anal sex, how to?

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  1. whatsup2

    whatsup2 New Member

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    My girlfreind and i are interested in trying anal. However we have both tried it once with different partners in the past and she found it really unenjoyable and the girl i was with said it hurt. I do not have a big cock really just an average one. Any suggestions on how to do it so it is an enjoyable experience for the both of us, particuallry her as i do not want to her to be in any pain or discomfort. thanks
     
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    First of all the easiest thing is to make sure she is in the mood for it as much as you. Then, she really needs to relax and not be so tense otherwise it will hurt a lot. You could also lube a finger at first and use it her ass. Then gradually add a few more until she is comfortable with a couple. Also, a big suggestion make sure there is enough lube on your cock. Hope this helps.
     
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    Aren't you a sweetie. This is what works for me (in order):

    Lots of anal rimming (where you lick her ass and stick your tongue in there a little at a time). Get her ass hole really wet and as loose as possible.

    Stick your pinkie finger or the tip of your index finget in...work it in and out, lick some more, alternate based on her reactions. Do this for a while.

    Lube your cock up really well, glide it up and down her ass, inserting it just a lil each time you pass her ass hole.

    Proceed based on her reaction.

    Also helps to reach around and stimulate her clit as you enter her....feels really good that way.

    Oh! Ask her to be verbal with you - "Mmm baby, that feels good. Yeah, don't stop, go futher". OR "Oh, ouch, try licking me a little longer baby".

    Just TAKE YOUR TIME. Anal sex isn't something you rush into, or it can be painful.

    Have fun, and let us know how it goes :wink: .


     
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    There are a few threads that are very informative about this as well.. try typing anal sex into the search option. You may find some more advice from alot of different people. :)
     
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    Everything curiousgurl said. I have had anal sex with four female friends and found the most important along with these is to be gentle.

     
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    Here is my 2 cents. Make sure she wants it. Do every thing the people here have said but also get her to breath nice deep breaths as she relaxes her ass to let you enter her. She has to relax! You should use lots of lube and go slow. Ask her to tell you if it hurts at all. If she says it hurts take your dick out. Ask her to tell you when the pain is gone. Then lube up your dick, and her ass, some more and re-pentrate her asshole. It will go in easier on the second try. Once in, you hold still till she gets used to your dick. Then start to thrust in and out... but go slowly and then work up the speed a little. Once its in and she is relaxed to your cock, you can go faster. As she gets used to getting her ass fucked she can work her ass muscles like doing kegel exercises to really milk your dick. I relax my ass when the guy is thrusting in and clamp down as he pulls it back out. But most of all.. SHE HAS TO WANT IT! Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    If she doesn't want it she's going to be tense and it's not going to go well. If she does want it make sure you play with her arse, get her wanting it, then let her go on top, you can play with her while she's astride you and she can slide down on to your cock at her pace. You can never use too much lube and you need to take it nice and slowly.
     
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    It may take a few sessions of assplay with your fingers and/or toys before you get to penetrate her. And when you do, do it slowly and gently. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT go at her like a porn star until she's ready for that, which may mean never.

    The key to this is that she has to like it, and the best way to assure this is to make her enjoy all the steps leaing up to penetration... And there may be a time where she says, "I just really don't like this, I don't want to do it anymore." At that point, you have to stop until she's ready to try again, which may be never. Some women simply don't like anal sex no matter what.

    Also, if she doesn't already, encourage her to play with her ass while she masturbates. That helped me realize that I really anal.

    Keep the lines of commuication open. And as others have said, use lots and lots of lube. A few drinks beforehand couldn't hurt either.

    Good luck!
     
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    Pearls of wisdom.
     
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    penis =====> asshole
     
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    Wow I was just talking about this a few night ago with a guy friend and love everyones advice on this
     
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    My wife dilates her ass with increasing diameters of dildo's and uses a vibrator on her clit while I penetrate her. Lately she has realized that foreplay is actually beneficial and this after 32 years together, she also finds that watching porn helps her get into sex and foreplay. An lots of lube.
     
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    anal sex, how to?
    Let me see - Equipment:
    one anus
    at least one penis (multiple penises can be used but beginners may prefer to start with just one)
    lubricant (optional, but advised)

    1. Unclench anus
    2. add lubricant as required,
    3. stick penis in anus,
    4. withdraw penis from anus,
    5. repeat steps 3 and 4 as many times as necessary for one or both (all) parties to achieve orgasm

    Seriously, though - step one there is quite important - the hornier and more relaxed the owner of the anus is the easier the first penetration. Two things that I didn't noticing in previous advice (in this thread) -- 1. a clean asshole - I don't suggest enemas or anything, but at least make sure she doesn't need to 'go', and 2 if she pushes out (as if to 'go') as you push in that makes first penetate easier for you both (and is part the reason a clean and empty passage is helpful). Good luck, enjoy.
     
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