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  1. hackalive

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    I know this question has probably been asked a million times (maybe time for a 'sticky thread'). Anyway, i'm new to the whole anal thing, i want to know how do i prepare for anal with my bf? Do i need to clean somehow special? What do i need to do to prepare?

    Many thanks for you advice in advance ;-)
     
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    Before you do anal, be sure you do an enema so you can make damn sure you get no surprises, then shower. I mean wash with body wash with a deodorizer all over including inside the ass or whatever soap you got. Dry yourself, lotion down just make sure skin is moisterized, get lube, need lube It's a must. Relax and then enjoy the ride.
     
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    Soap inside the ass? That sounds like it could be somewhat burny. :eek:
     
  4. surferboy

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    most of this is horrible, horrible advice!

    first, let me start by saying i don't like anal sex, be it topping or bottoming. juts not my thing

    anyways, yes, you should clean yourself out, but not with an enema. the ingredients in enemas have been known to cause damage over a relatively short period of time of regular use. buy one of those blue bulb things (they're kinda like the things used to clean out a baby's nose when they're congested, only a bit bigger; i forget what they're called). fill it with warm water, insert, go to the toilet and push it out. keep doing this until the water coming out of your bum is clear.

    now on to the soap part. never, ever, ever put soap into any opening of your body! especially the anus! it's more than fine (and recommended) to clean your crack and the outside of the hole with your body wash. but never put soap up your bum

    the only part of this man's post that is 100% good advice is the lube. relax and get fingered. wear a condom. enjoy
     
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    I think for me the biggest factor in successful anal is having my mind in the right place. If I think I can take it, I will. If i think it's gunna hurt, it will.
     
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    This and make sure you're clean. Mindset does play a major role in whether or not you're prepared. Make sure that you and your partner go slowly for your first time.

    I've never done any cleaning other than exactly what surferboy suggested and have never had any problems.
     
  7. surferboy

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    yah, mindset is important. my friend morine says if she feels like she can't take it, she won't be able to. but if she's totally relaxed and all, then it's all good in the hood
     
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    I'm all for cleaning out, but do it way before you are going to have sex, because you often get a bit of water that decides to come out at inopportune times. I think the real trick to this is to know your bodys functions... Do you have a solid bowl movement every morning that comes out clean? Or are you someone that has issues during the day too. If you are regular, than it's not as iff there's pooh in your rectum all the time just hanging around. I think if you are generally regular with out problems of low fiber, etc... then you'll generally be ready to go. If on the other hand you have trouble with loose stool and you are very irregular, you do need to clean out with either a shower shot (google it) or one of those little bulb things. Fort Troff (google it) has one that's the same as the bright blue one you may have seen form time to time, but it's black and comes with different shape and size nozzles. Nothing saying you can't enjoy the clean out too ;). And it doesn't look so medical. If you use the shower shot, use really low pressure and room temp (maybe a little bit warm) water... you want to squat while you are doing it. Fill up once and release in the toilet... if it's generally clean, then you can go in to the shower and squat and insert the nozzle. Here's the important part of the shower shot... while you are letting water fill you up, lightly bear down like you were pushing out a turd, and let the water just come in at the same time its flowing out. Bearing down closes off the higher sphincter so it doesn't go way high up to come out later when you don't want it to.
    Of course, if you are some kind of a fisting porn star, than you want to really clean out all the way up and you will want to do it hours before the activity is going to take place and then not eat anything until after your bum has been fully satisfied... Hey, nobody said that it was going to be easy.
    But say again... for regular anal sex, for someone who has a healthy bowl movement every day at the same time, you can just know how your body works and go around it. Shit is just processed food... and while it can cause a bit of trouble from time to time, I think it's important to not be so freaked out about it that you end up cleaning out too much, or "putting soap up your asshole" out this weird notion that we are all so unclean. And remember this.. Putting things in your ass is just as much ingesting it as putting it in your mouth. Don't put anything in your ass that you wouldn't eat (like soap). Some people do wine enemas... can be very dangerous... but they say they go from 0 to wasted in about 15 seconds because the alcohol goes straight to your brain... again, can be very dangerous - deadly even. Some use coffee enemas (cooled coffee) for cleansing purposes.
    And here's another layer of info to think about. The rectum is a mucous covered organ, and the mucous is the stuff that protects you the most from unwanted guests... no matter what the bug is. Cleaning all that away all the time lowers your level of protection. Of course you should be using a condom anyway, but flushing out your natural defenses just isn't a good idea. Yo can also become reliant on enemas to the point that you can't take a shit without one.
    I think of enemas as something that I do for... a special event that I know I want to be absolutely sure that I'm ready for, as part of the whole sexual experience itself (Once the initial clean out is done, the enema itself can be a very enjoyable experience, or those time when I just got caught off guard and the only way I'm going to be able to have anal sex is by cleaning out. Other than that, I just get to know the ebb and flow of my body's functions and work around it.
    There's a good (very in depth) book that you can get called "Anal Pleasure and Health" that will give you more info than you can shake a penis at.
    One last thing... don't be so keen to have anal sex that you skip over the part where most of the pleasure comes form... the anus... play with it, kiss it, stroke it, explore it, tap it, smack it, lick it and love it... have fun there first and the insertion part will just come naturally. If you wake up the anus first, it seems to catch on nicely as to how awesome an experience it can be.
     
