Anal Sex: Before, During, and After.

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  1. jjsjr

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    ok... THIS TOPIC IS NOT FOR THE FAINT OF HEART...
    IF THE NOTION OF ANAL SEX AND ITS CONTENTS UPSETS YOU,
    PLEASE DON"T WASTE SPACE WITH OFFENSIVE COMMENTS.


    To start off... I'm a bottom and I enjoy anal.

    But, in the process of discovering the joys and customs of anal sex, I began cleaning out my ass before any sexual encounter.

    I'd like this thread to be a discussion of methods to use for anyone who is unfamiliar with anal sex and how to prepare the anus for it.



    I used to try and flush it out with water, but found I was most successful when I just used my finger to sweep out any unwanted material.
     
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    whatever you guys do, the top will thoroughly appreciate it. I like when I pull out and the condom is clean =)
     
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    Hey this thread is for me. I am in my 50's and after years of marriage and straight life, I am divorced and been having serious thoughts of having a gay experience. No its not because I was jilted, I have had yearnings for a long time to touch and be touched by a guy, believing that we know what a guy wants to experience more so than most women. Then my question is, if I get into a relationship how do I prepare for anal (not sure I want it but certainly want to give it). I am ignorant in this arena and would appreciate any help. I live in Africa and don’t have many products available so maybe some natural stuff that should be easily available.
     
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    I agree....
    There's a lot of responsibility in being a bottom.
    I don't want to embarrass myself by having him pull out and there's a mess.

    I found it to be bottom etiquette. There really isn't too much top etiquette other than being safe.


    I remember when I discovered what the fuss over anal sex was all about.... The Prostate.
    When I found my prostate one day, it was like rediscovering the orgasm!!!
     
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    Even better, buy a shower douche and learn to use it. A clean bottom is a great bottom. Whether you are the top or the bottom.
     
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    I'm a versatile guy, but I enjoy bottoming sooo much. I use a bulb syringe type douche for travel if on vacation, but I agree that a shower douche is best. It gets you really clean and when I am really clean the top enjoys it more and I do as well because I'm not worried about being clean.
     
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    Do not douche with water, the shower enema attachment, or use fleet enemas as these make it actually a lot harder for you to clean yourself out without any water, and they cause more problems than they solve. Just wash with soap and water and check with a finger like you wrote about doing and make sure that you are empty by going to the bathroom like you normally would. Douching and enemas make it easier for HIV and other STDs to be transmitted if you do not use condoms and they also take away all the good bacteria that your body needs.
     
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    Before my bf and I play we shower and he washes very well. He also 'empties' before showering. When we first hooked up I had the experience of the soiled condom and it def kills an enjoyable moment.

    Now that we are exclusive and we bb we are even more careful because not only can you open yourself up to HIV and STD's, as a top you are prone to UTI's. So I def clear the pipe and wash afterwards.
     
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    What's this??? No one goes for scat play anymore? You don't know what you're missing till you try it... that, or watch the 2-girls-1-cup vid...

    ... ok, that was off-base (and, you know a synonym for base: Bottom).
     
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    I find that after I clean and empty myself, I use a personal wipe to clean myself. I also apply some lube to my fingers and clean out any unwanted debris. It's kinda like self foreplay. LOL.
     
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    I had a friend ask me how I can handle bottoming, I think he was curious but afraid.

    Then I realized that I'm no more of an expert than anyone else, I only have some experience.
     
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    I top most of the time, but I use my "shower shot" daily to keep clean (and love the fullness of a good enema)
     
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    damn, I think the enema is worse than bottoming LOL
     
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    3 or 4 shots of an enema and you should be squeaky clean and good to go!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    anyone else willing to share personal experiences or advice?
     
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    Where can you get poppers these days?
     
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    I've never used them....
    even though I know they have them in the "local sex shop."


    Apparently, they're like buying pot from a head shop...
    you ask for "sexual enhancing spray" or something like that.
     
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    There's an adult bookstore near me and they sell them there and you can get them at headshops and online.

    I've never used poppers/amyl at all and apparently they are very bad for your heart and circulatory system, they do not last long at all, and they make you go limp.
     
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    I've had an enema before during a doctor's visit, and I found that using it actually caused me painful cramping and discomfort. I can't imagine being in the mood to get fucked or to fuck someone if that is the result every time.
     
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