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Hey guys!!

I thought I would post this topic seeking some help from my fellow gays.....

So I very much enjoy anal play with myself... I would like to do it all the time, but it just seems that my behind maybe isn't meant for it.

Problem is, like every time I try it, I end up getting cuts and fissures inside there, or it becomes irritated. I always have to stop. Or it becomes a problem after.

I use a very generous amount of water based lube, I go as gentile as I can..... just doesn't seem to help it.

Does anyone else have these issues? Maybe I should just stop doing anal play and anal stuff forever.

Thanks for any help
 

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Hey guys!!

I thought I would post this topic seeking some help from my fellow gays.....

So I very much enjoy anal play with myself... I would like to do it all the time, but it just seems that my behind maybe isn't meant for it.

Problem is, like every time I try it, I end up getting cuts and fissures inside there, or it becomes irritated. I always have to stop. Or it becomes a problem after.

I use a very generous amount of water based lube, I go as gentile as I can..... just doesn't seem to help it.

Does anyone else have these issues? Maybe I should just stop doing anal play and anal stuff forever.

Thanks for any help
sure got a cute butt and shame to waste it, could well be somethings serious and medical help should be sought or you could be trying to enjoy anal play with things not suited to being inserted is suck a cute hole. Looking at the reverse you cgot a great cock and heavenly bush so maybe they should be enough to satisfy you - or anyone for that matter.
 

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sure got a cute butt and shame to waste it, could well be somethings serious and medical help should be sought or you could be trying to enjoy anal play with things not suited to being inserted is suck a cute hole. Looking at the reverse you cgot a great cock and heavenly bush so maybe they should be enough to satisfy you - or anyone for that matter.

It's not something serious, it's a fissure, or a small cut. They heal on their own. It's just really annoying!
 

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Hey guys!!

I thought I would post this topic seeking some help from my fellow gays.....

So I very much enjoy anal play with myself... I would like to do it all the time, but it just seems that my behind maybe isn't meant for it.

Problem is, like every time I try it, I end up getting cuts and fissures inside there, or it becomes irritated. I always have to stop. Or it becomes a problem after.

I use a very generous amount of water based lube, I go as gentile as I can..... just doesn't seem to help it.

Does anyone else have these issues? Maybe I should just stop doing anal play and anal stuff forever.

Thanks for any help


Are your nails trimmed and filed? I have a bad habit of biting my nails; so every time I go to play with myself, I have to file my nails. I heard on a sex podcast one time that you can run your nails over your lips to see if they're sufficiently smooth.

Also, are your hands gruff from calluses? That might cause irritation. I joke with my friend that he should never try to do anal play with his hands because they are insanely pockmarked with calluses to the touch. If someone's hands would deem your hands rough, it’s going to be like sandpaper on such a sensitive region like the anus.

I typically use silicone based lube, coconut oil, or Shea butter. I find that water based lube dries too quickly for my liking. But if you're using silicone toys, DO NOT use silicone based lube. Learned that the hard way when one of my toys started to become misshapen. The oils should be fine, just make sure to wash them well afterwards or they'll start to build up a film.

My last bit of advice would be to take your time. Even though I know that I CAN open up to the point of inserting a Large Fort Troff Ass Rock, I have to start slow because my body might not be as responsive now like it was a couple days ago. Trust me, I've tried skipping straight from one finger to douche to FT Medium Missile Stretcher, not a good day for me. Hurt a little and there were minor tearing, as evidenced by the pink coconut oil on my hands afterward. You can't just from A to Z quickly, but I have found that the time that it takes to get from A to C has gone down exponentially. As you're maximum capacity starts to grow, the amount of prep it takes to get the smaller toys in goes down because you have the flexibility to accommodate. Ultimately, it's like flexibility training. The anal ring is a muscle that needs stretching. You wouldn’t slide into an over-split cold turkey, if you don’t have the space in your body to do so. Just breathe, take your time, and listen to your body on any given day.

Sorry if I sound like a walking ad for FT, it’s just that almost all of my toys I use for stretch are from them. Aneros isn’t exactly a taxing stretch.
 

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1) Go to your doctor and get your butt checked to make sure there aren't other issues
2) What are you inserting? If you're not already, get toys that are designed for anal play, and get smaller than whatever you're using
 
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Are your nails trimmed and filed? I have a bad habit of biting my nails; so every time I go to play with myself, I have to file my nails. I heard on a sex podcast one time that you can run your nails over your lips to see if they're sufficiently smooth.

Also, are your hands gruff from calluses? That might cause irritation. I joke with my friend that he should never try to do anal play with his hands because they are insanely pockmarked with calluses to the touch. If someone's hands would deem your hands rough, it’s going to be like sandpaper on such a sensitive region like the anus.

I typically use silicone based lube, coconut oil, or Shea butter. I find that water based lube dries too quickly for my liking. But if you're using silicone toys, DO NOT use silicone based lube. Learned that the hard way when one of my toys started to become misshapen. The oils should be fine, just make sure to wash them well afterwards or they'll start to build up a film.

My last bit of advice would be to take your time. Even though I know that I CAN open up to the point of inserting a Large Fort Troff Ass Rock, I have to start slow because my body might not be as responsive now like it was a couple days ago. Trust me, I've tried skipping straight from one finger to douche to FT Medium Missile Stretcher, not a good day for me. Hurt a little and there were minor tearing, as evidenced by the pink coconut oil on my hands afterward. You can't just from A to Z quickly, but I have found that the time that it takes to get from A to C has gone down exponentially. As you're maximum capacity starts to grow, the amount of prep it takes to get the smaller toys in goes down because you have the flexibility to accommodate. Ultimately, it's like flexibility training. The anal ring is a muscle that needs stretching. You wouldn’t slide into an over-split cold turkey, if you don’t have the space in your body to do so. Just breathe, take your time, and listen to your body on any given day.

Sorry if I sound like a walking ad for FT, it’s just that almost all of my toys I use for stretch are from them. Aneros isn’t exactly a taxing stretch.
All good advice.
One time years ago I got fucked standing up, the guy was massive and he split my ring - bleeding. I didn't do anything about it but it turned nasty and I ended up in hospital - so, cute as you ass is its better to be safe than sorry. Was a long time till I took cock again, and even now I take care of what I insert in my anal cavities.
 

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Also it matters what the toy is made of. For example, jelly-type toys are very irritating to me, and I later learned they may also be toxic. All my toys are premium medical grade silicone. It might not be that the toy is too big, it might be a cheap toxic toy that is irritating the tissue.
 

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Also it matters what the toy is made of. For example, jelly-type toys are very irritating to me, and I later learned they may also be toxic. All my toys are premium medical grade silicone. It might not be that the toy is too big, it might be a cheap toxic toy that is irritating the tissue.
They cost a littler more but it’s well worth it. Silicon all the way.