An intimate issue: Female Bisexual experience

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  1. ClaireTalon

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    I know this is an somewhat intimate question, but I'd be very interested in it, from you other ladies n gals: Do you have any experience of sex, or intimacy that goes beyond "being friends", with other women?

    I know it's gonna fuel many male fantasies again, but I'll recount from my own experiences though. I consider myself as straight, in fact, I've not had something with another woman in 20 years, or more time. But while being an ROTC girl in college, and later for some time in flight school too, the few girls that we were had gotten pretty close together. Circumstances didn't always allow us to have sex with other guys, and adding to that came that we didn't consider sex with other women as "cheating", especially by those girls that were involved. Therefor the occasional mutual masturbation, or some deep kisses, were exchanged. In retrospective, I'd also say there was a lot of experimentation and curiosity involved with this. Since we still had boyfriends, or sex with guys, which we preferred, there was no panic involved (remember, those were other days, being caught in these acts could get you in severe trouble, fined, fired from the program etc).

    So, what's your experience?
     
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    Sorry, can't help with this one......

    Responses should be interesting tho'.
     
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    How ironic! I was just thinking of starting a similar thread!

    I suppose my first experience happened last year. A girlfriend and I lost a bet with 2 of our guy friends and as a result we had to passionately kiss for 1 minute. I didn't think anything of it, just a lost bet.

    Then earlier this year my fiancee and I went on a weeklong ski trip with another couple who were good friends of ours. We rented a cozy 2 bedroom cabin by the resort, it started out as a ski trip but certain "activities" transpired between all of us. Sticking to the thread topic though, my girlfriend and I did share some special moments together. I still prefer and love my fiancee's thick, hard cock and consider myself 100% straight, but the intimate moments my girlfriend and I shared still play in my head once in a while. It wasn't like when you kiss your friends goodbye or share a dressing room together and see each other naked. This was purely sexual and although it felt wrong it felt damn good. And since our guys were watching us, we just went with the flow. :tongue:

    It didn't affect our friendship, in fact there weren't any awkward moments. My girlfriend and I talked about it and both feel it was something that just happened in our lives and part of growing up sexually. I don't think we would do it again.
     
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    Are most women Bi-curious? Its interesting that women have no problem snogging a same sex friend, however if it was a straight man in that situation it would be NOT happen
     
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    This post is very long. I wanted to be thorough. I talk too damn' much.

    If asked in person for my orientation I would say straight. I really can't stand most women I meet. I can get along with anyone if I have to (I make my living being charming) but I wouldn't be friends with the average chick. So I cannot conceive of having a romantic relationship, or a married partnership with a woman. Another woman raising my kids? Never happen. But I am very sexually attracted to women, and there have been times when I've had sexual encounters with women whom I reguarded with equal measures of friendship, and lust. I still wouldn't want to be a couple or anything. I'm getting to the point where my days of acting on this attraction are coming to a close, as are my days of having sex outside of a committed relationship. In fact, a few months ago, I went four months celibate. For me, that is major. When my body adjusts to my new birth control pills, I will make another run at it. Anyway, I just wanted to give a little background before I answered the question, so that my answers would not be out of context as they so often have to be on a message board.

    Women are beautiful in a way in which men are not. Sometimes I see an attractive woman, and can appreciate her looks without feeling sexually drawn to her at all. Other times, I see an attractive woman and know I am memorizing her features for later recall during a private moment alone. I'm not inclined to approach a woman for sex, even if I know she'd be willing. The situation has to be pretty specific. I think this is because I prefer to have sex within a relationship, and do not want to have a relationship with a woman. I would approach a good looking man to find out if I like him. I would not do this with a woman.

    My first orgasms terrified me. I did not know that that's what they were. Ironically, they were probably the strongest I've ever had, and I could not enjoy them. The contractions were so violent that I was sure I had broken something deep inside myself. Despite my mother's long talks with me, I was still confused about my anatomy. I also had no idea what an orgasm felt like, or that that was part of the masturbation my mother had encouraged me to do as often as I wanted. I had been masturbating for ten years or more. Mostly, I humped my matress. That's how they started when I was 12 years old. I didn't figure it out for months. I don't know why I didn't just ask my mother about the strange (almost painful) sensations.

    I had been experimenting with my girl friends since I was about 1 1/2 or 2. I had experimented with a few boys too. At that time though, I was more intersted in playing with the girls, though I pretended one of us was male. The "male" would be the agressor. "He" would lead the kissing, remove the clothes, and be on top. We would switch roles all the time. We would kiss, and dry hump. We knew nothing of clits or penetration. When I was about 8 or 9, I found out what a clitoris was, but not what it was for. I liked the sound of the word. I also found out what the word horny meant, and thought it was a bad thing. while masturbating with my best friend, I asked her, "Does this mean we're horny?" She said, "Yeah. So?" I began to feel guilty about masturbating, and the exploring I was by then doing exclusively with other girls. It felt so good, but I would go for a few weeks at a time with no sexual stimulation, promising Jesus that I was done for good. Everytime I broke my promise, the guilt was exponentially increased. "Lies make baby Jesus cry." The promise was not one I was capable of keeping. There was always an intense sexual frustration, even then, and undeniable curiosity. I'd see something on television I wasn't meant to see, or overhear a private conversation, and need to act it out with my friends (and one girl who I believed at the time to be a cousin). It was insane. My mother never asked if i experimented with friends. She believed she'd shut that down when i told her about it back in nursery school. but she asked if I masturbated, and encouraged me to do so, without regret, anytime I wanted to and could be alone. I prayed to God, and to Jesus, asking again for forgiveness for all of the broken promises, and explaining that I'd misunderstood all along what was expected. I figure the three of us had a holy laugh about that one.

    Anyway, back to my scary orgasms. So, I still don't know what exactly an orgasm is, other than when men in porn ejaculate. I don't think my mother ever talked to e about female orgasm. I don't think she discussed male ejaculation with regard to pleasure either. But I had seen Debbie Does Dallas when I was 4. Those men were having a good time. Anyway. From the time we were about 10, my best friend and I had been using what basically amounts to a make-shift, double-ended dildo out of pens and rubber bands. We had finally discovered penetration. It was amazing. two years into it something changed for me. I was the girl, she was on top. I came even harder than ever. I had never had an orgasm while being penetrated. She saw how frightened I became and asked if something was wrong. I told her I wanted to stop. We never played sexually again. Two or three months later I found out it was an orgasm. By then, she had a boyfriend. I never told her any of this. I might soon though. I always wanted her to know. I don't still want to have sex with her, or anything, I just always wanted her to know what happened that day.

    I have had many experiences with females, some of them after I was mature. However, this is the most important bi-sexual experience I ever had, because it was the first time someone else gave me an orgasm. It is also the only encounter where I had an orgasm with a female that I really love. This woman is still my very best friend. I'm not even on speaking terms with most of the women I've slept with, especially the ones where we were all adults. In fact, there is only one, and I'm going to see her this weekend, possibly for the last time. She and I can still be friends, but very soon,the sexual aspect of our relationship is coming to a definite halt.

    I hope I answered your question, Claire. Maybe later I will post about my first mature bi-sexual experience.
     
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    My feeling is that most women are a less 'Bi-curious' than men. It's simply that this being the society it is men encourage women to be bisexual so much it becomes thought of as more prevalent.

    -why is it, GazIoM, that you had to reinforce your heterosexuality in this post? It always astounds me that to heterosexual dudes (even when no one has asked) they appear to need to reinforce that "it would NOT happen" to them.:rolleyes: Well, my gaggle of high school friends challenges that theory I assure you.

    In my opinion, men are probably more prone to experiment with the same sex than women are.
     
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    I think you're wrong, Stronzo. I bet it's about even.
     
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    How many girls did you have "play doctor" sex with when you were an adolescent?
     
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    Oh and one other question if you'll allow me;

    Do you enjoy watching "guy on guy" pornography BronxBombshell??
     
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    No less than 12. Add to that that I was very unpopular before high school. In high school, with tons of gay experimentation behind me, I was ready to catch up on my long-abandoned exploration with guys. I was literally kicking aggrssive lesbians and bi-sexual girls in the shins with my combat boots. But I live in a big city. The women here are more liberated. Perhaps you should read my post above this thread for a more thorough examination of one straight woman's curiosity about other females during development.
     
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    Hell yes!
     
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    Now that I can wrap my brain around.

    Here's my point BB. Most dudes will maintain as they encourage women to be with other women that "Women are more naturally bisexual than men". And further "nah, girls don't like to watch guy on guy sex".

    Thanks for your honesty!

    In an truly representative world I think most people would be bisexual and have no problem admitting to it. It's the inequity of the thing that favors the heterosexual males in the population to which I take objection. It's brought about this odd biased acceptance of female homosexuals (somewhat) where it's further relegated (societally) male homosexuality to cloistered status.

    It's been pretty effective to that end too.
     
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    ..and I don't think Bronx is alone in this. The amount of self-declared 'straight' women I've encountered who watch gay male porn is incredible. I've also seen the subject suddenly pop out of the woodwork and develop into mega-long threads on TV show- and movie-related sites whenever there has been a hint of male-male action on the screen. So my own experience leads me to presume that it's commonplace, but still largely a taboo subject matter. :smile:
     
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    Unless my straight girlfriends are lying to me, you're an exception to the rule.

    But I'm glad for your experience.
     
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    Exactly Alex.

    And why is it 'taboo'?? Cuz straight men say it doesn't happen. Curious, eh?
     
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    Even I have lied about this to certain men. I'm not saying they are. (Yes I am. :rolleyes:)
     
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    :cool: You're a very intelligent women, in my opinion.
     
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    Thank you, Stronzo. You, are very carefully thoughtful, I think. That is definitely a sign of intelligence.

    I want to add that I hope you took my last response as very tongue-in-cheek. That's how it was intended. I certainly don't want to call out women I have never met.
     
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    Very interesting posts, BronxBombshell. Thanks.
     
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    I've also met women who think all gay porn is gross, be it male or female, and women who like girl on girl and straight scenes, but not m/m ones. I know I'm picky about my gay porn. I want the men to have pubic hair, but none on their balls, and NONE (or extremely little) in their cracks. And I want them to have nice faces and wide bodies. I have often wondered if those women would react differently to m/m porn other than what they had seen. But I think it's just as likely that many straight women just do not want to see two men getting it on. It challenges their ingrained gender roles.
     
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