novice_btm said:Oh, and the bottom never got hard, so I have no idea what his measurements were.
jeff black said:Bah, no one cares about the bottom anyways
But Alex, I already told you, my pleasure comes from pleasing YOU! :tongue:alex8 said:If someone is bottoming with me, their pleasure is paramount. Otherwise I can derive no pleasure either, it's just mechanical. I know you're only being ironic, but that viewpoint is sadly all-too-prevalent, in discourse if not in practice.
novice_btm said:But Alex, I already told you, my pleasure comes from pleasing YOU! :tongue:
alex8 said:If someone is bottoming with me, their pleasure is paramount. Otherwise I can derive no pleasure either, it's just mechanical. I know you're only being ironic, but that viewpoint is sadly all-too-prevalent, in discourse if not in practice.
If you and I are naked, and you are feeling any kind of pleasure, TRUST ME, the feeling is mutual (OK, maybe even a little moreso for me). :biggrin1:alex8 said:Mutuality of pleasure is the only true pleasure in sex.
Have you ever heard that before?
Well, neither have I.
I just made it up.
I'm going to put it on coffee mugs. :smile:
alex8 said:Equally, Windy's mention of potential health issues re: über-looseness and being 'anally wrecked' need to be borne in mind too.
Back to the fantasy, it's much easier to pull off. :wink:
jeff black said:To be honest, I didn't think that a person could handle two dicks in their ass without alot of anal experience. Either way... ouch..........
novice_btm said:Oh, and the bottom never got hard, so I have no idea what his measurements were.
In my somewhat limited experience, I have NO idea what determines it, because I've had both happen. That is, I've gotten an erection from feeling the insertion, and completely lost an erection from the insertion. As an aside, a bottom losing an erection from insertion has NOTHING to do with the amount of pleasure being felt. I've had my eyes roll so far up into my head that I thought I was going to see my brain, from the amount ecstasy I was feeling, yet been entirely limp. So, TOPS, it's NO reflection on you. Anyway, I don't know if it's from the initial mild pain, the general shock to the area, the relaxing of the muscles to accommodate, the tensing of the muscles from anxiety, the stretching of the area that perhaps results in too much, or a pinching that results in not enough, blood flow, but it's not uncommon, and is quite normal for a bottom to lose an erection. Whatever causes it, I'm sure it can only be intensified by a double-penetration, or even one really thick one.IanTheTall said:I've seen plenty of bottoms lose their erections after insertion. Not sure if it is because of pain or reduced blood flow...
novice_btm said:In my somewhat limited experience, I have NO idea what determines it, because I've had both happen. That is, I've gotten an erection from feeling the insertion, and completely lost an erection from the insertion. As an aside, a bottom losing an erection from insertion has NOTHING to do with the amount of pleasure being felt. I've had my eyes roll so far up into my head that I thought I was going to see my brain, from the amount ecstasy I was feeling, yet been entirely limp. So, TOPS, it's NO reflection on you. Anyway, I don't know if it's from the initial mild pain, the general shock to the area, the relaxing of the muscles to accommodate, the tensing of the muscles from anxiety, the stretching of the area that perhaps results in too much, or a pinching that results in not enough, blood flow, but it's not uncommon, and is quite normal for a bottom to lose an erection. Whatever causes it, I'm sure it can only be intensified by a double-penetration, or even one really thick one.
NOT a judgement call, but I've always heard that improved communication leads to improved pleasure. Nonetheless, I'm glad that I may have cleared a little bit up, to anyone wondering.Stronzo said:Truly helpful novice. My boyfriend doesn't like to discuss sex but fortunately he likes to have it regularly.
Again, I have NO idea what determines it, but I'm the same way, and completely relate to, and agree with, his quote. As an aside, my orgasms are the same. Some of the time, it goes up over my head, other times, it just pumps in more of an ooze-like fashion, and neither are related to my amount of pleasure.Stronzo said:I've wondered why my boyfriend reacts variously to exactly the phenomenon being discussed. ...he sometimes begins to lose his erection in the midst of fucking though insists it's still arousing and when I suggest I pull out he says to "NO! Keep going!"
Very good explanation Novice....I too loose erection during intercourse. The pleasure one feels inside is hard to describe. It can be a mind boggling experience. At least for me.novice_btm said:In my somewhat limited experience, I have NO idea what determines it, because I've had both happen. That is, I've gotten an erection from feeling the insertion, and completely lost an erection from the insertion. As an aside, a bottom losing an erection from insertion has NOTHING to do with the amount of pleasure being felt. I've had my eyes roll so far up into my head that I thought I was going to see my brain, from the amount ecstasy I was feeling, yet been entirely limp. So, TOPS, it's NO reflection on you. Anyway, I don't know if it's from the initial mild pain, the general shock to the area, the relaxing of the muscles to accommodate, the tensing of the muscles from anxiety, the stretching of the area that perhaps results in too much, or a pinching that results in not enough, blood flow, but it's not uncommon, and is quite normal for a bottom to lose an erection. Whatever causes it, I'm sure it can only be intensified by a double-penetration, or even one really thick one.