Anal sex! Compulsory for gay guys or not?

[kiwi_in_uk]

Guys,
I haven't been a member of this site for very long, so I don't feel entitled to take up much of your time with problems you've more than likely heard countless times before. I'm a guy that has hereto been described by everyone (including myself) as straight. I've had two long term girlfriends (1 year and 3 years) but have recently come to admit to myself that I'm at least partially gay. Not a problem for me so far. I had a brief fumble with a buddy at school when I was 13 years old which has triggered a good few solo sessions over the years, but nothing since then and now I find myself in a position to experiment, having split with my girlfriend 3 months ago, I am discovering that what gay guys seem to be asking for and what I find to be a turn on are two different things. In short, the idea of anal sex makes me go totally cold. It just seems completely unhygenic. Is it compulsory for gay guys to do this? I love the idea of sucking on a nice long thick cock and having a guy spray his load in my face and down my throat and then returning the favour, I even like the idea of kissing a guy when I'm really horny, but will they want/expect me to do the dirty deed as the next step? and if not, what other things do gay guys in a loving relationship do together? C'mon guys help me out on this one!

Cheers,
Tony

PS. I've watched several gay porn films (disgusting I know) in which one guy has been inside another guy and then he whips it out and sucks him until they get to the money shot. What's that all about? The phrase "eat shit and die" comes to mind or at least "eat shit and become very poorly".

 

[hipster]

Hello Tony, As I am an anal virgin, I have the same view as you at the moment but remain curious. I have fantasized about gay sex, but thats as far as I have gone. I enjoy looking at male nude pictues, although I am not very keen on hairy men. Brian.

 

[Principessa]

I am a straight woman who enjoys anal sex the recent trend in porn of A2M (Ass to Mouth) I find totally skeevy.

Actually there are many gay men who do not engage in anal sex.

 

[priority_male]

Definitely not compulsory! For some guys it's the main course, for others an optional extra and for some it's a total no-no (somewhat depends on who you're with).

I'm sure there are lots of guys who would be happy for you to suck them off without anything anal coming into it ... ;-)

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

When it comes to sex nothing is compulsory, it's about mutual enjoyment, however there isn't anything dirty about anal sex as long as you're sensible about it. Just do what you enjoy doing and don't be pressured into something you're unsure about, but do try and keep an open mind.

 

[D_Sherian_LaNeige]

It takes a couple of minutes to get used to it the first time, but anal sex can be great - and if you're using a condom anyway then it can't too unhygienic, right?

 

[earllogjam]

Nope it's not compulsatory. Some guys don't even go there. Many are not into anal sex, believe it or not.

 

[hairyguy29]

Kiwi, fear not for you are not alone

I'd always known I had an attraction for cock, but went through the motions and got involved with a girl, then another one, finally one more. That's about 7 years of trying to make relationships with girls work. During that whole time I had one gay encounter (oral only) between 2 het relationships, I just didn't want to cheat on my then gf's. During those 7 years I'd read and watch gay porn, was intrigued by the anal, but never ever saw myself doing it. That's an exit not an entrance right? And it's dirty to boot! After I said goodbye to straight relationships and played around with guys some, I eventually found myself in my first gay relationship.

First thing I figured out was I'm a hell of alot better gay boyfriend than I am a straight boyfriend Next thing I found was, I'm in love with this guy, and I really wanna have sex with him, 'real' sex, go ALL the way, that sort of thing. Seven years of regular intercourse is hard to give up! Without making a long story too much longer, that ended up being the wedge that eventually ended my first gay relationship. I hadn't had intercourse in the 3 years we were together, he'd never been with a girl, never been involved with any sort of penetrative sex, and was very happy for us to continue slurping on each others rods for the forseeable future.

