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  1. The_Young_One

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    Ok so as much as I hate to admit this , I am a 19 y/o virgin. All my life I been a fat kid and never really got to much attention from many females. I was about 280 pounds with very low self-esteem. So doing last year I want to boot camp to get my GED. Lost about 60+ in half a year. (currently 215)

    When I came back I noticed alot of looks my way and for once was finally being noticed. So there have been a few chances to lose my virginity but, I just been to scared to actually go though with it. (This one chick is really into me and says she wants to "Fuck")

    While anyway here is my question and please be honest.

    On average Im 6.5x 5.3 and When Rock hard 6.8x 5.7 (Looks short and thin to me)

    Are this considered small or just average?

    P.S As a virgin I know I cant please her but I am ready to finally get out there and give it a try.
     
  2. ManlyBanisters

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    Those measurements, if correct, put you above average.

    Don't believe all the bullshit you read here about everyone having 8" cocks. The vast majority of men have 6" or less.

    Also with an attitude like "I know I cant please her" you definitely won't. Have some confidence in yourself. There's more to sex than cock in cunt.
     
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    I agree, you never know what your first time is gonna be like until it happens. No matter what issues you think you have that make you feel inferior, or different - everyone, EVERYONE, is nervous on their first time. I know I was, and it worked out fine for me (the girl I got with had quite a lot of experience for her age and I was worried about performance etc.) But I could tell she enjoyed it a lot too.

    Also, being a 19 year old virgin is perfectly respectable. You're at that age where girls are just about starting to like smart guys instead of just the hot popular sports type of kids. Maybe this is you. Or maybe it's bad boys. Or funny guys. Or guys who have rich fathers. Whatever. It'll happen when it happens, and the more desperate you get, the more torturous it'll be in the meantime, so don't worry so much.
     
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    Bone up...

    pun aside... I mean that you ought to research a little into how women's bodies work, sexually, and I don't mean watch more porn. When I was 16 and a virgin, it was in the first flowering of scads of articles and studies about how women could actually have Orgasms!? and suchlike... I devoured everything I could find on the subject, fully intent that when I finally got my chance, I would know my way around and have some idea what to do for her.

    The cure for virgin ignorance is knowledge, and selfless intention.

    As to your dick size... don't make the mistake of thinking that dick size is how women rate men.

    While some women might like a dick slightly larger than average... for the vast majority, its not even on their list of things that make or break a relationship.
     
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    If you're getting a properly measured 5.7" around, that's actually really thick.

    You know, if all you're really worried about when you lose your virginity is if she will enjoy it, then why even do it at all? Have sex because you want to; because you meet a girl who you can't be across the room from without wanting to fuck her brains out; I think even doing it just because it's something you're afraid of is a good reason too.
    Maybe if you were a prostitute then your main goal should be making them happy; otherwise, there's nothing wrong with being a selfish prick and just wanting to enjoy yourself. If you get lucky, you might meet someone who enjoys herself when you do the things that you like, and vice versa.
     
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    Is she "into you" because you've lost a lot of weight (Good Job) or because of who you are as a person?
    You sound like you're more concerned with pleasing her more than losing your virginity. I just think that you should find a girl that's more into you, than just wanting to "Fuck".
     
  7. ManlyBanisters

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    That's a fucked up attitude. Any man / woman who treats his / her partner like a wank rag / dildo is NOT going to be a good lay.

    Of course both parties should be interested in and concerned by the other's pleasure - just not to the exclusion of his / her own. It's a mutual thing.
     
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    "Also with an attitude like "I know I cant please her" you definitely won't. Have some confidence in yourself. There's more to sex than cock in cunt." I cannot stress the importance of self-confidence (in any given area of life) enough.
    This mindset (and all insecurities you may possess) is (are) incredibly transparent to anyone exposed to it.

    In fairness, I understand that, considering your physique in the past, you may have difficulties projecting assertiveness- which is, of course, completely normal. After all, how one carries themselves isn't solely based on what they carry upstairs, but the entire package (body, and any parts of it), so to speak.

