This may be a long post, so get some coffee before you read.
I met this guy on Manhunt.net the past winter, except I've not 'hooked up' with him like people normally do on that site. He lives about 5 miles from me, and what you might find rather odd is he's about twice my age. I'm about to turn 20 and he just turned 38. But I don't mind because I typically like older guys (just not in their 50's/60's, etc.. that's just gross). I'm also mistaken for a guy in his mid twenties quite often, especially at work, because I don't act like your typical young guy at all.
Anyhow, as a discreet reference I'll call him Max. When we first met we went out to eat, second time we saw a movie and played some video games at his house, third time I went with him and his boyfriend out eat. Since then we've spent time as friends, just like any other adult friends.
Max does massage therapy and runs his own business from selling comic/anime/video game/etc costumes on ebay, so he's at home a lot. You're probably wondering why I mentioned that he has a boyfriend, and that's part of the reason why I'm posting. Max and his boyfriend (who is 24) have been together for 3 years, and in the past year their relationship has been pretty shaky.
About two months ago they had a big fight and would have broken up if they didn't have a long talk about it. They feel like they have too little in common, and Max often mentions how his boyfriend doesn't go out much and doesn't help out around the house at all.
Max's business is growing and he's about to open a website, and I'm helping him out by uploading product content to his site, which he's paying me for. Max's boyfriend thinks he spends too much time with his business, and doesn't seem to support him in it at all, even though they connected because of their comics (DC/Marvel/etc) interest.
So now to explain the issue I have. I've known Max for about 5 months now, and lately there's been a lot of sexual tension between us. He has an open relationship with his boyfriend, so if we did anything it wouldn't be a problem, but as weak as their relationship has been, if they ended up breaking up I'd feel somewhat guilty even if it had nothing to do with me and they were going to break up anyways. Often times though whenever they have a small fight, Max wants to get out of the house and goes to see a movie or something, and sometimes invites me to go with him - especially the week they almost broke up 2 months ago.
My view on this is that if they do break up, I don't want to jump right in to get into a relationship, but I really do like Max, and the sexual tension we've had lately isn't helping. We've never done anything more than hugged, but we've talked about messing around, and have webcam'd once. We went to see Prince Caspian tonight because his boyfriend didn't want to, and after the movie we went to the bathroom and ended up showing each others' cocks in person for the first time.
My friends know I like older guys and they have met Max, so there's no problem there, but I feel uncomfortable talking about this situation with them. Basically I just wanted to get some opinions on the matter and what you guys think of it. I'm not asking for a therapy session or anything, just some opinions - even if you call me a freak for having an interest in a guy that's twice my age
I met this guy on Manhunt.net the past winter, except I've not 'hooked up' with him like people normally do on that site. He lives about 5 miles from me, and what you might find rather odd is he's about twice my age. I'm about to turn 20 and he just turned 38. But I don't mind because I typically like older guys (just not in their 50's/60's, etc.. that's just gross). I'm also mistaken for a guy in his mid twenties quite often, especially at work, because I don't act like your typical young guy at all.
Anyhow, as a discreet reference I'll call him Max. When we first met we went out to eat, second time we saw a movie and played some video games at his house, third time I went with him and his boyfriend out eat. Since then we've spent time as friends, just like any other adult friends.
Max does massage therapy and runs his own business from selling comic/anime/video game/etc costumes on ebay, so he's at home a lot. You're probably wondering why I mentioned that he has a boyfriend, and that's part of the reason why I'm posting. Max and his boyfriend (who is 24) have been together for 3 years, and in the past year their relationship has been pretty shaky.
About two months ago they had a big fight and would have broken up if they didn't have a long talk about it. They feel like they have too little in common, and Max often mentions how his boyfriend doesn't go out much and doesn't help out around the house at all.
Max's business is growing and he's about to open a website, and I'm helping him out by uploading product content to his site, which he's paying me for. Max's boyfriend thinks he spends too much time with his business, and doesn't seem to support him in it at all, even though they connected because of their comics (DC/Marvel/etc) interest.
So now to explain the issue I have. I've known Max for about 5 months now, and lately there's been a lot of sexual tension between us. He has an open relationship with his boyfriend, so if we did anything it wouldn't be a problem, but as weak as their relationship has been, if they ended up breaking up I'd feel somewhat guilty even if it had nothing to do with me and they were going to break up anyways. Often times though whenever they have a small fight, Max wants to get out of the house and goes to see a movie or something, and sometimes invites me to go with him - especially the week they almost broke up 2 months ago.
My view on this is that if they do break up, I don't want to jump right in to get into a relationship, but I really do like Max, and the sexual tension we've had lately isn't helping. We've never done anything more than hugged, but we've talked about messing around, and have webcam'd once. We went to see Prince Caspian tonight because his boyfriend didn't want to, and after the movie we went to the bathroom and ended up showing each others' cocks in person for the first time.
My friends know I like older guys and they have met Max, so there's no problem there, but I feel uncomfortable talking about this situation with them. Basically I just wanted to get some opinions on the matter and what you guys think of it. I'm not asking for a therapy session or anything, just some opinions - even if you call me a freak for having an interest in a guy that's twice my age