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Ok so im not the type of guy to pretend to be a certain way to impress people n i dont like spending my time with people i have a low opinion of.
Well i recently started hanging out with this girl who i quickly found out was less than intelligent. Now my attraction to someone is very closely related to my opinion of them so idk if i didnt find her attractive because she wasnt attractive or because i thought she was stupid, ignorant, closedminded. Its not that im specific about what i think a girl should look like, but i am specific about what i think a girls personality SHOULDNT be (any person for that matter).
Anyway we did have fun with each other at first, but then we got into deeper conversations and i found myself being less and less comfortable around her.
From all of that you can guess that i dont surround myself with a ton of people just for the company, i can entertain myself probably better than most, but being alone gets boring and it sucks having no one who makes the effort to be around. I have trouble abandoning my convictions for popularity, not that i think im wrong for that, so heres the question:
isnt it wrong for me to hide my motives from someone if i think itll help get what i want from them? especially in a case where i feel like that person shouldnt be the target of that motive in the first place?
Well i recently started hanging out with this girl who i quickly found out was less than intelligent. Now my attraction to someone is very closely related to my opinion of them so idk if i didnt find her attractive because she wasnt attractive or because i thought she was stupid, ignorant, closedminded. Its not that im specific about what i think a girl should look like, but i am specific about what i think a girls personality SHOULDNT be (any person for that matter).
Anyway we did have fun with each other at first, but then we got into deeper conversations and i found myself being less and less comfortable around her.
From all of that you can guess that i dont surround myself with a ton of people just for the company, i can entertain myself probably better than most, but being alone gets boring and it sucks having no one who makes the effort to be around. I have trouble abandoning my convictions for popularity, not that i think im wrong for that, so heres the question:
isnt it wrong for me to hide my motives from someone if i think itll help get what i want from them? especially in a case where i feel like that person shouldnt be the target of that motive in the first place?