Cut to my next relationship, he's had experience with anal, also been with girls. He'd been a bottom mostly in previous relationships and I'd been dieing to top a guy. It was flat out amazing! Anal sex with a guy was everything I'd never allowed myself to think it could be LOL. Plus, he get OFF on it so much. I did my reading up on prostates before we did it together the first time, had my lay of the land so to speak, and I made sure I hammered that button with my cock. I wasn't prepared for just how much pleasure he got out of it, so it wasn't long before fingers, dills and more were being thrust into my own bum. Now I'm still versatile, but one of the biggest power bottoms you're ever likely to meet! The thrill of my first anal orgasm got me started down a road I am happy to never see the end of, the journey is just too much fun!

So ya, long story longer, it was intercourse withdrawal which got me over the first bits of anal taboo programming we all went through growing up, and first hand witnessing of just how much pleasure is waiting for us there that got me to try it myself. So from completely against anal to power bottom in less than 5 years, hurrah! That's my story in a nutshell. I don't find anal disgusting at all anymore, I've educated myself on the ins and outs.

My development is my own however, and there's no saying you ever have to like or even try anal and I've met several couples who just don't do anal together and are very happy. Read this part carefully: There are no rules for how a relationship between two people should be conducted, you're free to make your own. It's healthy and normal so long as everyone's happy and noone's being hurt.

Cheers,
Hairyguy

 

[fortiesfun]

Nope it's not compulsatory. Some guys don't even go there. Many are not into anal sex, believe it or not.

Probably more, in fact, that do go there. Surprising, but true.

 

[hairyguy29]

PS: really nice cock!

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

Yes, great cock, Kiwi! Whatever two consenting individuals decide to do and don't decide to do is between them. There are no "rules."

 

[basque9]

Anal sex is a perk of being gay and having another asshole to play around with...besides one's own. It is not universally practiced, but it is very prevalent! Responsible anal sex is the norm, not precisely what you think you have viewed in porn. There is an overwhelming amount of staging involved in making a professional porn video...sequences such as wiping and washing the penis are cut or not filmed at all. Even in the making of a professional porn film, there is recognition that bacteria could sicken the actors and precautions are the norm! Realize that unclean and unhealthy and unsafe looking practices do sell films!

 

[112773]

I am definitely not into shit play, but I definitely like to fuck and be fucked. That being said, I can't say in all of my experiences have I actually saw anything sick come out after the penis has penetrated the ass. (I don't know about you guys or gals, but I make sure to cleanse myself well. :tongue: If you think anal sex is so dirty, maybe you aren't cleaning your ass good enough after doing #2. Jk... lol)

 

[muchtodo]

Just do whats right for you. Anal sex can be very good if you are with someone you enjoy. I Like to get my parnter off, if anal sex comes into play so be it. Keep and open mind .

 

[Balljunkie]

Anal sex is not compulsory. It took me two years for me to actually do it. And it happened spur of the moment, and I loved it. It was the best thing.

It took two more years for me to bottom. And I still don't enjoy that.

Topping though is great. When the guy really gets into it, you can feel it. It is amazing.

Oh, and I have never been with a dirty bottom. I always give the guy head, and see if there is an aroma coming from down below. So far, my method has worked.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

nope.

 

[slate_australis]

I don't like anal very much at all - even less when I was at the receiving end... twice... and it's never happening again.

I love the intimacy of "play" activities.

 

[ekybottom]

Anal penetration is not required for man to man sex. Many men are very much into oral and are perfectly content with oral alone. While I dearly love getting fucked, it's not for everyone. The most important part for a successful anal encounter is to make sure the bottom is clean. ( An enema is absolutely necessary) A big mess is an absolute turn off for all parties involved.

 

[steeler_999]

My experience and observation over the years leads me to believe that about 90 per cent of the sexual activity between men is oral. Anal is the more the exception than the rule. If anything, oral sex is what's compulsory.

 

[slowaneezee]

Don't know about anyone else, but I lived with another guy for 2 years and we were both very satisfied with each other, never having had anal intercourse. On the other hand, I have had friends/contacts/lovers who want to go right for the ass action, first thing. I personally still feel that it is a little gross and unnatural, but I must admit that I have enjoyed my limited anal experience.