Am i bisexual

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  1. 3ch0

    3ch0 New Member

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    Over the pass year or so i've been visiting gay/bi websites and watching the porn - now quite recently i've been getting my gf to rim me and insert toys in to me, does this make me bi ? as i dont fancy men at all, but i do fantasize about there cocks and having sex with them, when i was 17 i experimented with my best friend, we dint go as far as sex but did all the rest, 6 mths later i tried with an older man, but didnt have sex again, jus the normal as with best friend, few years later i started ringing the gay chat lines for meets and wot not and i finally got one, we did the norm an a massage but no sex again,
    i mus stress i am not attracted to these men at all, i dont look at them and think your gorgeous, cos i love women, i jus cant stop fantasizing about other mens cocks and having sex with them, after the gf has started using toys on me and i love every minute of it - the thing is im in a long term relationship with a women and we have 3 lovely children, i just don't want her to think i'm weird, maybe i'm jus kinky as she says, as i'd never ever kiss a man, and as i said i'm not attracted to men, jus there cks, am i just
    greedy maybe ?

    As title says again Am i bi

    PS hope this is right section & thx's in advance
     
  2. trumasseur

    trumasseur New Member

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    Individuals are not attracted to genders alone, many just don't realize nor have discerned what combination of variables "does it" for them. that's what can become extremely interesting and be a lifelong learning curve.
    Don't label yourself, you are an individual in the process of discovery. Exciting!
     
  3. drrionelli

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    Excellent reply, trumasseur!

    Labels are pointless. Most people are so socio-culturally influenced with regard to the whole straight, bi, gay thing that they don't stop to realize that these are nothing more than constructs. Animals exhibit same-sex behaviours, but do we label them gay or bi? Of course not.

    Besides, even if you did find yourself attracted to some man (or men) at some point, you probably should celebrate the fact. Most people don't ever find that same-sex person to whom they're attracted because they either don't allow themselves to feel it or they suppress the attraction!

    Remember, if it's consensual and it feels good, then it's OK to do. :wink:

    Enjoy yourself...life's too short to do otherwise.
     
  4. rickygNOLA

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    chances are, if you have to ask.....

    well, at any rate, i think you should just go with it.
     
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    be happy be safe and most of respect yourself.
     
  6. Phil Ayesho

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    Welcome to the club...

    One of the most common sexual behaviors in men is the ability to separate SEX as a pleasure from Attraction, as a relationship.


    I, too, love everything about men's cocks... but do not have any romantic attraction to men... just to the sexual activity and sensation provided by a cock.

    Having a woman who will strap one on for you is a real plus...
    Be aware that, as you and the GF experiment and become comfortable with this, there may be a tendency to want to "up the stakes".

    In my book, sex with one woman and two men, is the best that sex ever gets....

    But it is an almost impossible dynamic to maintain... and can be a serious threat to the stability of your primary relationship.

    Whatever you do, keep it honest with your GF, and be considerate of her feelings and needs.
     
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    I understand how you feel. I used to ask myself that as well, becasue I felt the same way. I'm sexually atracted to men's cocks as well, but I'm straight.To me a woman with big breast and a beautiful body is as sexy as a man with a huge cock. My advise, don't label yourself bi. your sexually attracted to women, but your only attracted to a man's penis, so I'd call you straight but your sexually open, a 2-2.5 on the Kinsey scale. Your straight, yet your appreciate the male organ as you would a woman's body theres nothing wrong with that
     
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    yes, you are bi...
    and the world didn't end...
     
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    Leave it to killerb to have a pithy, on-target answer!

    Hey, guy, I'm bi, and it's a part of me that I have come not only to accept ... but to cherish. That sounds goofy and precious, but I mean it.

    Look, my advice? Go with the feelings. You're young enough to take some risks, try some stuff, and then decide what you think. Play safe ... go with what you feel ... don't worry about classifications; no one's keeping a spreadsheet somewhere moving you from "straight" to "bi" to "gay."

    Take responsibility for your own sexual pleasure and check some shit out that's available to you now.
     
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    B_bi_mmf New Member

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    Amen. So well put.
     
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    I think you should not label yourself. You should explore and enjoy and be honest with yourself.
     
  12. kingkhan

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    labels are meaningless but, I think those who do label themselves bi are similar to you they like women but, also like cock. To me I think its almost a projection of liking your own cock onto liking other men's cocks. And I understand what you are going through I feel the same way I like women but, like the look of cock.
     
  13. 3ch0

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    thanks for every bodys response, its greatly appreciated, and maybe i'll discover 1 day
    without labeling my self, as i said i dont fancy men in the slightest, just a fantasy of cks
    even tho i ve done the oral but no sex.

    thx
     
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    The company, passion, sex and presence of women really turns me on and I only have serious relationships with women. I enjoy the company of men and being in the presence of men but it does not turn me on in the same way. But I also enjoy sex with men but not in the same there is not the passion and there is a totally different mind set. I could never form a relationship with a man the same way as I do with a women.

    My coming to terms with be bi and first venturing into sex with a man (not very well put as it makes it sound like a decease which it is not)took me years I started the same looking at gay porn etc but the urge to have sex with another man became greater and greater it took a lot of deep soul searching and a number of aborted attempts, I was really concerned that I could really screw myself up, guilt trip etc but the urge became insatiable.

    Take your time in making your mind up its not a race whether you decide to take the plunge or not there is no right or wrong. You could be entirely happy remaining bi-curious just enjoying looking at other mens body's and watching men having sex together but never wanting to actually do it.
     
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