Am I Gay or Straight?

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  1. Cupid92

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    I have always been bullied in school for a good 5 years until highschool and everyone laid off. I think that because I was bullied it made me think, am I gay?

    Right now I will admit I have had fantisies about the same sex. I have also tried it with another male (didn't enjoy it, didn't do much). I have also watch gay porn. After it I feel gross, but I always feel like going back for more.

    Comments from all welcome please, help me find myself!
     
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    Stop worrying about the labels and JUST BE U!!

    God doesn't make any junk - be proud of who U R!!!!
     
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    I could talk to you for hours about this. If you want to correspond or chat, get in touch.
     
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    I know many of you are looking for cut and dried ways to determine your sexual orientation. Perhaps a quiz you can take. If only it were that easy!! Unfortunately, determining your sexual orientation is not that simple. It is something that will take time and self-reflection to determine. Talking to a therapist or a gay coming out group may help.

    The important thing to remember is that your sexual orientation is not something you can choose. You can, however, choose to act on it or not. If you are happily married and find yourself attracted to a male friend, it might be quite alarming to discover that you are bisexual. But it does not mean that you need to act on those feelings.

    Remember whether you are gay, straight or bisexual you will be most happy and fulfilled if you live a life true to yourself.

    ;)
     
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    Thanks for the tips! I like women though more then men, I just can't explain the eurges towards males to myself?
     
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    I can refer you to my hottie friends :p
     
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    Thanks for the offer, they female?

    See I caught myself, I like females during times but there are times when I like males, although my sexual experiances with males weren't all that fun!
     
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    Dang it I can give you both :) .. if you like part asians though :) theyre mixed breeds of asians just like me :)
     
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    How old are you?
     
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    You are the only one who knows whether you're gay or not. Some dick head bully doesn't know shit all about you and can't tell you shit about yourself.

    Very common, many straight guys do, whether they admit it or not. A fantasy is just that, a fantasy.

    That's called sexual experimentation, again, big deal, if you tried it and didn't like it, chances are, you've just explored a degree in bisexuality.

    Guilt is also common for guys making their first steps into exploring their gay sexuality. It's a clash between nature and enforced social expectations. It goes in time, as there is nothing to be guilty about.

    You are what you are, fact. In my opinion, you're bigger than any bully for actually having the balls to explore your gay or bisexual feelings. Some gay men never leave the closet.
     
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    Thank you very much Rugbypup, as long as I know im not alone. I guess its part of life, and thanks for putting the info like that! It really boosts confidence!

    Thank you all for your support.

    I was just curious thats all, being bullied for years really sinks in.
     
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    Bullies tend to fall into two camps.

    Those that bully to re-enforce a belief or bigotry impressed upon them as truth by their parents, church or society in order to gain dominance and or acceptance with such people.

    Those that bully because they see in you something they know is in themselves. They can't handle it and the project their own internalized, repressed fear and hatred onto others. It is easier to destroy that which we fear, than try to embrace it.

    Often strong of body, yet often weak of mind if not soul = your run of the mill arsehole bully. The world is full of them, it's just one more thing for gay men to deal with, lol.
     
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    I let a man suck me off once, but i felt weird afterwards. Is that bi or gay or, something else?
     
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    Rhetorical question of the day, lol.
     
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