I find it funny that I always turn to LPSG with my most serious relationship queries. I guess it's the open minded, non-judgmental and oddly intelligent nature of the majority of this site's membership? Anyway ... I've been dating this girl for 2+ years now ... long story short ... we're both in our early 30s, it's serious, I lover her, she loves me, we both want a family, I asked her to marry me. The proposal is in limbo right now. Problem is, I can't "afford" to buy her a decent ring because despite my good paying job, I have a lot of fresh debts to pay back in the aftermath of the recession and she's undergoing a career change. Though "afford" is in quotes because it's less about "affording" and more about "justifying" the cost of such an exorbitantly priced trinket. I understand the significance of the ring ... but our love exists regardless of the ring and that money could be put to better use right now. What would you do in this situation? Bite the bullet and buy the ring? Or wait until the ground under our feet is a little more solid before spending so much on symbolism? Of course, I'll talk to my girlfriend about all this ... I just want to get some tertiary opinions form the ether. Thanks.