Don't ask me why or how, but I actually understood most of that. :tongue: That said, I still have no clue how to answer your initial questions. :irked: :frown1:
I don't want to imply that women are somehow intellectually deficient (we are NOT); but you may need to change the structure and format of your questions so that more women understand and can give you good, honest baseline data.
Yes, that baseline data is what I'm looking for. I feel that I can only find it by examine how that baseline changes over individual personality and biology. Just like the natural association that if you have a larger socket you'd likely enjoy a larger plug. What I'm looking to do is not gather information and average it, but rather gather information and associate it.
How about I try this, one of the critical difference between men and women in situations of arousal is that men are much more visual, while women are much more imaginative. What can be said then is that men tend to see situations from an
outward perspective (examining the environment), while women tend to see situations from an
inward perspective (examining finer details and individuality). So the question is intended to answer how an
inward direction translates to an
outward direction. I'll use this example to explain the differences.
Two individuals are presented with the same situation or image, and are asked the same question about that situation or image. These individuals are named Lisa and Rob. Lisa is a very inward thinker, while Rob is a very outward thinker.
They are both shown an image of a painting, in this painting a man is walking across a street, a woman is sitting on a park bench, and a couple kids are playing Marbles on the sidewalk. There's a couple nondescript buildings, and it's a daytime scene.
The following are Lisa and Rob's respective answers.
Q."Can you describe the image?"
L."A man seems to be going somewhere, a woman is resting on a bench, and a couple kids are having fun playing marbles."
R."It's daytime, there's a street, a man walking across the street, a woman sitting on a bench, and two kids playing marbles."
Q."What can you tell me about the woman?"
L."She looks a little sad, it's a nice day, maybe she isn't feeling well?"
R."She's wearing a coat and a nice hat, has brown hair, brown eyes, and has a purse."
Lisa and Rob not only represent inward thinking and outward thinking, but also Left brain and Right brain activity orientation. Inward thinking is going from the in-focus object into finer detail about the object, while Outward thinking is going from the in-focus object towards the bigger picture. Each person has a unique individual balance which is created by differences in the balance at the initiating point. By applying inward thinking we create greater connection, communication, and mutual understanding, allowing treatments to be custom tailored to physiology and psychology. By applying outward thinking we create greater association, relation, and systematic understanding, allowing the full impact of small changes on a large system to be knowable.
Lisa used intuition, knowledge about fine details, to infer that the kids were enjoying their game, the man was busy doing something, and that the woman was feeling sad. This is done on a visual level by examining facial features and other small details about a given object. On the audible level by sounds made such as weeping, or changes in speaking pattern. On the physical level by posture and body language.
Rob used observation, knowledge about the larger picture, to know the game the kids were playing, what the man was doing at the time, what the woman was doing at the time, what they were wearing and other directly visible details, but with little inferred knowledge.
If Lisa and Rob were to describe the image to each other using their own language, it would likely result in conflict. Lisa would expect Rob to infer further information from what was actually said and Rob would grow frustrated with Lisa never fully explaining anything. While Rob would expect Lisa to remember information about the surrounding environment, and explain things relative to that environment.
If Lisa and Rob have knowledge of the different perspective of the other, information can be rephrased into more easily absorbed information which is more specific and causes less trouble between the two.
So when I ask what the first question you ask yourself in a situation is, I'm just looking for any answer that you feel is suitable and accurate. This could be "What should I do?" this could be "What happened?" and it could be "Why did it happen?", or any other such interrogative about the situation. This first question, or first thought, is important much in the same way the branches of the tree work. The first branches have the largest determination of where the smaller branches end up. So the first thought you have is your immediate instinctual question to ask; this may or may not be the most efficient choice, but it's the one which you tend towards, the one which you are built for, so to speak, the most efficient one for you.
Pick any situation you like, describe it in short detail, and include what your first thought or few thoughts are when that situation occurs.
