Am I too shallow?

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Hi,
I just started going out with a great guy, but when I felt him through his clothes...well, there wasn't much there. I only felt a small lump. I haven't seen him naked yet, so I don't know for sure, but it kind of put a damper on it for me. For awhile, I was dating a guy who was pretty big, 8-9 inches and very thick, so I'm afraid it will be a let down. Is this a normal way to feel? Am I being too shallow? Is it possible that there's more "hiding" in his pants somewhere? lol I really like this guy otherwise, but I'm afraid it will make a difference to me.
 

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Give him a chance. I'm assuming you're talking about his flaccid penis?

Maybe he's a "grower" and not a "shower". That's pretty much me, a real grower.

Good luck!
 

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Thanks. Where else can you talk about this, right?
I don't know if it was flaccid. We'd been making out and were pretty worked up. He asked me to touch it, but he was kneeling, on all fours, at the time. The next day, when he kissed me standing up, and pressed against me, it felt bigger...so I'm hoping. :)
 

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All you can do is "Keep Hope Alive!"

Anyway, if you see that it is marginal in size and you eventually have intercourse maybe he can make up for it with stamina, the shape of his penis hitting the right spot, etc?
Just my $0.02...
 

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well, would you be ok with him second guessing you because maybe your boobs aren't big enough? Do you think that your person is worth more than that? Do you think that despite your breasts, you have other things to offer in a relationship?
Maybe thinking about your situation in this light will help you decide.
 

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Also, your ex might've been bigger, but he's probably your ex for a reason, no? If this guy is treating you right, don't let an inch or two of flesh corrupt it.
 
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What ever happened to going out with someone for who they are and not what they have? Are you shallow? You figure it out, I have better things to do with my life. Welcome to LPSG! Sam
 

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I have been thinking about that. I'm not overly-endowed either. lol Well, B-cup. And it does seem (since I've been online dating for the last couple of years) that I attract men with smaller penises. Do you think there's a connection?
 

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I'll have to agree with Duality, he made a really good point. Even though your ex had the big schlong it was not gonna guarantee you having a perfect relationship.
Kshelby67 has also shed some valuable advice on you. Kudos.
 

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Considering the focus here, I opened this thread expecting to see complaints about a woman getting her cervix battered. Its a challenge, but I think my mind is in the gutter even for LPSG!
 

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So, if I'm a sizequeen (just learned this term!), I should have breast enhancement? Or are there big guys that like smaller (well-proportioned) boobs?
 

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I know that this is not a popular opinion on this forum, but even if he is smaller than you are used to give him a chance. Most of my friends are average-sized, or thereabouts, and they have no trouble pleasing their women. I am no pornstar, but I am bigger than most when I am erect but FAR from impressive when I am soft. So, in a way I feel badly for smaller guys simply because they are too often not even given the chance to prove whether or not they can perform. Seriously, if you have to use your penis to get a woman off you are not much of a lover. Sammy Sosa hits a lot of homeruns, and it is fun to watch, but he can't make contact every turn at the plate (baseball references rule).

So, is it shallow? Maybe. That should not be your concern. Is it a bad call to assume the worst? Yes. Maybe the guy is 5.5" and can hit spots that bigger guys pass right by!
 

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Here's what I think:

You're definitely being shallow. However, theres nothing wrong with being shallow sometimes, and I'll tell you why. There is one very basic rule that I think applies to all relationships and that is if a person doesn't make you happy then theres no point in being involved with that person. So you define what would make you happy and if he doesnt fit the bill then that's it.

I like to think of it this way. Imagine you're a staunch democrat, would it be shallow to not want to date someone because they are a republican? Yeah, it would be but who cares?

You're an adult, you know what you like in a man so stand by it.
 

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So, if I'm a sizequeen (just learned this term!), I should have breast enhancement? Or are there big guys that like smaller (well-proportioned) boobs?
Breast size preference is a mental thing only. Never once have I thought, "my penis is big - I require big boobs to play with!"

In fact the only real preference I really have is towards real. Fake is bad. Always.
 

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So, if I'm a sizequeen (just learned this term!), I should have breast enhancement? Or are there big guys that like smaller (well-proportioned) boobs?
I don't think you are getting my point here.
Forget about the dick for a second. (yeah I know, *gasp!*) Date the dude because you like him, not because what he is packing. Seriously, personality is way more important than penis in the long run.
 
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Hehe that sentiment always sounds funny coming from people on this forum.