I was just wondering what people's thoughts were with regards to sex/anal sex.
I am a 23 years old and am technically, by society's standards, a "virgin". This is because I have never had anal sex.
However, I don't consider myself a virgin. I have had all sorts of sex with plenty of people: oral sex, mutual masturbation, frotting, anal stimulation, but have just never engaged in penetrative anal sex. One day I would probably like to try it, as both top and bottom, but right now I'm happy with my sex life and feel completely satisfied. I just feel as though society views homosexuality as synonymous with sodomy. Whereas in reality, I have met far more heterosexual couples who practice anal sex regularly than homosexual couples.
I can't help but think that the idea of sex being a necessarily penetrative act is a heteronormative construct. The very concept of the "virgin" also being a male construct used to work out someone's worth. Somehow its a bad thing to never have been penetrated by a penis, or to have never penetrated someone else with a penis. But there is so much more to sex than that.
What do you think?
I am a 23 years old and am technically, by society's standards, a "virgin". This is because I have never had anal sex.
However, I don't consider myself a virgin. I have had all sorts of sex with plenty of people: oral sex, mutual masturbation, frotting, anal stimulation, but have just never engaged in penetrative anal sex. One day I would probably like to try it, as both top and bottom, but right now I'm happy with my sex life and feel completely satisfied. I just feel as though society views homosexuality as synonymous with sodomy. Whereas in reality, I have met far more heterosexual couples who practice anal sex regularly than homosexual couples.
I can't help but think that the idea of sex being a necessarily penetrative act is a heteronormative construct. The very concept of the "virgin" also being a male construct used to work out someone's worth. Somehow its a bad thing to never have been penetrated by a penis, or to have never penetrated someone else with a penis. But there is so much more to sex than that.
What do you think?