AM I GAY?

[BIGMUGGERDOG]

Exposition:

I’ve always had an…’attraction’ to males. My reason for phrasing it like that is because, Well… Let me just write it as best I know how - from the heart. I’ve always had an ‘attraction’ to males. It was a small, and rigorous attraction;however, it still classified as an attraction. Even though that attraction was very little, it was more dominant than most I’d feel to females. I myself am a male in his mid twenties and have felt this way for as long as I can remember. From an aesthetic point of view, I can find myself attracted to a select few of men. The criteria is a very ‘wheat from the chaff’ cherry picking competition. They must A - be extremeeeelyyy attractive. Two - the bottoms have to match the tops. Meaning: They must pass the Schlong test which the color, size, and the girth of the penis must match whom the penis is attached to. I must say that EVERY single minute detail pens as a part of the criteria checklist of what makes my little soldier wanna stand up. Although even after I sort out my feelings of attraction, I contemplate of any lustful scenarios I could see myself in. Fantasizing at my dream scenario partner, I would question where exactly there hands would touch me. Would it be a non-passionate or a passionate affair? The setting, quora, relationship of participants- All of that crosses my mind. You’d think: ‘If you have to question it that much then you must really be into it.’ But thats the thing, I don’t think I can actually really DO any of that. I could never see me being/want being in any relationship with any said man. It’s safe to say that: I have NO romantic interest towards ANY person of my gender. It’s safe to say that: Those feelings are concrete. I’ve even tried to solidify my hypothesis by safely exploring my sexuality(with a few guys, of course). I kissed some. I felt nothing. Did a little over the cover stuff and…NOTHING. Felt nothing when holding their hands. Felt nothing when I looked into their eyes. Felt nothing when they - quote;unquote - gave me head, nor when they sucked my nipples. I’ve realized that I’m desensitized to touch to some extent, and that plays a part;but, I’m confused on where my feelings of lust stem from. Ya know? What gets my ‘engine revving’? I’ve deduced that I am leaning a little more to Androsexual(I say Androsexual because I feel I’m attracted to masculine energy more than the conventional relations of same sex individuals);that I am aromantic;and, that I am asexual.

 

[LPSG Simon]

Being gay and being attracted to men are not mutually exclusive. Gay identity is interesting, because it can mean exclusively attracted to your own gender, but it can also mean a lifestyle or an institution, ie "Gay Culture" or it's politics.

Not everyone identifies with the term in the same way. The neat thing about it is that you can decide if you want to adopt the term or not based on what makes sense for you.

Lots of men who have sex with men don't identify as gay because they dont have romantic attraction to other men outside of the erotic. It's all super nuanced.

TLDR: You do you.

 

[Player_01]

I’ve deduced that I am leaning a little more to Androsexual(I say Androsexual because I feel I’m attracted to masculine energy more than the conventional relations of same sex individuals);that I am aromantic;and, that I am asexual.

I would say it's more important to have this figured out than whether it falls under the "gay" label or not. It seems like you have put thought into figuring out your likes and dislikes and I think that's more important than having a label settled on.

Some people are going to see male/male and label you 'gay' no matter the nuance. I think 'queer' can also cover a lot of "not straight" if you need a more generalized label.

 

[briacon429]

You barely mentioned how you feel about women, but you make it sound like they don’t do much for you. So if I’m hearing you correctly, it sounds like you have a physical attraction to men but not women, and no romantic attraction to either sex. Is that fair?

If so, that does fall under my definition of being gay, in that you’re attracted to men but not women. But everyone defines that term a little differently, so it’s really about what your own definition is and how you see yourself.

For example, in my own case, I didn’t define myself as gay for years after I started exclusively sleeping with men. But I eventually embraced it and now I totally embrace the label!

 

[Brodie888]

This is a very simple one. You are NOT gay.

But more importantly you are NOT straight either. You never have been or will be.

You are simply one of the many shades on the continuum of bisexual.

People need to stop thinking of sexuality as being binary.

The reason why you struggle is because by choosing straight or gay, you are not acknowledging the other part of you.

