am i gay?

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The only way to know this and even then there is some question is to explore your sexuality. There are a number of things that may sound good or erotic when they are in thought that you may not be able to do when it comes down to it. There is also a wide difference between wanting to do some guy orally and being good at it or going past the exploration stages.

If you find that you really enjoy and get personal pleasure from performing this act (and there are many that do) you will then need to explore other aspects and or acts of sexual satisfaction between two men. You may find that you like some and dislike others. This is normal.

The next thing is to not label yourself as anything. A single gay sex act of any kind is not a marker for any kind or orientation. The number of males that jack off together to straight porn and even take each other off is staggering and most move on to heterosexual sex when the opportunity presents itself.

If you discover that you enjoy heterosexual sex acts and gay sex acts equally then if you insist on a label, you can then if YOU choose legitimately classify yourself in your own mind as being bisexual. If you enjoy one more than the other the appropriate classification might apply.

It is all a matter of degree.

You will notice that there is a percentage number here when it comes to straight or gay. This is the reason for that number.

The final thing is in fact not a sexual thing but an emotional thing. If you are not able to have an emotional connection in any manner with the person you are engaging in sex then you cannot judge anything by that person. If you are more easily able to have an emotional connection and attraction to a sex partner of a given sex that is the side that really dominates.

If you for example find yourself sexually attracted to men in emotional ways in that you enjoy being with them or contemplate what a life with that individual might be like that is an indicator of an emotional connection.

As a general rule most men are basic horndogs, most guys claiming that they are 100% straight can under the right circumstances successfully complete a sex act with a man. Conversely the same is true of a gay man having sex with a female. It is physically possible and in fact likely that it easily can be done, but the emotional connection may or may not be there to sustain the relationship.

If you must use a real marker for yourself use the emotional connection rather than the physical desire. Physical desire is simple horny, emotional connection means a great deal more.

Good Luck
 

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Mate, life is too short to be feeling guilty about this... I personally think
all humans are born bisexual so as long as you are not harming or
offending anyone else be happy with this... I am personally strictly into
foreskins - but go for the straight-uncut guys... can't believe my luck as
once we get on the discussion of being intact, seems a bonding seems to
happen... usually just lay them back to watch a straight porno and I give
them a good time and don't touch them above the neck... they are usually
very grateful as most girlfriends/wives don't know what to do with
a big foreskin cock when it comes to oral !!
Only another uncut guy knows what it is like to have a foreskin.
Don't fight your conscience; it's not good for your constitution.:smile:
Don't sterotype yourself into gay/straight/bi, etc... be yourself !
 

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I used to be like that, until the desire came to experiment and see if I liked sex with a guy, and yep sure did, infact it confirmed to me what I was surpressing for years.. I was married to a woman, but am now devorced and living with my male partner, after a lot of fun and experimenting inbetween ... Life is what you make it, explorer, try, just as you would a different type of food, if you like it you can have it again, if you don't like it, don't ... But remember with food it's how its cooked sometimes, like sex, with the right person it is fantastic, or ok, or unpleasant..
Trying won't make you gay, fantastising won't either, just enjoy everything.
 

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Man, thanks to webchats and sites like LPSG.org I have come to the conclusion that all of us males feel turned-on in some degree to manhood. One could imagine a scale going from 2 males beeing complementary in sex, to others where the turn-on is for admiration and identification, to some others where is the worship of a thing lacked in himself.

For myself, I'm very turned on by the sight of a big nice cock, its spurts of cum, and the overall apearance of the male body it is attached, none detail in special in that body. Could look at a pic of a nice package without its body and j/o to it for hours. Nowadays I consider frotting a hot thing to think of, but never realy had the chance to experiment it a lot. BUT any thought of penetrative sex w/ men is a big TURN OFF for me.

With women on the other hand, most of my thoughts are about shoving my dick inside a pussy, an ass or a mouth, I NEED TO BE INSIDE OF THEM, as if my cock were craving for a hot, moist tight place to hide. This craving for beeing inside a girl is directly proportional to the shape of her body (her ass specially), how much breast her clothes show, her wal, her smile. BUT I don't get any significant excitement from a pic of a pretty cunt without some of the girls body and preferably her face (at LEAST a pussy pic showing her breasts also).

Maybe we'll never find out if we are str8 or gay because we can't find where in this scale we fit (I filleed the form 50% str8 / 50% gay here and I'm a 28y/o adult, so...), maybe we are equaly as excited by femaleness and maleness. Maybe labels are just dull.


I'm turned on just by your response. :)
 

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Labels are indeed dull. Don't feel any pressure to apply one. If you want to experiment & take your secret thoughts further then I'd say "Go for it!" There are plenty of outlets these days!
 

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I feel the same way... I get turned on when I see two men having sex and stuff like that. However after I've hit my climax, it just isn't the same. Everyone goes through something like that whether it be sex or food. The thing is, it took me a while to get adjusted to this dilemma, but in the end I realized that I really was gay and the only thing holding me back was society's acceptance and feelings.

I say do what you do and live on