Pumblechook
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Pumblechook's assertion about female preference is quite true, IF he's only referring to a one-night stand or fling. Most girls wouldn't tolerate that kind of passive bullshit over the duration of a relationship.
That said, most relationships have one even slightly more dominant partner that exerts more control over the other. It's almost unavoidable, but there's a certain equilibrium where the less dominant parter reverses the process once the more dominant partner exceeds a boundary. A relationship is almost like a governing body, and a lot more complex than most people give it credit.
I personally prefer relationships where very little effort is needed to keep them stable, and both partners are open-minded and temperate in their emotions. I like to keep a relationship light-hearted, but make sure its based on a strong foundation. If that foundation has been compromised by either an outside or inside force, there's not much that can be done to repair the situation (such that stress cracks don't rip those repairs apart), and chances are, it's over.
What I said had nothing to do with one night stands at all? Perhaps you quoted the wrong person??? Being a jerk and dominant is the flingy stuff, not being cooperative.
Other than misquoting me, you have a lot of good stuff said there. Especially the latter part that "very little effort is needed to keep [relationships] stable," since that is how mine tend to work. But again, I think it has a lot to do with you and your partner. I.E. if you have a dominance that needs to be fulfilled or your partner does or both of you do, well you pretty much are not going to be able to avoid having dominance issues in the relationship. Even so, there would have to be some kind of balance of dominance for that kind of combination to work.... which is much like a cooperative relationship between non-dominant people, just with a bit more contention.
I'd say with the girls I've dated that I was probably the more dominant one, although that is not dominant at all. Like I said, I like to keep a relationship balanced, so everyone has input. So, as you said with a "governing body," it is more like although I may be a more dominant person, I choose not to exercise any kind of oppression upon a girlfriend. So like a country with a good ruler, no one is held back and everyone can get the most out of everything.