anal sex

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  1. under_score

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    me and my girl friend are thinking of having anal sex for the first time, and with me having an 8 incher , offer some advice on what to do and what not to do.
     
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    The difficulty with anal sex is usually not the length, but rather the girth. You're 5¼" in circumference. Luckily, that's a manageable size; it's not like trying to force a zucchini through a button hole. But if it's her first time taking in the butt, there is likely to be some tensing up and at least some discomfort. Actual pain? Yeah, I'm afraid it's a distinct possibility. Try to have her relax. Let her know that you will not attempt to penetrate her sphincter until you both feel she's ready. Let her know that if, at any time, she asks you to stop, that you will do so. And honour those promises. You should prepare with ample fingering and lubrication with a water-soluble lubricant. Make sure it's water-soluble; petroleum-based lubes are not condom-compatible. Start with one finger and gradually add others until you have four in there. Performing cunnilingus on her while fingering her rectum will help her accept the fingers as well as increase her pleasure. It would be a good idea to have her take the upper position. That way, she can lower herself onto your cock and take it at her own pace. It will give her some sense of control and increase her comfort. If it doesn't go well the first time, it's not the end of the world. Experimentation with anal toys and vibrators can help. The most important thing is patience: don't pressure her. If she wants it bad enough and is determined, she will find a way to take it, even if not on the first attempt. Then you will both experience pleasure from a highly underrated activity, at least in the heterosexual world. Good luck to you.
     
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    Very thorough answer, DMW. The only thing I have to add comes from my own personal experience.

    If it doesn't work out the first time, laugh it off. It's not a big deal. If she really wants to do it, she'll bring it up again (as my boyfriend found out, much to his surprise). I only experienced pain when he tried to enter from above, like a missionary position. I like being on my hands and knees, but I have never tried being on top. If she trusts you, no position should be an issue, but woman-on-top is probably a good idea for the first time. Anal sex is not clean, so don't expect it to be or you're likely to embarass her.

    Anal sex BLOWS MY MIND in a way I have never heard of for women. I hope your girl likes it just as much as I do!
     
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    i think her trying it from on top at first is a very very excellent suggestion. avoid the understandable urge to thrust up while she is getting settled. smile at her warmly as she mounts the pony.

    good luck :)
     
  5. Imported

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    Trixiville: Its been many years since I had anal sex, but WOW!!!!!!

    I loved it!!!!!!! ;)

    Im sure your lady will too!

    Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    Only thing I have to add is cleanliness, I know its not a plesant subject to bring up but I have heard of many girls that have been performing anal sex for the first time and did not think of cleaning themselves forehand. Enemas are probably the best way, maybe research a bit on how to do it. She should atleast go to the bathroom before you guys get going.... Honestly do girls think it just evaporates?? (not all girls mind you just the silly ones)
     
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    sweetfella: I am a new member, so I don't know if I am doing this right, but I will give it a try. I am a gay man with a 8" also. I am assuming that anal ex with men and women is about the same.

    Many guys start with a finger or two to lossing things up. I have found that many people find that a turn off (kind of like going to the doctor) I suggest about 5-10 minutes of rimming (licking). This gives them time to get used to the feeling and acually start liking it, and you would be surprized at how relaxed it gets them. Then, go wash your mouth, you will probably want to kiss her later and a guarantee that she will not apprecite that post ass taste mouth. Depending on how she likes it, her starting on top is good because she can totally control it, and personally, watching someone bounce on your dick is the BEST. If she wants you to be in control, start on your sides, then you can lean around and kiss her. I have found that most people are more into it if they are already turned on by having sex, meaning, fuck her normally, make her cum, then switch to anal. Use lots of lube, hold her tight, and slowly start pushing, a little at a time, giver he a chance to lossen up.

    The first time, don't expect to get it all the way in. STOP when she says to. It is a gradual thing. Don't expect much the first time, you want it to be pleasant and then she will try it again. You DON'T want to freak her out, or you will never get another chance.

