This probably a stupid question to some of you, so let me say sorry in advance. I'm in a long distance relationship with my on and off boyfriend of one year. I've always wanted to try anal sex, but have been to scared. He's finally convinced me that I can trust him. I've read a lot of stories online where girls asses are totally ruined from anal sex... I'm guess "too much"? Soooo is this fact? And any tips for first time anal sex? How much did it hurt?
For most human females, anal sex is painful and annoying, because the anus is not made for penetration - the anus is designed for defecation.
That's why most women don't like it.
The desire for anal sex is mainly a desire coming from pubescent boys.
But if you do want to try it (most women do it to get off the annoying begging of their husbands and lovers), here's some basic advice:
1. before you begin, tell your partner the real reason why you want to try it: because you want to please him, because you just want to experience it, etc...
2. this will set things clear, and gives you an exit strategy in case it doesn't work out
3. clean your anus well - because faeces can infect both your vagina and his cock; you can clean out your anus with an enema
4. use a set of dildos before you try; prepare yourself and open your anus with a small dildo, then a bigger one, etc... until you think you can manage
5. then, when you're open and clean, put enough lubricant on your anal opening and inside, around the two rings of anal muscles which are designed to push out your faeces
6. make sure your man is as hard as possible, before entry
7. let him enter your anus very carefully
8. try to relax your anal muscles, the first ring is painful; once he's past that ring, the pain will ease
9. before he can start to thrust his penis into your rectum, you must keep it there, still, for a while, so your muscles can adapt -- remember, the anus is not meant for penetration, only for defecation
10. then allow him to thrust up and down
11. tell him (beforehand) that he should not put his dirty penis from your asshole into your vagina - because the risk of infections is quite high
12. when he has cum inside your rectum, go to the bathroom and clean the semen out, with an enema
13. then discuss what happened: two people came together to have (probably painful, unpleasant and complicated) unnatural sex - let him know clearly if you think it was all the trouble
Good luck.