ANAL sex for the first Time

[toadstool]

How do you go about having anal sex for the first time me and my partner have never had anal sex and I was wondering how to go about it for the first time to make it eaiser for the both of us any suggestions would be great either post here or send me a PM


thanks
Toadstool

 

[SR_Pepe Le Pube]

try your fingers and then a slim dildo to get the hole relaxed. you will know when you are ready for more.

 

[fnaslut]

Rimming your partner also helps get him excited and relaxes the anus...followed by gently, with lots of lube, fingering him and using a dildo

 

[toadstool]

thank for the advice

 

[Rikter8]

And most importantly clean out before you do it.
Drink orange juice, and douche a few times to keep things tidy.

Gotta be whistle clean when going down.

 

[bigcrush]

After you get him relaxed and lubed up. Lay down on your back and have him set on you. That way he can be in control of how deep you go in him.

 

[halihung]

OK I heard this from a pornstar (I cannot remember her name) on an interview and I have tried this and it works. First a couple of rules...

1) TAKE IT SLOW!!! (I cannot stress this enough)
2) STOP if there is MUCH pain (it is much easier to damager her/him back there...

Now the fun stuff. LUBE, get some good stuff. The choice is entirely up to you. Now I would recommend a bit of playing around the rim, licking, kissing etc... Slowly put in 1 finger. Allow it to remain there for 1 - 3 mins. Longer is better especially for those new to it. Now insert 2 fingers. Allow these to remain for a minimum of 2 - 5 minutes. Again gauge with your partner on when to switch up. Now move up to 3 fingers. You guessed it. Allow at least 3 - 8 mins in this position. By this point your partner should be loosened up to hopefully get just your head or more in depending on your size! At least for me it works like that but my girl needs a good 10 - 15 min warm up. Once you get the head in there work off your partners feedback to slowly get yourself up in there. Just remember to take your time and go slow. There are many nerve endings in this area and it can certainly be sensitive especially if it is your/their first time. Have fun and be safe!

HH

 

[petite]

The Holy Grail Tip that solved the problem for us: If it hurts or feels uncomfortable, hold it there for a minute, then take it OUT for at least a minute before trying again. This one tip was key for us achieving success. For some reason, the muscles relax a lot more and faster after you remove it. That tip was essential for us! You can kiss, or massage, or touch, or masturbate each other during the minute waiting time, or dilate while watching porn, or even dilate earlier the same day alone. There are lots of ways to make it fun.

The length and girth problem: Using thinner (but not shorter) soft jelly dildos to dilate before trying with his cock - while using the same "hold still for a minute, then remove for a minute" technique solved it. I think the very first time we tried this, we used 5 dildos of increasing size. The very next time we used 4. Now we're down to 2-3 before we can try with his cock, and it goes faster.

Things that didn't work for us: "Don't take it out," was the worst advice ever, and the exact opposite of what did work. "Keep it moving," also failed to ever make it pleasurable, and made it continue to hurt more. If we had tried, "just lots of lube and time," we'd still be waiting to have anal sex. I've never found his fingers to be comfortable back there. His hands are too rough and his knuckles are too hard! I really don't like his fingers in my ass. Also, butt plugs didn't work at all, no matter how many different kinds and materials I tried, but everyone kept recommending them! They're narrow where they need to be wide and too wide where they don't need to be and never long enough unless the girth become ridiculous. Dildos or something at least vaguely penis shaped worked best. Also, hard materials like a lot of those extremely expensive silicone dildos made my ass too sore for anal sex, which defeated the purpose. Sure, those cheap clear jelly dildos are a lot softer than your cock, but at least his/her ass won't be too sore to enjoy your cock after you've loosened that ass up!

 

[B_subgirrl]

The Holy Grail Tip that solved the problem for us: If it hurts or feels uncomfortable, hold it there for a minute, then take it OUT for at least a minute before trying again.

I agree with this one. I rarely have problems jumping straight in, but when I do, taking it out and putting it back in again a minute later WORKS!!!

"Keep it moving," also failed to ever make it pleasurable, and made it continue to hurt more.

Keep it moving DOES work for me, but I suspect it wouldn't if there was pain involved. Keep it moving helps me to get over any feelings of weirdness or discomfort.


A positive mindset and relaxing (as much as possible) are also good - obviously!

 

[petite]

Keep it moving DOES work for me, but I suspect it wouldn't if there was pain involved. Keep it moving helps me to get over any feelings of weirdness or discomfort.

Thanks for pointing this out. I should have been more specific!

