider myself “bi”. But I envy those who have embraced it and make it work. I do believe if I had the opportunity and access to men who appealed to me sexually, I would definitely be “bi“ ....... often! But even then I’d undoubtedly remain closeted.
So true, this is exactly my situation.
 
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There’s nothing wrong with that. You really don’t have to define yourself at all, i.e. straight or bi. Just be yourself. I have communicated with quite a few married guys (and been with a few) who craved a dick in their mouth but that’s about all they wanted. Personally I think they are missing out in some great pleasure but that’s just me. :) As to whether your bi or not, I would guess that if you check out guys at social gatherings or in crowds then you are probably bi. If your urge to jerk off a guy or suck his dick gets stronger you are probably bi but it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Just be you. Once you cross the line (if you ever do) you might want more or you might not. And good for you for jerking off to all kinds of porn. As the previous poster said, it’s more common than you think. Feel free to PM me if you want to ask me anything. Support is important.
It is more common that most people would believe. I think it's perfectly normal to have some bi feelings or attractions. The tricky part is, how much of bi-ness do you let into your daily life? We are all different and all have different aspects that we can let in or keep out. It's not easy.
 

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Yep. Why use labels. I’m “sexual” and I do things I like to do. A regular wank buddy I have used to be married and he now reckons man on man sex is better so “probably” won’t go back to women. But he misses the romance and the softness and the companionship of a woman. But he likes the no fuss up front manliness of man sex. He says being fucked or having a man in him is great as the warmth and the feel is nothing like a dildo. But I don’t see my arse as a pleasure zone so we haven’t pursued that. My fascination is dick. So it’s about having limits and deciding for yourself what you are comfortable with.
main thing for me is not to put my wife in danger from my sexual activity so I am careful about STDs. That would end my marriage immediately. Perhaps it should…. So I don’t do randoms. Even if this wank buddy convinces me to try anal (and I am thinking about it) I would take that carefully.
I get concerned when blokes on here want to try something and rush out to find a random to do it with. Doesn’t usually end well. But there is a place for random sex. Sex between men does have that excitement of the random…. I don’t mind mutual HJs in the park. But the main thing is be reflective on what you want and I have always found other men more than accepting of that. Know yourself and to thin own self be true is what Shakespeare said. Have you touched another stiff dick ? That is something amazing. Really good
Is your wife aware that you're bi, and have experiences with men?