Am I Hurting My Gay Friend?

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I am a bisexual man. Masculine and have no romantic interest in men. However, I love gay sex ,porn ,cum and only get involved with women that support me doing so. I have a few guys that I safe play with. You know, tested etc.,but I have a totally gay friend that I really have a strong friendly love for that I feel is in love with me. He hasnt had a relationship in 2yrs and other than a couple of guy we both play with ,doesnt have sex with anyone but me. He says that Im the biggest hes had and he sees no reason to risk health messing with dopewhores and finds that he can tell in four words a narcissist when he sees one. I know that he wants more in his life .Like I have with my woman. She understands the situation and is generous with me spending time or having him over,but thinks it may be a bit cruel to let him hang on to whatvwill never be.,but he may be like me and just enjoys THIS for what it is. Even my girl says "you two are amazing to watch fuck ,so I know thats great" We get along well and he is a martial arts student of mine. My girl loves him to death and tells him " hes yours after 10, I need sleep" He is a nice 7 inches and not too girthy so I enjoy him fucking the cum out of me and He takes all of me and that is not a common experience. IS IT POSSIBLE THAT HES HAPPY WITHOUT A REAL LOVE
 
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I am a bisexual man. Masculine and have no romantic interest in men. However, I love gay sex ,porn ,cum and only get involved with women that support me doing so. I have a few guys that I safe play with. You know, tested etc.,but I have a totally gay friend that I really have a strong friendly love for that I feel is in love with me. He hasnt had a relationship in 2yrs and other than a couple of guy we both play with ,doesnt have sex with anyone but me. He says that Im the biggest hes had and he sees no reason to risk health messing with dopewhores and finds that he can tell in four words a narcissist when he sees one. I know that he wants more in his life .Like I have with my woman. She understands the situation and is generous with me spending time or having him over,but thinks it may be a bit cruel to let him hang on to whatvwill never be.,but he may be like me and just enjoys THIS for what it is. Even my girl says "you two are amazing to watch fuck ,so I know thats great" We get along well and he is a martial arts student of mine. My girl loves him to death and tells him " hes yours after 10, I need sleep" He is a nice 7 inches and not too girthy so I enjoy him fucking the cum out of me and He takes all of me and that is not a common experience. IS IT POSSIBLE THAT HES HAPPY WITHOUT A REAL LOVE
There's a lot of ways to define love. This may indeed be everything he needs at this point in his life. It's entirely possible that if/when he moves on you could be the one missing the current relationship. Enjoy your time together for what it is and keep as honest with each other as you can be.
 
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Who knows? He does. Sounds like it's time to have a calm, adult conversation about your needs and expectations. But this:

We get along well and he is a martial arts student of mine

He is a student of yours? Then you are abusing the teacher-student relationship. A sensei doesn't fuck their students!
 
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I am a bisexual man. Masculine and have no romantic interest in men. However, I love gay sex ,porn ,cum and only get involved with women that support me doing so. I have a few guys that I safe play with. You know, tested etc.,but I have a totally gay friend that I really have a strong friendly love for that I feel is in love with me. He hasnt had a relationship in 2yrs and other than a couple of guy we both play with ,doesnt have sex with anyone but me. He says that Im the biggest hes had and he sees no reason to risk health messing with dopewhores and finds that he can tell in four words a narcissist when he sees one. I know that he wants more in his life .Like I have with my woman. She understands the situation and is generous with me spending time or having him over,but thinks it may be a bit cruel to let him hang on to whatvwill never be.,but he may be like me and just enjoys THIS for what it is. Even my girl says "you two are amazing to watch fuck ,so I know thats great" We get along well and he is a martial arts student of mine. My girl loves him to death and tells him " hes yours after 10, I need sleep" He is a nice 7 inches and not too girthy so I enjoy him fucking the cum out of me and He takes all of me and that is not a common experience. IS IT POSSIBLE THAT HES HAPPY WITHOUT A REAL LOVE
Your girlfriend sounds very generous. I guess if he wants more, he's free to find it? I wouldn’t worry too much about hurting him, he's a grown up and understands the situation. It sounds like he's getting more from this than not. And you sound sensitive to his feelings.
 
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I am a bisexual man. Masculine and have no romantic interest in men. However, I love gay sex ,porn ,cum and only get involved with women that support me doing so. I have a few guys that I safe play with. You know, tested etc.,but I have a totally gay friend that I really have a strong friendly love for that I feel is in love with me. He hasnt had a relationship in 2yrs and other than a couple of guy we both play with ,doesnt have sex with anyone but me. He says that Im the biggest hes had and he sees no reason to risk health messing with dopewhores and finds that he can tell in four words a narcissist when he sees one. I know that he wants more in his life .Like I have with my woman. She understands the situation and is generous with me spending time or having him over,but thinks it may be a bit cruel to let him hang on to whatvwill never be.,but he may be like me and just enjoys THIS for what it is. Even my girl says "you two are amazing to watch fuck ,so I know thats great" We get along well and he is a martial arts student of mine. My girl loves him to death and tells him " hes yours after 10, I need sleep" He is a nice 7 inches and not too girthy so I enjoy him fucking the cum out of me and He takes all of me and that is not a common experience. IS IT POSSIBLE THAT HES HAPPY WITHOUT A REAL LOVE
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Who knows? He does. Sounds like it's time to have a calm, adult conversation about your needs and expectations. But this:



He is a student of yours? Then you are abusing the teacher-student relationship. A sensei doesn't fuck their students!

Sifu but understood. ...
Its informal.. Taught him to defend himself ,but I suppose youre right. He would just quit though...lol
 
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Your girlfriend sounds very generous. I guess if he wants more, he's free to find it? I wouldn’t worry too much about hurting him, he's a grown up and understands the situation. It sounds like he's getting more from this than not. And you sound sensitive to his feelings.

My gf is wonderful...Ive known her for ever... Lots of understanding between us and way more understood.
They get along well,and she is the only woman he has been inside.
She has a gf that she has played with but Im waaaay more into gay and bi sex. She doesn't want me with another woman ever again but enjoys me with men. She knows its just sex,but knows this situation is a lot more complex
 
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Well then I refer to my first statement: you two need to sit down and have a serious conversation. With your pants on.

I agree. I have before and was pretty clear but it has been a while.
 

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Honestly, I tend to think that with any relationship, regular check-ins about boundaries and expectations are an effective way to keep it healthy. And the simple fact is that you are having concerns that need to be addressed--and I think it speaks well of you that your concerns are about his feelings.
 
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There's a lot of ways to define love. This may indeed be everything he needs at this point in his life. It's entirely possible that if/when he moves on you could be the one missing the current relationship. Enjoy your time together for what it is and keep as honest with each other as you can be.

I try to see it that way...
I think its the healthiest way to see it. I just notice little things. But there is no doubt where my heart is. He respects that.
Its good atm
 
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Honestly, I tend to think that with any relationship, regular check-ins about boundaries and expectations are an effective way to keep it healthy. And the simple fact is that you are having concerns that need to be addressed--and I think it speaks well of you that your concerns are about his feelings.


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For the record @Pornsword1 i wouldn't turn down that big dick either...
I was about to say the same thing. Your friend may be perfectly fine with whatever you offer. If you click on so many levels, cherish it for what it is. I have some BJ buddies that drop around to make a deposit, but I've yet to meet anyone that I want to start fucking with, again.
 

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A friendship with benefits can be very fulfilling. I've had periods where I've had them when single because I don't have enough time or mental energy to commit to a relationship. That might well be all he needs right now. I think it's good that you're taking his feelings into account, but at the same time, you can't read someone else's mind. Have a chat with him about it.
 
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For the record @Pornsword1 i wouldn't turn down that big dick either...


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Wow, this site is great..Lots of complements and good feedback...I have another gay friend I used to go hardcore with about 10 yrs ago that told me " Dude , your cock was made to fuck men,because it hits the button then pushes everything in the box with the button out like it got evicted...He said" It pushes ALL THE GAY BABIES OUT ON THE STREET...LOL View attachment 2034182

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Instead of reminding him that you are not available as a S/O, I would suggest asking what his goals are in terms of a relationship etc. Once he reveals his plans and a timeline, you will know if you are interfering with that plan or fitting in perfectly.
 

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If you've been 100% upfront on what you want and expect, it's not your fault if he takes it deeper emotionally.

He knows what to expect from you and has been told that.

If he deludes himself into thinking something is going to be there, when it's not, that is not your fault and he brings it on himself.

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