Anal Issue

[bthegreat]

I've bottomed a couple of times with the same guy, we're fuck buddies. When its my turn to bottom I'm prepared. I'm as clean as clean can be but when he starts fingering me and getting ready to finger me, I clinch up. Not a lot to the point I'm shut closed but I clinch. In some of the porn I see the guys don't do that at all. It seems so easy for them to take a dick and have someone finger them. How do I not clinch up? Anyone else have this issue?

 

[Redheadchi]

Maybe they use muscle relaxers

 

[bigblk]

dildos and butt plugs beforehand...they're already pretty open b4 the scene

 

[rbkwp]

Never really had such a problem matey
Perhaps your partner could spend more time massaging and playing around all over the area, prior to the entry
a lot of time spent on the area between balls and anus, (forget the name?) massaging and foreplay should enhance the experience
may well help relax you
5/10/20 minutes would not be uncommon.
Best
enz

 

[bthegreat]

dildos and butt plugs beforehand...they're already pretty open b4 the scene

I figured but I want to be ready when I'm ready

 

[BBB2.5]

Are thinking "I hope this does not happen again"....when you begin your play time. If you are then it's just a matter of you relaxing, focus on the sensations , and not the penetration part.... :wink:

 

[bthegreat]

Are thinking "I hope this does not happen again"....when you begin your play time. If you are then it's just a matter of you relaxing, focus on the sensations , and not the penetration part.... :wink:

I relax when I'm doing it myself its when someone else, I clinch.

 

[TomCat84]

I've bottomed a couple of times with the same guy, we're fuck buddies. When its my turn to bottom I'm prepared. I'm as clean as clean can be but when he starts fingering me and getting ready to finger me, I clinch up. Not a lot to the point I'm shut closed but I clinch. In some of the porn I see the guys don't do that at all. It seems so easy for them to take a dick and have someone finger them. How do I not clinch up? Anyone else have this issue?

For the most part, until you have a few years of experience under your belt, bottoming is a matter of zen. If you're not experienced enough to know to be relaxed enough for anal on demand, I would suggest copious amounts of foreplay to get relaxed. And dont think about being relaxed, otherwise you won't be. For what it's worth- I've been bottoming for 10 years now- not only did it take me 4 or 5 years to get completely used to it- I STILL don't like getting fingered. It feels awkward to me. Just lube me up and go at it.

 

[elixer26]

sounds like hes not doing his job lol I've only had that problem with like 1 virgin.
And the other guys, they never had someone my size, so they "froze up"
some guys just can't take it. But when I'm IN they love it and say im the best they ever had. So it sounds like yall dont have good chemistry LOL

 

[zaliem]

While I love to face my lovers while either being in them , or having them in me, sometimes you have to flip over your bottom guy and spread him out wide so you can get in him without hurting him (pillows under his belly helps)

 

[fratpack]

relax, deep breaths, lube, give it time

 

[LADave]

try a tab of exstacy.

 

[bthegreat]

try a tab of exstacy.

Ha! Maybe

 

[bthegreat]

For the most part, until you have a few years of experience under your belt, bottoming is a matter of zen. If you're not experienced enough to know to be relaxed enough for anal on demand, I would suggest copious amounts of foreplay to get relaxed. And dont think about being relaxed, otherwise you won't be. For what it's worth- I've been bottoming for 10 years now- not only did it take me 4 or 5 years to get completely used to it- I STILL don't like getting fingered. It feels awkward to me. Just lube me up and go at it.

Thanks man, that helped

 

[TomCat84]

Thanks man, that helped

No problem! Also, it might help to practice on yourself using a dildo. Good luck!

 

[freakyscboy]

Thanks man, that helped

i get like u . u have to get in the mood and work your way too it. use fingers toys and a lot of lube before u take a dick. get your ass loose and ready for the dick. take your time and everything will work out.

 

[bthegreat]

i get like u . u have to get in the mood and work your way too it. use fingers toys and a lot of lube before u take a dick. get your ass loose and ready for the dick. take your time and everything will work out.

Okay, will try this out

 

[swat611]

Use lube and relax. This guy use to finger me while i sucked his cock and it would make me rock hard and i would jump right on his cock. But thats me i love anal sex both giving and recieving.
Maybe you guys could try eating your ass out alittle. My girlfriend loves to have it done to her then begs for my cock for finger in her ass.

 

[bthegreat]

Use lube and relax. This guy use to finger me while i sucked his cock and it would make me rock hard and i would jump right on his cock. But thats me i love anal sex both giving and recieving.
Maybe you guys could try eating your ass out alittle. My girlfriend loves to have it done to her then begs for my cock for finger in her ass.

Okay, I'll report back, anymore