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    jesus christ, who the hell would do that O_O also, it doesn't go to your brain. the intestines' purpose is to absorb nutrients into the blood stream. alcohol is filtered through the liver when you ingest it. alcohol is a poison, point blank. by putting it directly into your intestines, you're putting this poison directly into your blood stream. NOT a good idea!


    also, you raise some good points in your post, but it's kinda difficult to read. don't take this the wrong way, but you need to learn to format better - every few sentences, skip a line or so, yah?
     
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    Have tried it - didn't like it. While trying to fuck - I am a top - I became distracted by the fact that shit is waste and even though the guy had cleaned himself out I began to think about the fact that there is always more coming down the intestines so no matter how much you try to clean yourself out you can't get it al. Then I began to think about what happens if the rubber breaks and some shit goes up my pee hole. As a result I didn't have a good time and I deflated. So even though I enjoy watching others having a good time with an anal fuck it is not for me.
     
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    I've never been able to use the bulb things. I don't know what it is but whenever I use one my stomach is upset for three days afterward. At first I thought it was just a coincidence but it's happened several times now and it's always for three days. I don't even use chemicals, just water but something just doesn't sit right with me.

    So I just try to work around my schedule and do the best I can with it. I still get worried that something may happen but so far so good.
     
  12. petite

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    I'm still an anal newbie, but we tried for so long and I tried so many different "tips" given here on LPSG that didn't work before finding a method that did work, that I thought I would pass on what we learned.

    I have to stretch my ass out first in order to enjoy it. Mindset isn't enough for me. If I don't stretch out my ass before we put his cock inside me, then it just hurts or feels very uncomfortable. And it doesn't feel better if he continues to fuck me. Your ass may be larger or sized better for the size of your partner's cock. If it isn't, then read on!

    I didn't get to the point where I totally enjoy anal sex with TheBF until I first began dilating my ass using dildos of increasing size and length. I originally thought that only my anal sphincter was the issue, but I would feel pain deep inside and that didn't stop happening until I added a longer dildo that stretched me out deeper inside.

    Anal plugs didn't work for me. First of all, they don't stretch out my anus and they were uncomfortable. Material also matters. One of my first mistakes was buying a very hard silicone dildo for my ass. I thought that the fact that it was silicone would be better since I could sterilize it, but it was so hard that when I tried using it for dilation, it made my ass too sore to enjoy anal sex, which defeats the purpose! I really like the clear jelly dildos for stretching out. They are squishier than an actual penis and make dilation much nicer. I would never use glass or metal to dilate my ass. I have used a rubber inflatable dildo for anal dilation, but it mainly dilated in girth and nearer the head or the mid-shaft of the dildo, not increasing much in size at the base because my anus was squeezing the air out of the dildo there, so it didn't function well for loosening both my anus and the inside of my ass at the same time.

    The next thing is method. I read about this method here on LPSG from another poster, a big dicked gay man who wrote about how he introduces new partners to his cock and who gave the best anal sex advice I've ever read on LPSG, whose name I do not know, so I cannot credit him, but it really worked so amazingly well that I'll pass it on to you.

    1. Position: He suggested that on one's stomach works best, and this is what we do when he's using his cock. I lie on my back when I'm inserting a dildo. He mentioned that a lot of people think it's easier for the newbie to sit down on the cock or do it doggy style, but he said that neither position works as well. Sitting down on his cock tenses the muscles in the ass which makes it more painful. Lying down on one's stomach allows the newbie to totally remain relaxed. He said that the only control that the bottom needs is communication, saying "stop" or "more" and the top should listen. I totally agree with him.

