am i gay?

[Oliver_Clothesoff]

I think "fitnfun" really says it all. Just because you're attracted to the idea of blowing a guy doesn't mean you're gay. I think about it a lot. It's my dominent fantasy when I'm jerking off and when I'm watching porn I often wish I could trade places with the girl. I've been browsing the gallery photos lately and seen a lot of dicks I wouldn't mind having a go at. Do I consider myself gay? No.

I don't like gay porn or the thought of kissing a man and I get massively horney just looking at a hot girl with a nice rack. With one exception, I've never met a man I could actually have done anything with.

To me gay is an attraction to men that goes beyond wanting to try oral sex. It's finding a man attractive, wanting to be with him, and feeling the same way about him that I feel about my wife.

Lastly, do NOT try anything with your friend. I think something like that would really mess up your friendship. Instead, you might try something like this. Try bringing up the subject with your wife ("Sometimes I wish you had a dick so I could suck you like you suck me and show you how good it feels.") If she responds favorably stop by your local adult book store and buy a fake dick that appeals to you. Bring it to bed, tell her you want to try something you think she'll like, have her hold it in place and suck to your heart's content. Be sure to rub her pussy with your finger while you're down there. She may get into it more than you expect. I know this sounds a little strange and I'm not saying it's the same as the real thing (for one thing, it tastes and smells like rubber) but it's kind of fun and gives you a chance to live out your fantasy in a safe way. Isn't that a lot of what sex is about?

 

[slurper_la]

Yeah! Ask him to the gym for a workout. Go to the showers and shower facing out. If he also faces out or nods or gets hard start talking with him about jacking off. Take it slow but after a few times you'll know if he is interested in the same thing you are.

how old are you?

this sounds like life at the YMCA c.1970

just sayin'

 

[bigcock_lover]

thanks for the insight everyone...

just a little background. i have been with my wife for a really long time. dated for about 5 years and married for another 5. i have told her about my fantasies about being with a guy. i have been completely honest with her about that... i actually told her about it before we got married. i often make comments to her when i see a hot guy... in real life or in pictures, like, "i'd do him," or "i wonder how big his dick is." i guess she's somewhat ok with it because she doesn't get mad. she sometimes responds with, "you're so gay," or "are you sure you're not gay?"

i don't really like labels either so i wouldn't label myself gay or bi... but rather open minded. i don't picture myself actually dating or being in a relationship with a guy. i don't even picture myself kissing a guy. i just want to try sex. i fantasize about doing a guy in the ass or having oral sex. i have never fantasized about bottoming though. i have never acted on this and if i was put in the situation, honestly, i don't know if i'd follow through.

like i said, i am attracted to women... but there's just something about seeing a really toned guy with a big cock doing another really fit guy with a big dick that gets me hard, i.e. corbin fisher.

just a side note... fitnfun and calboner(?) are the types that i fantasize about.

as for the friend thing.... you guys make a good point, i'll stay away from that.

 

[bigman420]

A very in touch and current topic. I have a serious hold up though, because NO WHERE DID YOU MENTION HOW YOUR WIFE FELT OR WOULD REACT!!!! Do you care about your family? By that I mean those financially and emotionally dependent on you. Because other than making them seem like an inconvenience, you state nothing else about them. I mean seriously please don't tell the forum you forgot about your better half/kids...Sorry your days of experimentation ended when you said "I do." If you go through with this behind her back, then I hope SHE TAKES YOU FOR EVERYTHING YOU OWN!

 

[bigman420]

OK, ok. I apologize, because I just read your post above mine and you have clarified that you made it clear to her how you felt. A complete 180 here because as long as it's out in the open and done in trust, what goes on in a marriage is between the man and woman. Thanks for the additional background, and as long as you two continue to be honest, you'll be amazed at how far she's willing to go to please you.

 

[conntom]

you can like cock and not be all gay

i couldnt live myh life without the company of women....physically and emotionally - - but hey I still appreciate a big dick(maybe orally

 

[eurotop40]

forsakenthreads.com - Does this dick in my mouth make me look gay t-shirt

 

[motorcityboy]

I agree with naturist and fitfun, it's doesn't make you gay , just open.
How many women have experiment in college or high school.
Howmany "straight" males LOVE the idea of 2 women in bed with them?
Does that make his wife/girlfriend a lesbian?
Countless "Straight" mens , but not all, but plenty of straight men Love that fantasy .
as for your friend, I wouldn't unless he starts it. there are plenty of other guys out there willing to help you out ;-) for me what attracts me, is some one who is smart, masculine , confident ,and in shape
stay hard

 

[hungthickone]

Listen to Bigbull, Skyray, and Fitnfun. They all hit the mark. Plenty of ppl like you here and all over internet. Try Manhunt, its full of married guys(look for 'discrete', 'nsa', d/l,no face pics etc. as signs of married)or craigslist.
But your prob not gay(lifestyle) prob not homosexual either, maybe bi, just try it and see, if you still like pussy and enjoy cock, you might be bi.
Could turn out your only curious and its not for you.

 

[B_625girth]

yep, you'r gay or bi, not straight.

 

[ericbythebay]

I wouldn't try anything with a friend, unless that friend is clearly gay or bi. Straight guys tend to have a hard time letting go of a proposition for sex and it makes the relationship akward.

I have some married friends that identify as straight, but occasionally mess around with guys. They do it infront of or with their wife's permission.

Are you and your wife open to a threesome? It removes the cheating issue and if you don't blow or top the guy, there's still something for him to do.

 

[scottredleter]

The penis is a fascinating thing... It's about as close as human beings can get to being a changeling... the way it morphs into something completely different. Being fascinated by the penis doesn't make you gay. Wanting a man emotionally makes you gay, not the physical part. The word should really be homosocial... not homosexual.

 

[sounder1]

Good post scottredletter

 

[D_Circumcisus Skinless]

WoW, how utterly vacant of Thought, Emotion,with plenty of misdirect...the wrong info at the right time could devastate so many....where are the people who have actually gone through this process isn't this a Support group! LPSG?!...please don't be quick to judge people for being people or are we learning How to do that here as well?!....I hesitated to write this Post because I'm not certain that people would hear me or even give a damn st8, Gay, or Bi!

 

[avg_joe]

ok, here's the thing... i'm married but i have always wondered what it would feel like to perform oral on a guy. when i was younger, i have experimented with a friend... well, it was actually just touching, nothing sexual. i like to watch straight porn and am attracted to women but i also like to watch gay porn and can get off to it. i don't think there's anything wrong with gay porn because to me, porn is porn when it comes to consenting adults. i don't know... i'd like to give it a try but am afraid of hooking up with a complete stranger for fear of std's. i'd like to ask one of my friends (also married) if i can do it to him but what if he says no... i'll just look like a freak and lose a friend. has any other straight guys ever given head or even wonders what it would feels like?

I asked almost all of my straight friends to let me look their penises, and all of them allowed me to play with their dicks. Don't know much about the Western culture, and American culture when it comes to sexuality; I was born and raised in Southeast Asia, and many guys over there are willing to show their penises if you become their friend. Just my one cent opinion.