Once you say "OK, I'm a bisexual who mostly likes women but like to dabble in a bit of cock from time to time under the right circumstances". Your stress will go away because you know this to be true.

 

[LPSG Simon]

This is a very simple one. You are NOT gay.

But more importantly you are NOT straight either. You never have been or will be.

You are simply one of the many shades on the continuum of bisexual.

People need to stop thinking of sexuality as being binary.

The reason why you struggle is because by choosing straight or gay, you are not acknowledging the other part of you.

Once you say "OK, I'm a bisexual who mostly likes women but like to dabble in a bit of cock from time to time under the right circumstances". Your stress will go away because you know this to be true.

I like the term "sometimes kind of guy".

 

[Cosgood]

This is a very simple one. You are NOT gay.

But more importantly you are NOT straight either. You never have been or will be.

You are simply one of the many shades on the continuum of bisexual.

People need to stop thinking of sexuality as being binary.

The reason why you struggle is because by choosing straight or gay, you are not acknowledging the other part of you.

Once you say "OK, I'm a bisexual who mostly likes women but like to dabble in a bit of cock from time to time under the right circumstances". Your stress will go away because you know this to be true.

How did you somehow get into my subconscious, pull that out, and then come up with that...!?

 

[deleted4255491]

Exposition:

I’ve always had an…’attraction’ to males. My reason for phrasing it like that is because, Well… Let me just write it as best I know how - from the heart. I’ve always had an ‘attraction’ to males. It was a small, and rigorous attraction;however, it still classified as an attraction. Even though that attraction was very little, it was more dominant than most I’d feel to females. I myself am a male in his mid twenties and have felt this way for as long as I can remember. From an aesthetic point of view, I can find myself attracted to a select few of men. The criteria is a very ‘wheat from the chaff’ cherry picking competition. They must A - be extremeeeelyyy attractive. Two - the bottoms have to match the tops. Meaning: They must pass the Schlong test which the color, size, and the girth of the penis must match whom the penis is attached to. I must say that EVERY single minute detail pens as a part of the criteria checklist of what makes my little soldier wanna stand up. Although even after I sort out my feelings of attraction, I contemplate of any lustful scenarios I could see myself in. Fantasizing at my dream scenario partner, I would question where exactly there hands would touch me. Would it be a non-passionate or a passionate affair? The setting, quora, relationship of participants- All of that crosses my mind. You’d think: ‘If you have to question it that much then you must really be into it.’ But thats the thing, I don’t think I can actually really DO any of that. I could never see me being/want being in any relationship with any said man. It’s safe to say that: I have NO romantic interest towards ANY person of my gender. It’s safe to say that: Those feelings are concrete. I’ve even tried to solidify my hypothesis by safely exploring my sexuality(with a few guys, of course). I kissed some. I felt nothing. Did a little over the cover stuff and…NOTHING. Felt nothing when holding their hands. Felt nothing when I looked into their eyes. Felt nothing when they - quote;unquote - gave me head, nor when they sucked my nipples. I’ve realized that I’m desensitized to touch to some extent, and that plays a part;but, I’m confused on where my feelings of lust stem from. Ya know? What gets my ‘engine revving’? I’ve deduced that I am leaning a little more to Androsexual(I say Androsexual because I feel I’m attracted to masculine energy more than the conventional relations of same sex individuals);that I am aromantic;and, that I am asexual.

I'm curious of your porn intake and the type of porn you watch ( what porn theme turns you on the most)??

 

[Infernal]

You like what you like. You can be physically attracted to men, love cocks and everything you can think of doing with them, and yet have zero romantic interest in men. Maybe you just haven't met the right person yet. As long as you're always open to possibilities I'm sure you'll find something you like along your journey.

 

[Sunman_Universe]

Tbh. I would not worry about putting a label on it unless you feel you need to categorize yourself.

 

[Luvcutdick]

This is a very simple one. You are NOT gay.

But more importantly you are NOT straight either. You never have been or will be.

You are simply one of the many shades on the continuum of bisexual.

People need to stop thinking of sexuality as being binary.

The reason why you struggle is because by choosing straight or gay, you are not acknowledging the other part of you.

