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Ok. So back around 2000 I met another bisexual guy on yahoo chat. He had a cam. So we talked for many years and I would watch him on cam. In May of last year I met him in person. I really thought we hit it off. Had quite a bit in common. He lives in Florida and I live in Washington. So we went on a cruise last January and had a great time. Then I spent my birthday in Baltimore with him for a week and we had another great time.
By then, I was in love with him. But being so far away, and he is a pretty busy guy, I started to wonder if there were things that he was not telling me. On yahoo, he had 7 usernames. So I started googling them. First one I googled led me to here and then to a cam website. x-tube, ok cupid dating site and a myspace page that I did not know existed. He had pictures in a photo album called BF (insert BF name here). But they were from 2008. When I watched him on yahoo and chatted, a lot of the times it crashed and I was left just sitting there. When all the while he was on another cam site with his own room telling guys to swallow him whole, etc. I freaked out on all of this because he never told me about any of it. He reacted like this. "??? why are you upset? I do not understand why you are so upset", "those profiles and posts are old", etc. etc.
So I forgave him and joined LPSG and the other cam site.
So that leads me to Facebook. I came out to my friends and family as Bi in April. My "friend" is closeted to his family and some of his friends. So he has a Str8 facebook page. Well I am members of queer and gay bi tg groups on Facebook and have made friends on my own page through these groups.
Today I got a friend request from a guy in Mexico and I went to look at his profile and I noticed his number one friend was this guy that I was seeing. Only he had a "fake" last name, but the shirtless picture was the same I have seen on these other sites. He had 126 friends on that profile. I looked at the profile and he left recent comments on guys walls like "C'mon over here, I have something hard for you". And "Hey Sexy, hows it hanging"?
I burst into tears when I saw this profile. I have no idea if I am over reacting or being played or if it is just harmless flirting?
I blocked his cell number, deleted/blocked his facebook (the str8 one) and also deleted/blocked him on yahoo and another cam site. I sent a long text before I blocked his # that told him how hurt I was by this. I might have been fine with all of it. Had he been open with me and told me about it.
As it is, I was supposed to go to visit him at the end of next month and at this point, I cannot see it happening.
My friends are telling me to forget it, and that I am a awesome guy and deserve to be treated with respect, honesty and love. So I am trying to find a light at the end of the tunnel. Oh, and I also need to add that this was my 1st M/M relationship. I felt like he did not want people to know we were seeing one another.
Oh well, one good thing came out of this. I found this awesome site.
A very sad Scott in Seattle...
:frown1::frown1:
By then, I was in love with him. But being so far away, and he is a pretty busy guy, I started to wonder if there were things that he was not telling me. On yahoo, he had 7 usernames. So I started googling them. First one I googled led me to here and then to a cam website. x-tube, ok cupid dating site and a myspace page that I did not know existed. He had pictures in a photo album called BF (insert BF name here). But they were from 2008. When I watched him on yahoo and chatted, a lot of the times it crashed and I was left just sitting there. When all the while he was on another cam site with his own room telling guys to swallow him whole, etc. I freaked out on all of this because he never told me about any of it. He reacted like this. "??? why are you upset? I do not understand why you are so upset", "those profiles and posts are old", etc. etc.
So I forgave him and joined LPSG and the other cam site.
So that leads me to Facebook. I came out to my friends and family as Bi in April. My "friend" is closeted to his family and some of his friends. So he has a Str8 facebook page. Well I am members of queer and gay bi tg groups on Facebook and have made friends on my own page through these groups.
Today I got a friend request from a guy in Mexico and I went to look at his profile and I noticed his number one friend was this guy that I was seeing. Only he had a "fake" last name, but the shirtless picture was the same I have seen on these other sites. He had 126 friends on that profile. I looked at the profile and he left recent comments on guys walls like "C'mon over here, I have something hard for you". And "Hey Sexy, hows it hanging"?
I burst into tears when I saw this profile. I have no idea if I am over reacting or being played or if it is just harmless flirting?
I blocked his cell number, deleted/blocked his facebook (the str8 one) and also deleted/blocked him on yahoo and another cam site. I sent a long text before I blocked his # that told him how hurt I was by this. I might have been fine with all of it. Had he been open with me and told me about it.
As it is, I was supposed to go to visit him at the end of next month and at this point, I cannot see it happening.
My friends are telling me to forget it, and that I am a awesome guy and deserve to be treated with respect, honesty and love. So I am trying to find a light at the end of the tunnel. Oh, and I also need to add that this was my 1st M/M relationship. I felt like he did not want people to know we were seeing one another.
Oh well, one good thing came out of this. I found this awesome site.
A very sad Scott in Seattle...
:frown1::frown1:
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