am i gay?

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  1. bigcock_lover

    bigcock_lover New Member

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    ok, here's the thing... i'm married but i have always wondered what it would feel like to perform oral on a guy. when i was younger, i have experimented with a friend... well, it was actually just touching, nothing sexual. i like to watch straight porn and am attracted to women but i also like to watch gay porn and can get off to it. i don't think there's anything wrong with gay porn because to me, porn is porn when it comes to consenting adults. i don't know... i'd like to give it a try but am afraid of hooking up with a complete stranger for fear of std's. i'd like to ask one of my friends (also married) if i can do it to him but what if he says no... i'll just look like a freak and lose a friend. has any other straight guys ever given head or even wonders what it would feels like?
     
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    Yeah! Ask him to the gym for a workout. Go to the showers and shower facing out. If he also faces out or nods or gets hard start talking with him about jacking off. Take it slow but after a few times you'll know if he is interested in the same thing you are.
     
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    Yes, you are gay. But who cares about the labels like gays, straight, bi, etc., ? Enjoy your life.
     
  4. Florida Boy

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    With a name like "Big Cock Lover" you'd ask if you are gay?
     
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    haha. lol. big cock lover could mean that i'm a lover with a big cock... but no, i'm average and i like to look at big cocks. *sigh*
     
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    I was in denial about my sexuality growing up but after a while i started to say to myself if i have to ask if im straight then im probly not but its different for every one. If you believe your straight and just want to experiment i don't see the problem with it. I feel bad for straight people who are with confused or closted gay people
     
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    It is far too simplistic and easy to be categorical in saying someone is gay or straight. Most men are "sexual" and can be turned on by many different things. That's why we try to use terms such as "bi-curious", "experimenting" etc. Being fascinated by other guys' big dicks is no indication that you're gay nor feeling curious about what it would be like to suck a penis.
    Other people's opinion is less important than the label you decide to attach to yourself.
    As for trying to seduce a friend into letting you give him a blowjob - it sounds rather risky. It depends on the quality of the friendship and how well you know each other psychologically and whether you can openly communicate. It's also about personal style - I, for example, would talk about my curiosity to a male friend and see how he reacts. Others might watch porn and masturbate together with a friend and then offer to blow him.
     
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    Dude - fetishes are sexual arousal to inanimate objects. Partialisms are sexual arousal to specific body parts. You may just have a partialism - be it to a body part of the same gender or opposite gender. Being sexual aroused by a body part of the same gender does not in and of itself make a person gay.

    For others to label you gay is trite and simplistic. For you to label yourself gay is the same trite and simplistic.

    There are aspects of gay: identity, emotional/romantic and behavioral/sexual. Some guys have the physical attraction (including partialisms) only and do not want a romantic relationship with a guy. It may even gross them out to think of dating a guy, having a romantic relationship with a guy and, or 'marrying' a guy and etc. (This is not the feelings of a GAY guy.) They may also be fulfilled in their heterosexual sex and love relationship with a woman. They may also identify themsleves as straight and have no desire to identify with the gay identity.


    Some guys long for emotional connection with guys and are turned off to think of having sex with them and do not identify with GAY. Is this guy gay? NOT! Too trite and simplistic to lump him into GAY.


    Do you love your wife? Do you want to be connected to her emotionally/relationally for life? Do you enjoy sex with her? Do you want to stay committed to her for life? Do you want a traditional family? If you answer yes to these questions would you say you're GAY? YOu have one componant of GAY - you have a partialism for penis. I don't think that makes you GAY.

    This is such a BIG issues. I did not do it justice here.

    Don't allow people or yourself to box you in just 'cause you may have a partialism. Hell look at all the straight guys on LPSG. Being GAY identified is more than just enjoying cock.

    Hang loose, Samuel
     
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    I hear ya 'Ray
     
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    Are you gay....this is a question you and ONLY you can answer. Others can tell you what they think, but you are the only person who can honestly say if you are gay. At this point, you may not know. You may not know for a short time or for a long while. And just because you are interested in being with another man sexually, doesn't mean you are gay. It means that you have a sexual attraction to men. Are you interested in a relationship with a man, other than a sexual or physical one? If so, you may find yourself leaning more towards the gay side of the scale, but still, gay, straight or bisexual are subjective and those labels are not universal for every case.
    As far as sucking a friend off, be extremely careful with this. If you are actually interested in pursuing this, I would suggest, as above, that you choose a buddy that would be interested in going to the gym or hanging out and just kind of lead into sexual talk. Maybe you can get a hint if he is interested.
    Although, I cannot in good faith tell you to cheat on your wife. But then again, it isn't really my place to tell you not to either! Good luck either way, and let us know what route you take!
     