Once you say "OK, I'm a bisexual who mostly likes women but like to dabble in a bit of cock from time to time under the right circumstances". Your stress will go away because you know this to be true.

Very well spoken ..................... and true

 

[deleted17039181]

Exposition:

I’ve always had an…’attraction’ to males. My reason for phrasing it like that is because, Well… Let me just write it as best I know how - from the heart. I’ve always had an ‘attraction’ to males. It was a small, and rigorous attraction;however, it still classified as an attraction. Even though that attraction was very little, it was more dominant than most I’d feel to females. I myself am a male in his mid twenties and have felt this way for as long as I can remember. From an aesthetic point of view, I can find myself attracted to a select few of men. The criteria is a very ‘wheat from the chaff’ cherry picking competition. They must A - be extremeeeelyyy attractive. Two - the bottoms have to match the tops. Meaning: They must pass the Schlong test which the color, size, and the girth of the penis must match whom the penis is attached to. I must say that EVERY single minute detail pens as a part of the criteria checklist of what makes my little soldier wanna stand up. Although even after I sort out my feelings of attraction, I contemplate of any lustful scenarios I could see myself in. Fantasizing at my dream scenario partner, I would question where exactly there hands would touch me. Would it be a non-passionate or a passionate affair? The setting, quora, relationship of participants- All of that crosses my mind. You’d think: ‘If you have to question it that much then you must really be into it.’ But thats the thing, I don’t think I can actually really DO any of that. I could never see me being/want being in any relationship with any said man. It’s safe to say that: I have NO romantic interest towards ANY person of my gender. It’s safe to say that: Those feelings are concrete. I’ve even tried to solidify my hypothesis by safely exploring my sexuality(with a few guys, of course). I kissed some. I felt nothing. Did a little over the cover stuff and…NOTHING. Felt nothing when holding their hands. Felt nothing when I looked into their eyes. Felt nothing when they - quote;unquote - gave me head, nor when they sucked my nipples. I’ve realized that I’m desensitized to touch to some extent, and that plays a part;but, I’m confused on where my feelings of lust stem from. Ya know? What gets my ‘engine revving’? I’ve deduced that I am leaning a little more to Androsexual(I say Androsexual because I feel I’m attracted to masculine energy more than the conventional relations of same sex individuals);that I am aromantic;and, that I am asexual.

i think ur bi and maybe just lean towards women more from what im reading?? which is fine too. this is literally the bi experience where men who just start out as bi kind of have this really militant way of looking at attraction to men. just do u homie

 

[SkySkin77]

What about women? Do you feel romantic or sexual attraction?

 

[deleted12054221]

Exposition:

I’ve always had an…’attraction’ to males. My reason for phrasing it like that is because, Well… Let me just write it as best I know how - from the heart. I’ve always had an ‘attraction’ to males. It was a small, and rigorous attraction;however, it still classified as an attraction. Even though that attraction was very little, it was more dominant than most I’d feel to females. I myself am a male in his mid twenties and have felt this way for as long as I can remember. From an aesthetic point of view, I can find myself attracted to a select few of men. The criteria is a very ‘wheat from the chaff’ cherry picking competition. They must A - be extremeeeelyyy attractive. Two - the bottoms have to match the tops. Meaning: They must pass the Schlong test which the color, size, and the girth of the penis must match whom the penis is attached to. I must say that EVERY single minute detail pens as a part of the criteria checklist of what makes my little soldier wanna stand up. Although even after I sort out my feelings of attraction, I contemplate of any lustful scenarios I could see myself in. Fantasizing at my dream scenario partner, I would question where exactly there hands would touch me. Would it be a non-passionate or a passionate affair? The setting, quora, relationship of participants- All of that crosses my mind. You’d think: ‘If you have to question it that much then you must really be into it.’ But thats the thing, I don’t think I can actually really DO any of that. I could never see me being/want being in any relationship with any said man. It’s safe to say that: I have NO romantic interest towards ANY person of my gender. It’s safe to say that: Those feelings are concrete. I’ve even tried to solidify my hypothesis by safely exploring my sexuality(with a few guys, of course). I kissed some. I felt nothing. Did a little over the cover stuff and…NOTHING. Felt nothing when holding their hands. Felt nothing when I looked into their eyes. Felt nothing when they - quote;unquote - gave me head, nor when they sucked my nipples. I’ve realized that I’m desensitized to touch to some extent, and that plays a part;but, I’m confused on where my feelings of lust stem from. Ya know? What gets my ‘engine revving’? I’ve deduced that I am leaning a little more to Androsexual(I say Androsexual because I feel I’m attracted to masculine energy more than the conventional relations of same sex individuals);that I am aromantic;and, that I am asexual.

