Lex said:
It's really kind of telling that you asked me to talk about this in PM, then after I thought we came to an understanding, you posted this (including the Moderator jab).
Wow.
First off
thank you Kotchanski.
It's been interesting to see this thing misconstrued in every possible way to make me a villain who would deny women their varying sexual interests. For the life of me I cannot begin (now having had a night to sleep on it) to see where that erroneous interpretation that I thought women shouldn't have/enjoy anal sex came from.. It's very baffling. It's obvious that people are very touchy about their assholes. :tongue:
To Rawbone?
To address your post here and the phenomenon I witness in this society I'll say this. I don't (of necessity) expect you to see it since it's an assumed with many heterosexual men. However with many straight women who use gay men to listen to their complaints about you guys I can assure the phenomenon is serious and it's not appreciated by a significant portion of them.
I previously referred to a sitcom where I recently heard "oh you know the
right kind of threesome". You realize Rawbone they were subliminally referencing the male-female-female variety.. effectively implying that the female-male-male one was the "
wrong kind".
I hope that clarifies the thing for you.
It's pervasive in society and Kotchanski's reference to consoling women who've been pressured into the "new age of open seuxality for women" (where the same does
not apply to men) is exactly the bias to which I addressed (and do still) my concerns. Again many women are being placed in yet another place of compromising subservience to men for - to me- what we can only call the "heterosexual male standard".
It's this phenomenon which is the genesis of the term "Lesbian chic" where you have none for the gay males in our ranks.
Do I think all heterosexual males are guilty of it? No. Do I think it's pervasive however? Yes. It's been my experience.
To Lex-
We didn't have anything more than our usual Stronzo-versus-Lex power struggle in pm. You'll recall I'd asked you, in your moderator capacity, to mollify the gang mentality I saw going on here just now. You simply didn't address the request. As for your last and most recent pm? I never got it since it was (honestly) deleted when I entirely cleaned out my pm box last night.
There was no understanding there. I've repeatedly asked three rather aggressive posters (Gisella, Surfergirl, and SassyLisa) to kindly understand my intent. On each occasion they refused to really read what I'd said and understand it now matter how high I attempted to keep the level of discourse in several of my replies to rather nasty comments on all their parts (no pun intended).
Further directly to Lex:
Since our first negative volley way back when you took exception to my stance with regard to the veiled racism thread you've been on watch with me. I've tried twice now in pm over the last few months to mend our fences with heartfelt sentiments of reconciliation which you've opted to ignore as is your right. But it "ain't for a lack 'o trying". That much is certain.
I (obligatory criticism and complaints from alex8 duly noted and notwithstanding) opened this thread to help better clarify my view since I thought those three posters had "copped an attitude" about my stance in things on the other thread since I'd repeatedly stated and restated I posted the now-infamous post as an exaggeration for effect. I thought it was extremely clear in it's presentation and verbiage.
But I've been over that enough.
Just so everyone can know Lex my only real issue with you is that you appear to enjoy ruling with an iron fist which (by the nature of both of our strong personalities) precludes any real connection between us. It's fine. We don't need to be friendly. The pivotal difference is (as you've demonstrated in the past) you'll kick my ass out of here if you decide I have violated your terms of board protocol .
It's kind of an "I don't really like Stronzo or his views so I think since I have the power to smack him down I'll use it" kind of thing.
If I saw you apply those rules (even and if not the board rules) with equal application across the board I'd be fine with it. But such has not been my observation.
dxjnorto brings up a very germane point:
The "Stronzo was banned??!!" thread was begun by faceking who did so while I was in banned status and you, as moderator, allowed that thing to stay there
intact for the entire time I could not access this board. I think it was a montrous mistake that you allowed those in our ranks who find ... let's say... my personality "too big" to have at me for all that while. I was unable to respond and it should have been pulled.
For me Lex it said one thing loud and clear: "I'll ban him because I cannot make him comply with
my rules and once Stronzo's unable to access this board I'll let them take pot shots at him ad infinitum."
To that I'll respond with your own word "Wow".
What could have been your motivation for allowing that thing to stay open as a thread?
Beyond that you're pretty much the "resident mod" here. And God help anyone who doesn't cater to you on several levels. I think it's abuse of power and I think we all need to take a long hard look to see if the board's becoming the "LLPSG" (Large Lex Penis Support Group) rather than any facsimile of reasonable posting board where the rules are applied fairly and equally to all posters.
I have no quarrel in particular with you other than I don't think we like one another very well. Beyond that it was always my sense we could co-exist if (esp. after you banned me for those three days) I stayed clear of you. But you (as is your right as a poster) "shout me down" with the best of them.
The fly in the ointment is responding to you since I have personal experience with incurring the Wrath of Lex. Your hand can come down with a slam that can remove access to this place without benefit of a reason or an explanation while others (equally offensive in this regard like faceking) are allowed to bash at will. I saw that as pretty telling in its incongruity and personal bias.
But it is, undoubtedly, an inherent problem with moderator status per se since you're bound to have those with whom you feel a connection and those you don't. That's why I found Lordpendragon's thread about moderator elections pretty damned interesting.
For those of you who'll now say I'm grand-standing or being narcissistic about this thing? I am. I'm able to take my fair share of criticism and respond in kind. In fact I stiffled much of what Gisella deserved when she began to personalize our fray on the other thread.
But quite honestly you all had a piece of my gay ass in the now-finally-closed "
Stronzo is banned??!!" thread. So let's just call this display of personal sentiment "a little of my own back".
After all is said and done and the crap that was copied and pasted from that thread and emailed to me by my board friends I guess I'm due at least that.
Have a nice day.