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    Maybe you're like me, in that I all my life have had romantic/love feelings predominantly toward women, and only very rarely toward other guys. Physically, though, I'm turned on by both, and the proportion of my interest in one v. the other seems to shift back and forth. Right now, I'm tending a bit toward the 'gay' side of physical attraction, but it could well be that in a month, that's reversed.
    I'm well aware that given society's very strong cultural tilt toward heterosexuality, that my own 'orientation,' as such, may be partly a reflection of that. That is, maybe in a predominantly homosexually oriented society, I might have turned out predominantly gay. And conversely, had I been raised and subsequently confined (lol) in, say, Utah, well maybe my 'gay' urges would have been more fully repressed.
    Who knows? I just know that I enjoy being turned on by about double the percentage of bodies around me as most people. Love it.
     
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    Oh, almost forgot. As to your question of whether to approach a buddy to try out your urges, my 2 cents is probably NOT. Unless you're very sure he'd either be interested in doing it or is such a long and deep friend of yours that your coming onto him won't freak him out, I'd stay the hell away from a situation like that.
    As for me, the way I first 'road-tested' my own gay urges was through Craigslist hookups. Provided you're VERY careful, CL can be a very cool, tidy, totally anonymous, no-strings way to try out all sorts of fun stuff. Some you may like, some not, but I'll guarantee the experience will tell you some of the answers you're looking for -- as to what's going on with your sexuality.
    Good luck, be careful, but most of all, have FUN. Cheers.
     
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    Fit N' Fun, your posts were excellent.

    Human sexuality is very complex. Attraction to the penis or having physical attraction towards men doesn't automatically make a man gay. If it were only that simple...

    And sexually can be malleable over time for some people.
     
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    Just because he's your buddy doesn't mean he doesn't have an STD! Maybe he is cheating on his wife. Maybe his wife is cheating on him and he doesn't know. No way of knowing who has what.
     
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    my 2 cents
    it's all above my post, some very realistic viewpoints that i'm sure you will consider.
    labels (what a mess), at the very least they are confusing and most times wrong.
    to have a label for every Man's sexual expression would require a label for every Man.
    so what does all this mean?
    a married Guy who gives a Buddy a blow job, i don't think is gay, just experienced and certainly open-minded (the only way to be regarding sexuality)
    i know a married Guy who has a great sexual life with his wife, and they enjoy couples sex parties...at these parties, he says once the sex gets going, he's open for anything.
    and has done most everything that would be considered Male/Male sex - but only at those parties...is he Bi? dunno. what does he say? he says he's just Sexual. i say he's got a lot of sexual experience. no label
    -about your Bud. i say no, i think his friendship is more important than a blow-job.
     
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    DO NOT ASK A FRIEND TO LET YOU BLOW THEM!!! If a female friend asked to eat me I would stick my foot so far up in her ass you would think Nike was a foreign language. I suggest you seek out a discreet partner to get you freak on with.
     
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    i know the feeling, married with a kid. Marriage isn't the best, wish it was better. When it is like this I tend to be on this site more and more. I wish I tried more things in college. I would be interested if you ever try something with a guy. Did it satisfy an itch, or are you thinking you want more.

    Good luck with your decision.
     
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    I am bi single and prefer guys
    explore your sexuality safely of course
     
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    I love to look at big cocks, as well. Thus my almost 100% gay rating.
     
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    I was torn when it came to choosing that part of my profile. Initially I had put 99 Straight, but honestly I don't think It fits. I'm heterosexual but anything sexually oriented arouses me. Shit I kiss my girlfriend goodbye and instant erection.

    I would advise that you do not ask your friend to let you blow him UNLESS he shows some strong signs of curiosity. Be careful, because if your friend is even slightly homophobic this could get out of hand.
     
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