Am I getting glares of negativity because of my big flaccid showing thru pants?

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I feel your pain. I'm not cut so don't have the prominent corona ridge showing but I'm about the same size as you soft and I agree it's hard to hide unless totally squished which isn't comfortable.

btw thank you for relating and responding respectfully. Dont understand the hostility of some of the posters here...I was browsing the women's issue thread and it seemed like every other female poster was bitter, sarcastic and rude in their posts.
 

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At the risk of sounding rude, I'm going to have to ask, are you sure it's not just you? A vibe you may be giving off? Some people who are perfectly nice give off the "I'm an asshole" vibe and never realize it until someone points it out.


It could very well be me. Im getting a haircut this friday.

But, I am pretty normal until I notice someone looking down at my crotch, then I immediately worry that my underwear has scrunched up and one of my testicles are dangling, or the edge of my shaft/corona is visible thru the fabric. I dont look down at my crotch, which will just aware strangers more, so I suffer a sort of 'panic attack' and freeze up or look down in shame.
 

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I am heavily leaning towards the problem being you. Either through you exaggerating the looks that you are getting, or that you are giving off a vibe that you might be a creep to other people (the way you look may be contributing to that). I mean if you are out and about in the summer wearing tighter sweat pants and look creepy then have your "panic attack" and it just makes it look worse and gives off a worse feeling. It might also just be that you are exaggerating the looks you get in your mind.

The fact that you worry about "one of your testicles dangling" makes me question just wtf clothes you are wearing that you worry about a testicle showing. Wear proper fitting clothes and thicker fabrics. There are many men bigger than you that don't really bulge at all unless they want to.
 

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I'm going to guess by your picture that you are fairly thin; in the 28-32 waist line range. Also, going on your words that you don't like long t's; I'm guessing your style is more actually fitting than baggy. So i'm going with based on the size you say you are flaccid and the style of clothes that you wear, you probably need to get trunks or better fitting boxer briefs made from cotton (no lycra or other stretchy material) so to comfortably fit your body without pinching your dick. This should also help dampen the bulge (one would think). Hope that helps.
 

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I'm going to guess by your picture that you are fairly thin; in the 28-32 waist line range. Also, going on your words that you don't like long t's; I'm guessing your style is more actually fitting than baggy. So i'm going with based on the size you say you are flaccid and the style of clothes that you wear, you probably need to get trunks or better fitting boxer briefs made from cotton (no lycra or other stretchy material) so to comfortably fit your body without pinching your dick. This should also help dampen the bulge (one would think). Hope that helps.

This is the sort of help I was looking for! thank you

yes all my boxer briefs are the stretchy spandex type...will switch to trunks and see if they make a difference.
 

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This is the sort of help I was looking for! thank you

yes all my boxer briefs are the stretchy spandex type...will switch to trunks and see if they make a difference.


Man. Nothing like coming to a "support" group and having to read so many posts that are so negative rather than helpful. Sorry for that. :(

So, did a different style and fit of underwear help at all? What about the haircut?
I was also thinking maybe you could take some photos of yourself clothed, so we can see if you really are showing a lot. That might help give a sense of if that's the problem, or if maybe it's something else.
 

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If you're long and thick soft, it really is difficult to squish everything so that it doesn't show, esp. if you've got decent balls, too. I always have a bulge no matter how squished I am. So I end up going for comfort, which doesn't help matters any. Even in looser pants it's still obvious. Probably because I'm short, too.
 
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Why should you be proud of having a big flaccid cock? It wasn't like you worked long and hard to get it. What makes you think you should be proud of any body feature that you didn't bring into good form through consistent feats of endurance. You were simply given it by random combination and a mother that was smart and sensible enough to support a favourable gestation. You should be proud of your mother. Not your cock. Is anyone proud that they won the lottery? No it was just dumb luck. You'd frown at them to if they said they were proud to have won 10 million dollars.

You walk around with this undeserved sense of entitlement (or perhaps superiority) and you expect people to be all rainbows and fluffy ducks with you. I have no sympathy.
 
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I show almost always. I've never noticed any negativity. Some women will stare if I'm presenting in front of a room. :)

Recently at a event I got introduced to an old friend of my GF. An bit older guy, who I didn't know at the time was gay. When we got introduced he looked me up and down fairly normally. A minute later he told me GF out of earshot of me "big boy" with a smile :). I laughed when she told me. People notice. I haven't seen it be negative.

I've been printing since HS. I like it, and wouldn't have it any other way.
 

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Man. Nothing like coming to a "support" group and having to read so many posts that are so negative rather than helpful. Sorry for that. :(

So, did a different style and fit of underwear help at all? What about the haircut?
I was also thinking maybe you could take some photos of yourself clothed, so we can see if you really are showing a lot. That might help give a sense of if that's the problem, or if maybe it's something else.

Thanks man...I was beginning to think I was over sensitive or something

The haircut helped, and I started college since opening up this thread. I've been wearing trunks (bought 6 pairs) and it has helped by letting my dick hang instead of scrunch up into a huge bulge in the middle of my crotch. I still get looks down there, it might be my natural gait makes my cock swing (wearing trunks I feel my shaft/balls smack on my leg more often)

Im gonna take a pic of me in sweats when im home tonight