    2. Dilation method: This is what works for me! He said to insert dildo/cock until you feel resistance or discomfort, then hold it still there for a full minute, and then remove it for a full minute. Yes, it seems slow, but it doesn't go as slow as you would think, especially if your partner is kissing you and touching you and talking sweetly to you, and if you're doing it alone beforehand, then you don't have to go through this whole process right before sex. For some reason, it doesn't work for me without the full minute held still AND the full minute where he takes it out to let my ass rest. When I insert the dildo/cock again, it goes in further than before with no discomfort, like it was meant to be there! The person who gave this tip wrote that removing his cock completely for a full minute is essential for relaxing the bottom's ass muscles, and he is right. I had read advice before that said that the top should keep thrusting slowly to "loosen" me and that it would feel better eventually (it didn't, it just kept hurting or feeling uncomfortable) and that you have to "keep it in" in order to get full relation, but that never happened either. Those tips all failed for me. Anal sex didn't work for me and it was never enjoyable for me until this one guy suggested that the right way to introduce a new partner to a large cock was to allow the ass to relax around the cock/dildo for a minute, then rest for a minute without anything inside it. I took his advice a little further and start off with smaller dildos before moving up to TheBF's cock, but I'm still somewhat of an anal newbie, having only truly succeeded at anal sex with him 3 months ago. I no longer have to start off using my smallest dildo, which I graduated from very soon after we started, and I probably can stop using the next bigger one soon, too, but I sort of like it. It slips in with ease and only takes a minute to adjust to, and I feel like it's a good "starter" size dildo for me.
     
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    I prefer doggie to begin with. It seems to open me up more than lying on my stomach. But lying on your stomach would definitely help with relaxation.


    This made me think about a funny moment I had with my FB recently. He'd just gotten himself all the way in, and thinking that I needed a few moments to adjust to the sensations, I said 'Go slowly. I'm out of practise (it had been YEARS since I'd done anal)'. He replied 'I'm not moving'. Oh. It was ME pushing back against HIM. Despite my need to take a moment and get used to the feeling of having a cock in my ass again, I'd already started fucking him :redface:


    And I guess I should add a qualifier to my earlier post about mind set. Don't take the mind set idea so far that you hurt yourself. A little pain is no big deal and probably to be expected early on, but if you are TOO good at the mindset thing, it can be easy to ignore stronger pain as well. If it hurts a lot, you are doing damage and need to stop. Remember to check in with your body occasionally to see how it's doing.
     
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    I agree with surfer - stay away from enemas. If you have an inkling there's going to be anal just make sure you go to the bathroom before you go to the bedroom. And don't eat anything gross before your date - like microwavable chimichangas or some shit like that. A healthy diet leads to a clean pooper and a fit body. So kill two birds with one stone.

    As for preparing:

    1) Condoms and lube. Looooots of lube, especially if it's your first time.
    2) A towel or two. Real towels. Paper towels are for dirt bags; real towels say you're serious about your partner.
    3) Find a comfortable position: Good starter positions tend to be on the side and on the back.
    4) Remember to breathe and relax. Take it slow.
    5) Apply and reapply lube frequently.
    6) Don't freak out if it's not working. Give it a rest and try again in a couple of minutes, or try again another day. 99.99999999% of the time things are going out your ass, so don't be surprised if your body takes a while to get used to things going up it.
    7) Do not hammer away at it like porn stars on your first time. Your ass (or his ass) is new at this, so be gentle :)

    Have fun, dude.
     
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    Interesting, Petite. Like you, when a previous girlfriend and I were interested in exploring anal sex for me, we used dildos of increasing size as well. (She had a considerable collection, so it was easy for us.) While our goal wasn't to just stretch my ass out to take something big immediately, our steps were the same: small and thin, then small and thicker, then longer and thin, etc... (As a side note, the goal for us was ultimately "how big can you take, SHR1125?")

    These tips are great, though. Just like exercising, rest periods must be built in so as to allow muscles to relax. I've taken some large phalluses in my ass before and when anal play was a part of our "routine," it was just as you mentioned: bigger ones tended to slip right in and they would only take a minute or so to adjust to. However, I will say that without constant anal play, DON'T try to go back to that size which you last used...

    SHR
     
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    Anal sex is worthless to me. It's sodomy...imo.
    To each their own, but not my cup of tea.
     
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    The showers in Europe are great for this. American baths have the shower heads built into the walls but Euro showers are mounted on the wall so that you can remove it and shower with it not just under it. In any case, the shower head can be removed from the hose and it's great for cleaning your ass. I've done it with just warm water, period. No soaps etc, just warm water. Works great. But don't do it too often. It will dry out the mucous membrane and could lead to damage or infection. The mucous membrane is there for a reason, as mentioned here.
     
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    question: do you enjoy blow jobs? hand jobs? reverse cow girl? hell, any position that's not missionary?

    all of those are sodomy. unless you're being satirical, and i didn't catch it =/
     
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    Sodomy... yes, that's why it's so great. Sodomy... that's so funny! It's kind of odd to me that someone on the Large Penis Support Group web site would then throw around an ancient biblical term like sodomy.

    Dude you are here with a huge group of sodomites.

    Just so you know... in legal terms, sodomy means oral sex too. It's mean anything that the religious right decides that other people shouldn't be allowed to do, but that they do everyday.
     
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    In general, I agree with a lot of what has been said above. In my experience it all comes down to diet, washing out with water and especially relaxing. Resistance and tension can make anal sex very painful. Consciously relaxing and opening to your partner can turn the experience to something that feels like one long extended orgasm!
     
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