    If you are making dramatic adjustments to your lifestyle, it is essential to keep your mind and body on the same plane. As you grow older you must remember, the narrative is constantly changing. How would you introduce yourself? How have you introduced yourself in this thread? "I'm _______, a nineteen year old virgin with insecurities." First of all, you're not the first, nor will you be the last (and you're far from alone). You're nineteen, this is a transition period in your life, relax and enjoy yourself (simple advice, yes, but apparently very difficult to apply for some). "I'm _________, a nineteen year old virgin working on improving myself and my life (and girls are 'checking' me out!)" will be a far more beneficial mindset for you, and most importantly, it's the truth. I should mention, the above isn't in reference to this particular thread- I am aware that the manner in which you introduced yourself here was to provide us with an understanding of your situation.

    If any woman demonstrates any form of interest in you (and vice versa), share more of yourself, if you still have her attention, and her, yours- SEAL THE DEAL. That's not to say, try to "fuck" her, but give yourselves the opportunity to see where this mutual attraction can lead to. She's expressed she wants a sexual relationship of some sort, she clearly finds you desirable.

    However, when you (let's be trite once again) do the deed, don't think to yourself "I can't please her", because if you truly believe that, isn't it a tad bit selfish? (I know that isn't your intention, of course.) Having said that, just because you don't necessarily know how to do something, doesn't always guarantee you're incapable of doing so, and, again, vice versa. It's a two way street, amigo. (Incoming cliche!) Lose yourself in the moment, feel her kiss, gently and lightly grab the side of her face, whilst caressing the back of the ear(s), her hair, and small little pecks from the neck to the shoulder(s). Do this compassionately and with sincerity. Everything will fall into place. Be generous. Hell, just be grateful and appreciative- it will show. Smile.

    The size of a man's penis is often his "grain of sand", that is to say, the deciding variable which provides the mold for how one perceives themselves (sexually). Don't let that be determining factor of any sexual encounter, especially if you're sporting 6.5x 5.3/6.8x 5.7! You're above average, certainly you must know this already.

    If it's any consolation when I lost my virginity I was nervous beyond belief. I just cared about the person well enough to just let myself go entirely and the rest followed. We had sex 13 times (perhaps more) over the course of one night and a day- I assume you're capable of the same your first time around (that's just how excited you shall be after a successful "first go". Trust me, you'll be fine.

    I wish you the best of luck, mate, although I doubt you'll actually need it. Looking forward to 'hearing' how this all unravels.
     
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    In my experience, the lousy lays are the ones who are constantly worried about what their partner will think of them. Great sex comes when both sides are getting something out of it. Self-sacrifice makes for lousy sex.

    If only one side can really enjoy themselves, and the other side is just doing it to make their partner happy, then I'd say that's an incompatible couple and they won't last long.

    I love feeling my girlfriend come on my dick, eating her out, tying her up and beating her ass before I fuck it, having her whole body shudder around me. It's awesome. I'm not doing it as a service -- she loves it, and I love it. It really excites me just seeing how much she likes it too. We fuck because we both get something out of it; I'm never worried if she's enjoying herself. If something's not working, she won't fake an orgasm or any of that bullshit. Selfishness makes for great sex with 0 anxiety.
     
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    There is a big difference between "just wanting to enjoy yourself" and being "constantly worried about what their partner will think of them" - and there is a fuck of a lot of middle ground between those two things. Your second post does not express the same sentiment as your first and I still maintain that your first post demonstrates a fucked up attitude. Maybe it is not your actual attitude and you just expressed yourself badly.
     
  11. The_Young_One

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    Thanks guys, I do feel more at ease.

    Well as most of you guys are saying. Just get lost in the moment and let everything else fall into place.

    Thanks again =)
     
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    Please know that at 19 it's really ok to still be a virgin. I know many men who decided to wait till they found someone they really loved and were at ease with to lose their virginity. Having a girl say "I want to fuck you" tends to lead me to believe that she's not exactly a particularly sensitive type and while having a girl say she wants to fuck you may be exciting, it also may lead to a ton of needless anxiety for you because of your lack of experience. I'm just saying that being at ease and having an emotional attachment to your partner will make your first time a TON better for you and your partner.

    Just consider carefully who you want to stick your dick into the first time...if it's just to lose your virginity is it really worth it? It's the one act of sex you will NEVER in your lifetime forget. Make it a special one for yourself and her. You've come a long way since those awkward years and deserve to have some really good memories out of it!
     
  13. ManlyBanisters

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    Way to reinforce a fucked stereotype, pretty. What you are saying is basically she not a 'good girl' and therefore she will fuck up his virginity losing experience. Horseshit! Maybe she's just sweetest, most honest girl in town or maybe she's Mary-Jane Rottencrotch - most likely she is somewhere in between. Saying she wants to have sex with him does not automatically make her a bad thing. Or are young women not allowed to have desires and express them without being labelled and dismissed?
     
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    You are above average in the size dept.. And also congrats on the weight loss!!! It takes dedication to loss that amount of weight!!!

    As to your virginity. Don't let anyone (male or female) pressure into anything you're not ready for.. Sounds sappy but losing your virginity is a big deal and should be with someone you love, not just some girl who wants to "fuck". Get to know her before you just jump in the sack. You make that step when YOU are ready. Don't rush it and lose it to someone who's not worthy of it (like I did!!) because you can't take that moment back. Good luck
     
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    I'm not labeling her a slut at all. I myself would happily say "Fuck me" to a playmate. I'm sweet, not too agressive in most cases, and my experience level and my overall non-vanillaness are heads above most people my own age...let alone an inexperienced teenagers.

    He's already expressed that he's still is a very insecure adolecent because of weight issues and definitely sounds very unsure of himself. That's why I suggested what I did.

    I'm saying that for his first experience he should think carefully about the girl he wants. Or even if he truly wants to lose his virginity now. Does he really want an agressive girl with the balls to say "fuck me"? His personality traits make me think he couldn't handle a girl secure enough to make it a good experience that he'll cherish remembering. And yes, I do believe someone's first ought to be cherished as a great memory.

    I approached this question of his from an experienced point of view. Never did I generalize that all girls who said "fuck me" were bad or make it seem as if I were putting them down. As far as reenforcing stereotypes...I'm happy to say I don't take a book by it's cover so to speak. I can't say the same for the majority of society.

    I have to keep 80% of my life from the majority of my friends and family because of narrowmindedness. Not too many people I know are in Triad relationships with 2 men or are bi and like to swing around my part of the country.

    I'm the perfect soccor mom with 2 male roomates to help pay the bills as far as they're concerned. They have their blinders on and like it that way. Do I wish it were otherwise? Of course I do! But unless I'm willing to pull up all roots, move to the middle of nowhere, cut ties with family and say my goodbyes to all I know and love other than my guys and kids it's not ever going to happen.
     
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    well said
     
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    @Pretty I known her for about 2 years. I would say we have a nice relationship. Also seeing how it will be my first time I would always remember. Though I would love to have a cherished memory instead of just one about my first time.

    I mean there is this one female that I have eyes for , and there's something there , but she's my co worker and we try to keep things professorial. She is also a virgin and that's not the reason I'm into her, but it would seem to be a more comfortable fit. Seeing how there would be not rush.

    Also Its not like im trying to just lose my virginity. (which im not saying you make it seem like) I would love for my first to be with someone I care deeply about , and instead of just sex we could actually make love. Its just that being a 19 y/o black male virgin is shameful. Its like we get pushed to to have sex as soon as we cant and if your not doing it your lame (Glad Im done with HS Lol)

    Btw thanks for the comments guys I always thought I was on the low end of average. I guess that's just the perception of how I see my own cock.
     
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    A thin girth starts at less than 4"65 .
    2 on 3 of men has a midshaft girth from 4"65 upto 5"30.
    So even for girth it puts you rather in the "thick" department.
    You 've almost my girth (5"75) when you're fully aroused, and I never considered my girth even average, but well above average.
     
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    23 and still have my v-card.

    Mostly due to self image issues. My family used to make fun of my weight often when I was a teenager. At my highest I was about 230 pounds .A few years ago.
    Right now I am at 200-205 pounds. and I only wear a size 33 and I am in better shape then my older brother is and he only weighs 145 pounds.
     
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    Dude, don't worry about it. I was in your shoes, except I was 30 lbs heavier at my peak, 20 lbs heavier after losing weight, and five years older when I lost my virginity. And I lost it to a virgin coworker. You'll probably last about 30 seconds your first time, but you'll improve rapidly over the following weeks, months, and years (presumably, since I was a virgin 11 months ago.)
     
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