Yes, I meant that if it hurts or feels uncomfortable, then don't move because moving just makes it hurt more. If it doesn't hurt, then there's no pleasure unless it keeps moving, and it can feel weird if you just hold it still. Opposite advice I know. The holding still is just for dilating. Once dilated, please keep it moving!

I should have also included this...

This only applies to women: Also, I haven't yet achieved an anal only orgasm and that really interfered with my ability to enjoy anal sex, but I discovered that just touching my clit with a finger, or even better with a really good bullet vibe or my Wahl massager, that made me orgasm much more strongly than I do from vaginal sex! It is an amazingly intense experience for me, one that completely satisfies. So, if she's not enjoying just the anal alone, maybe some clit play at the same time would send her over the edge.

 

[B_Nicodemous]

Holy shit! I JUST pm'd subgrrl and was explaining that fingers have never worked for me either! lol Actually it is the solo finger. Two or three (after sex) are fine, but one is not comfortable. I can be fingered after (two or more preferably) for a good long timethough. One still feels weird to me, and strangely uncomfortable. The funny thing is, is that my Guy has like smooth soft hands (way more than mine) s i don't know if it is the rigidity or what:redface::frown1:

Subgirrl, back me up, didn't ny last two Pm's mention this? (or one,in case you haven't opened the latest one:wink

Everything else is mostly spot on for me as well petite. Are you sure we are not twins that were somehow seperated...and born years apart? lol:tongue:

The Holy Grail Tip that solved the problem for us: If it hurts or feels uncomfortable, hold it there for a minute, then take it OUT for at least a minute before trying again. This one tip was key for us achieving success. For some reason, the muscles relax a lot more and faster after you remove it. That tip was essential for us! You can kiss, or massage, or touch, or masturbate each other during the minute waiting time, or dilate while watching porn, or even dilate earlier the same day alone. There are lots of ways to make it fun.

The length and girth problem: Using thinner (but not shorter) soft jelly dildos to dilate before trying with his cock - while using the same "hold still for a minute, then remove for a minute" technique solved it. I think the very first time we tried this, we used 5 dildos of increasing size. The very next time we used 4. Now we're down to 2-3 before we can try with his cock, and it goes faster.

Things that didn't work for us: "Don't take it out," was the worst advice ever, and the exact opposite of what did work. "Keep it moving," also failed to ever make it pleasurable, and made it continue to hurt more. If we had tried, "just lots of lube and time," we'd still be waiting to have anal sex. I've never found his fingers to be comfortable back there. His hands are too rough and his knuckles are too hard! I really don't like his fingers in my ass. Also, butt plugs didn't work at all, no matter how many different kinds and materials I tried, but everyone kept recommending them! They're narrow where they need to be wide and too wide where they don't need to be and never long enough unless the girth become ridiculous. Dildos or something at least vaguely penis shaped worked best. Also, hard materials like a lot of those extremely expensive silicone dildos made my ass too sore for anal sex, which defeated the purpose. Sure, those cheap clear jelly dildos are a lot softer than your cock, but at least his/her ass won't be too sore to enjoy your cock after you've loosened that ass up!

 

[B_subgirrl]

This only applies to women: Also, I haven't yet achieved an anal only orgasm and that really interfered with my ability to enjoy anal sex, but I discovered that just touching my clit with a finger, or even better with a really good bullet vibe or my Wahl massager, that made me orgasm much more strongly than I do from vaginal sex! It is an amazingly intense experience for me, one that completely satisfies. So, if she's not enjoying just the anal alone, maybe some clit play at the same time would send her over the edge.

Good advice! DP may also help if she's a penetration girl like me.

I DO orgasm from anal alone, but I suspect it's because of the same area that is responsible for my vaginal mid spot orgasms - the perineal sponge.

Holy shit! I JUST pm'd subgrrl and was explaining that fingers have never worked for me either! lol Actually it is the solo finger.

Subgirrl, back me up, didn't ny last two Pm's mention this? (or one,in case you haven't opened the latest one:wink

ROFLMAO :biggrin1: When I read Petite's answer, I thought you two must've been discussing things behind the scenes :biggrin1:

 

[B_Nicodemous]

ROFLMAO :biggrin1: When I read Petite's answer, I thought you two must've been discussing things behind the scenes :biggrin1:

Nah, we all know she must have been using her preternatural pregnancy powers to peer past the partition of time and space, and see what I was PMing you! THAT'S how she knew!:wink::tongue::biggrin1:

 

[B_subgirrl]

Nah, we all know she must have been using her preternatural pregnancy powers to peer past the partition of time and space, and see what I was PMing you! THAT'S how she knew!:wink::tongue::biggrin1:

Our Petite has scary powers, but she uses them well :biggrin1: