I have a good friend that I have known for more than 10 years. Hes long-distance now. Hes also in a bit of a different stage of his life (married w/ kids) and I am not. We still manage to catch up every month or two. I have visited his city (where I used to live) several times over the last few years to visit him and other friends I have. I always get in touch with him a few weeks in advance so we can plan a mutually convenient time to get together. A couple of times over the past few years he has come to my city, as he has immediate family here. One time he called me Staurday night to see if I could hang out (I couldnt). Now, he just texted me saying Im in town, nothing else. I expressed me discontent about the first episode (several years ago), but I find the texting AFTER he is in town a bit inconsiserate. I find it a little presumptuous for himm to come to town and let me know he is here. I dont mind the curt text, but SEND IT TO ME A WEEK IN ADVANCE! Afterall, I give him fair warning when I am coming to town; why cant he do the same? I also expressed my discontent in the past about this on the fly behavior. I just resent the implication that I could be ready to get together at the drop of a hat, without warning. Am I being hypersensitive here or am I justified in my annoyance ..I wont be so petty as not to try to carve out time for him on his latest trip here, but I will give him a little bit of shit about it if we do get together. Thoughts?