Let's see now...is there a dick in your mouth? Hmmm?

 

[BIGMUGGERDOG]

Let's see now...is there a dick in your mouth? Hmmm?

Snarkiness masked as good humor aside, great question! Is there currently a penis - flaccid or erect - in my mouth? No. Have I- You already know the question. To answer that: I have...sucked a few dicks. I expected a better experience. All of the johns were small in size(length and girth), I was not attracted to the guys, and there was a power dynamic in all of the experiences - me being the submissive one;but, myself just wanting to 'confront my feelings', I just continued with said experience. Sigh. I don't get the hype;to be honest, sex is overrated.

 

[iLOOK4]

Hello !
I Don't know lF this will help you
because every tale and experiences are very different as the fingerprints
but i was in denial that i was ️BiSexual Since i was a pre-teen and my last Quickie encounter with other male was when i got 21years of age after that age...only straight until my 49 Birthday when i DiD realize that i was in Deep Denial ! Not in the Closet !
in the Basement level floor Minus –12
and after 6 years of Self-Reflexion and Recovering my sexual memories

Exposition:

I’ve always had an…’attraction’ to males. My reason for phrasing it like that is because, Well… Let me just write it as best I know how - from the heart. I’ve always had an ‘attraction’ to males. It was a small, and rigorous attraction;however, it still classified as an attraction. Even though that attraction was very little, it was more dominant than most I’d feel to females. I myself am a male in his mid twenties and have felt this way for as long as I can remember. From an aesthetic point of view, I can find myself attracted to a select few of men. The criteria is a very ‘wheat from the chaff’ cherry picking competition. They must A - be extremeeeelyyy attractive. Two - the bottoms have to match the tops. Meaning: They must pass the Schlong test which the color, size, and the girth of the penis must match whom the penis is attached to. I must say that EVERY single minute detail pens as a part of the criteria checklist of what makes my little soldier wanna stand up. Although even after I sort out my feelings of attraction, I contemplate of any lustful scenarios I could see myself in. Fantasizing at my dream scenario partner, I would question where exactly there hands would touch me. Would it be a non-passionate or a passionate affair? The setting, quora, relationship of participants- All of that crosses my mind. You’d think: ‘If you have to question it that much then you must really be into it.’ But thats the thing, I don’t think I can actually really DO any of that. I could never see me being/want being in any relationship with any said man. It’s safe to say that: I have NO romantic interest towards ANY person of my gender. It’s safe to say that: Those feelings are concrete. I’ve even tried to solidify my hypothesis by safely exploring my sexuality(with a few guys, of course). I kissed some. I felt nothing. Did a little over the cover stuff and…NOTHING. Felt nothing when holding their hands. Felt nothing when I looked into their eyes. Felt nothing when they - quote;unquote - gave me head, nor when they sucked my nipples. I’ve realized that I’m desensitized to touch to some extent, and that plays a part;but, I’m confused on where my feelings of lust stem from. Ya know? What gets my ‘engine revving’? I’ve deduced that I am leaning a little more to Androsexual(I say Androsexual because I feel I’m attracted to masculine energy more than the conventional relations of same sex individuals);that I am aromantic;and, that I am asexual.

Hello/Hola
You are Not Alone
I DiD felt the same my whole life
Now i'm 55 and i Do Regret All the Deep Denial Since i was a Teenager and All opportunities i DiDN'T NOTHING !
6 years ago i DiD started a sort of Self-Awakeness, Self-Reflection, and Realized that...really i'm ️ and Now i want to Star fresh again and star Gays friendships with Men