    Good luck
     
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    tinkerbell: I suppose with guys there is the prostate factor, but as a woman I haven't been able to relate to the thrill of anal sex. I have tried it a couple of times, it wasn't unpleasant, but for me really can't compare to the feeling of regular vaginal sex. Is there a "submissive" component involved? I'm definitely more dominant and may explain my lack of interest.

    I guess i'm missing out. :)
     
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    twin_daddy: I've only tried it twice, and neither time was very pleasant. Most women have always had the same response: "No Way! Not with that thing!!" Or, "Are you kidding?!"
     
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    From the mouths of babes...

    Our ambassador from Iceland raises one of the most important issues for me. I love to fuck but hate it when it ends up (pardon the pun) smelling like I'm shoveling out a barn. Preparation is job one for a good bottom and will make the experience so much better for everyone.

    Plus, I find that cleaning out helps relax me when I'm the one on the receiving end.
     
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    Deb:

    I agree with you, anal feels good only as it relates to the stimulation of nerve endings, but there's no overwhelming thrill I get out of it. Still, I like it because I think it does have a highly submissive component for me, and that's the type of girl I am (during sex anyway). I do it every so often in my current relationship, because my boyfriend and I love the naughtiness of it. My boyfriend's pleasure in it is obvious, but mine is derived mainly through his ability to make me "feel" submissive through his dirty talk and the positions we use...and of course his rather large member has its dominating presence as well.
     
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    carolinacurious: The topic a couple of threads down from this "In a word: ouch", is almost identical to this one and has many of the answers you are looking for.
     
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    Sweet Caroline: 1) Definitely have her clean up first
    2) Lot's of lubrication, and not just when you first start
    3) Work up to it slowly, lot's of foreplay (a nice orgasme wouldn't hurt) and start with something smaller.
    4) LISTEN TO HER!! If she say's it hurts, stop. If she tells you to slow down, slow down. In other words, LISTEN TO HER!!

    5) In my case, I like to have a glass of wine or two first. Great muscle relaxant.


    Did I mention Listen to her???
     
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    NineInchCock_160IQ:
    Good advice from everyone so I won't bother repeating what those above already stated. Though... I do wish I could find some girl like those I've seen post before who LOVE anal... I've always wanted to experiment more with it but to date I've only had two girls who tried and one who actually went through with it.

    Anyway about the cleanliness issue... judging from the posts it seems like some people here haven't even considered it but I hope that's not the majority. That's just asking for some kind of nasty infection. I usually like to wash up before any kind of sex anyway (sometimes I like it dirty but being clean is better if you're going to be spending a lot of time or doing anything with your mouth). If you're going to try anal play, take a bath with your partner beforehand. Get the water hot and very sudsy. Gently massage her anus to relax the muscles somewhat, and with two very soapy and thus well-lubricated fingers, insert gently into the rectum and swivel around like you're cleaning out the inside of a tall wine glass. Stool is not stored in your rectum, it's in your colon and intestines, so the only stuff that would be in there is leftovers from the last time you had a bowel movement. Cleaning it out is easy and afterwards no mess and no foul odors to spoil the fun. Plus if your ass is nice and clean your partner might be more open to giving you a rim job and those are nice.

    On a side note, even if you do clean yourself or your partner out thoroughly, after anything goes in anyone's ass (penis/finger/sex toy) don't put said object into any warm, wet, open orifices (mouth/vagina) unless you want an infection. Even though they do this in pornography all the time, still probably not the best idea. There's always the possibility that you missed a spot. B)
     
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    Even if you do take the "proper" precautions your dick will smell afterwards. I've only done it without a condom though.

    The first time is always difficult, I didn't know exactly what I was doing and it felt like the circulation was getting cut off on my dick. I like to be able to thrust at a steady pace, but she obviously wasn't having it. It was the lack of speed that made it disheartening. When I was in, I just wanted to go back to normal pussy tendencies, LOL
     
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